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I've never felt this used.

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by Connemara, Oct 19, 2011.

  1. VelvetGreen

    VelvetGreen Senior member

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    No. No. No. No.

    Sechs first, talk afterwards, never anything emotional, ever. Golden rule in iffy situations. Otherwise there is a risk of her actually starting to think about stuff, and then she acts on those thoughts, and that always goes wrong.

    The simple solution is to use subtle emotional blackmail on these girls. They can dish it out but they can't take it.
     
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  2. whiteslashasian

    whiteslashasian Senior member

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    Conne got "Conne'd" again. What's new here?

    The situation sucks and it does seem to happen to him often, but the boy doesn't do himself any favors.

    You knew about the other dude, either you back off immediately or go in guns blazing. This middle of the road crap gets you stuck with us on SF rather than pounding a 30-something silly during all hours of the night.
     
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  3. DerekS

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    nope. he'll be latched on to some other girl whos "kinda taken" next week. cest la vie
     
  4. dhc905

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    23 to 30 is a pretty large gap. I'm not sure any self-respecting (perhaps that's the key) 30 y/o is dating a 23 y/o.

    7 years not such a big deal when you're over 30, but she does make a good point re: age gap.
     
  5. VelvetGreen

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    Gold.
     
  6. whiteslashasian

    whiteslashasian Senior member

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    As a former 22 who briefly a 30, I agree for the most part.

    However it sounds like Conne has a better connection with this lady than I did with mine, which was more physical than anything;at least I got there! :laugh:
     
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  7. Ambulance Chaser

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    You're putting the cart before the horse. How is Conne going to get teh sechs without talking? The problem here is that this woman wants to hook up with Conne (let's put aside the question of why), but doesn't want to cheat on her "kind of" boyfriend. I think Conne's best play is to avoid pressuring her to break it off with this guy, and to let her know he digs her and wants to spend time with her. Of course, once they get together Conne has to turn the sechsy up and let her know that he's not here to be a shoulder to cry on.
     
  8. Harold falcon

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    Ok, are you doing this for the bit? You just want to see Conne continue to fail, yes? If so, I fully endorse this post.
     
  9. LawrenceMD

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    you got dicked around by the girl...

    she's being dicked around by the guy who texted and eventually fucked her.

    I hate to say it... the only reason she's in a relationship with you is that she can dick you around in the same magnitude to make herself feel better (and in control).

    23yo and she's 30? thats actually a HUGE gap in maturity and biological clock wise. if you do end up in a serious relationship she'll eventually be 35 and you'll be 28. Everything is down hill (physically) for her and you're just entering the physical prime.

    I'm so glad I got married early and its working out. Thank you god.
     
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  10. Connemara

    Connemara Senior member

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    I guess you're right. I've been trying to deny that. Ugh.
     
  11. VelvetGreen

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    I'm sorry, did I FTFY? Ahem.
     
  12. VelvetGreen

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    You're the prize, Conne.

    You're the prize.

    And you have your own apartament.
     
  13. mgm9128

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    Come on, dude. 7 years isn't a big deal. I've been out with a 30 year old before, and that is 10 years older than me. If you care about her and are genuinely interested, who cares about age? Anyways, older women are much more interesting, in my opinion.
     
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  14. Piobaire

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    Thread just got epic.
     
  15. Gibonius

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    There's a pretty big difference between short term dating / sex and a long term relationship.
     
  16. LawrenceMD

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    Prejudicate Goth St.
    [COLOR=FF00AA]I LOVE ANAGRAMS[/COLOR] :teach:
     
  17. mgm9128

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    Well, I had just assumed that Conne was looking for someone a bit different than what you normally find at our age level. If they are truly compatible, I don't see why it couldn't work.
     
  18. ysc

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    This.

    You are the guy she is using to make the guy she is interested in jealous, and to make her feel better about him messing her around. She was texting him when you were getting trying to get sexxy with her? I think that says it all. I won't tolerate someone texting while I was having dinner with them, if we were in bed it would lead to the immediate expulsion of her or the phone.

    Walk away Conne.
     
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  19. HelloIDistance

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    Come on man...you buttered her up and this other guy reaps the benefit lol. You gotta be better than that.
     
  20. globetrotter

    globetrotter Senior member

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    I actually just remebered a good story - when I was 18 I was living on a kibbutz with some friends. I was fooling around with a girl, and then I had to go to work (I worked nights) so I lift the girl in my bed. the next day my roomate says "you'll never guess what happened, I got back from work and this girl was waiting in our room and I fucked her".
     

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