Is my outfit funeral appropriate?

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  1. CharlesAlexander

    CharlesAlexander Senior member

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    A friend of a friend passed away last yesterday and the funerals is going to be later today (yes he's Jewish). I'm going there straight from work and I don't want to change if I don't have too. I'm wearing a light grey suit, with a white shirt, the tie in my icon and light brown shoes.

    Should I go home and change or what?
     
  2. Manton

    Manton RINO Dubiously Honored

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    I would not say all black, but black shoes and black tie, certainly. However, this is a rule rarely observed and never enforced. From personal experience, and from reading SF, I have learned that people will wear absolutely anything to a funeral.

    For me it's always a dark gray suit, white shirt, black tie, and black shoes.
     
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    the tie in my icon.

    Should I go home and change or what?


    Yes, as I'd say the tie is too much.

    PS V. sorry for your loss.
     
  4. Margaret

    Margaret Senior member

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    Even if it's a bit inconvenient, if it's at all possible to change, do so. Last respects and all that.
     
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    tlmusic Senior member

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    I am very sorry to hear about your loss. As Manton said, black tie and black shoes are "correct" and respectful. However, the more important thing is your attendence and support. The clothes are secondary to your intentions.
     
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    Another vote for change. The tie is very nice, but to light-hearted for a funeral. Sorry for your loss.
     
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    Victor123 Well-Known Member

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    The suit would be ok but the tie must absolutely be changed.
     
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    IMO you will be fine and I'm Jewish. The chances of someone noting or finding your attire inappropriate is slim.

    See here for a great thread on the very subject.

    Note: After thinking it over, I guess you might want to change the tie if it's convenient to do so. I always keep spare ties at the office and this reminds me why that is a good idea.
     
  9. Manton

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    If you are going to change (something I recommend) I also would change out of the tan shoes.
     
  10. CharlesAlexander

    CharlesAlexander Senior member

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    I think I am going to go home and chamge to a dark blue tie and black shoes then.

    I supppose it would be too much for me to drop my business card in the coffin as well, huh?
     
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    Manton RINO Dubiously Honored

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    I supppose it would be too much for me to drop my business card in the coffin as well, huh?
    If it's an open casket, and your slight of hand is good, go for it. Under no circumstances should you open the casket yourself.
     
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    rnoldh Senior member

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    If it's an open casket, and your slight of hand is good, go for it. Under no circumstances should you open the casket yourself.

    Manton,

    Sometimes it's hard to discern just how dry your wit is.

    Have you ever seen or heard of someone doing this at a funeral?
     
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    I think I am going to go home and chamge to a dark blue tie and black shoes then.


    IMO this is a good move. Sorry for your loss.
     
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    SkinnyGoomba Senior member

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    Charles, sorry to hear about your loss.
     
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    Charles,

    I agree you are correct to change. I too prefer a navy or dark gray suit and black tie/shoes. I have a particular black tie for that only comes out for funerals.

    But like Manton wrote in his first post, folks wear just about anything to funerals these days. Any effort on your part to show respect through your dress will be appreciated - if not by those at the funeral (who will obviously be preoccupied) than by those of us who still give a damn about the subtleties of life.
     

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