Is life after really that terrible?

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  1. ClarkKent

    ClarkKent Well-Known Member

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    ***Excuse the typo, I meant to say life after college. My day got really messed up recently because a huge thunderstorm cancelled the plans I had for the night and something is bothering me right now.****

    So I have about 1 more year left of college (a bit more depending on how the scheduling works out) and I have been reading a bit on this. Mixed opinions but the general consensus tends to be that life after college is miserable because:

    - you won't make any friends after college (only people who can financially benefit from you)
    - dating life will be hell (not as many attractive girls as you would see in college towns)
    - work will wear you down and out so after work the only thing you can do is sleep

    Those are the three things I have heard said but since there is an older crowd on here I guess I could get more opinions, stories, and experiences.
     
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  2. Gibonius

    Gibonius Senior member

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    FFS man. You have 20 posts and all of them are dripping with misery and low self confidence.

    I love my life since college. Wouldn't go back for the world. Plenty of money, enough time for my hobbies, a job I like, etc. College was great too but it was a fun four years and you move on. I've grown way too much since then to enjoy a college world anymore, would go batshit in that environment now.


    Keep in mind, college life is a fantasy. You're living on either your parents' money or on debt, in some tightly regulated environment without the stresses of real life. Enjoy it while it lasts, then find ways to enjoy the rest of your life. Might as well wish you could go back to being 2 because it's too hard to shit and then wipe your own ass.
     
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  3. HRoi

    HRoi Senior member

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    dedicating oneself to a life of masturbation is a viable option, or so I hear
     


  4. ClarkKent

    ClarkKent Well-Known Member

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    not all of them are dripping with misery and low self confidence but I want to know why people make life after college to be a horror story
     


  5. Gibonius

    Gibonius Senior member

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    Because people are entitled little fairies and don't want to grow up and deal with life.
     


  6. David Copeland

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    Principles first, choices second, decisions third . . .

    You could have started making friends when you were a freshman. Perhaps you should consider staying on for a Masters or a pHD to obtain a solid base of the right choice of friends - chosen within the principles you have for yourself.


    If your principle is to find plenty of attractive girls - based on you having attractive principles - then you will never be without plenty of choices for attractive girls. And when you begin to qualify yourself with attractive principles, the circles you will be invited into will be 9 attractive girls to every guy. (seriously)


    If you develop your principles for the profession you want (which may dictate the hours and days expected the first few years), you could very likely not have to work like a farmer from 3:00 AM to 7:00 PM seven days a week (although many farmers can work fewer days). Your principles will provide you with the choices of career that are deserving of the principle you choose. If you want a degree in business so you can open and run a shopping center store, then expect long hours and being on call every day. If you choose accounting, law, engineering, and many other various professions - then you could very likely keep your work week down to Monday thru Friday days, with evenings and weekends off.

    Your principles and the choices you end up choosing could mean the difference between "doing what you love" or "doing what you have to do".

    All my best,

    David
     


  7. acidboy

    acidboy Senior member

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    to answer the op: yes it is. life ceases to be amazing after college. nothing will ever replace the joie de vivre of years spent in a university. nothing. once you type the first letter in your first resume, life becomes a dark hell hole of existence surrounded by vapid and shallow people, empty relationships, parasitic family members and self entitled offsprings. you will become one of them that you look down upon as a free spirit in college. you will compromise all your ideals, refuse yourself all the pleasures in life and accept the fact that you will just be another faceless cog in the wheel. you will become the male real life equivalent of the hot chick dancing in a whitesnake video.
     


  8. JayJay

    JayJay Senior member

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    If your life after college is full of misery and doom, then you are doing it wrong. It's while you're in college that you prepare yourself for an improved life on all dimensions. If you don't, then you've wasted your time and money. Your best years are after college, or certainly should be. I wouldn't take anything for where I am now, and every year after college has been better than the year before. YMMV.
     


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    Joffrey Senior member

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    OP, life after college is what you make of it.
     


  10. HelloIDistance

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    I am 2 years removed from college. I hated my first year out, but that was because I hated my job. I came from a large university and was used to having lots of people around that I could interact with. After college, I worked at a smallish public accounting firm and wanted to blow my brains out. The people sucked, the job sucked, the suburb city sucked, and the hours sucked. Now I work in an urban environment, work with awesome people who I actually want to hangout with outside of work, and I work even more hours. I always hated the term "work hard, play hard", but now I feel like its what I do. I love it ;)

    PS. Accounting sucks.
    PSS. To the guy who said you would work a normal mon- fri in accounting, engineering, and law. What planet do you live on? Try 70 hours a week 6-7 days a week ;)
     


  11. David Copeland

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    My goodness . . . I see why some folks get so discouraged over life when reading the rants of those on websites. Perhaps they too should get a profession they love and stop whining.

    My father grew up on a Kansas farm in the same school district where Dwight Eisenhower was his chum. They both served in two world wars, my father an Air Force Colonel in Korea while Ike went on to become President. That said, working 12-14 hours a day farming was both a blessing and a hardship. My father then went to college before enlisting in WW 1. He then "chose his profession" and never minded the hours because he loved it (who's counting when you're in love?)

    Later he was able to add other interests in his life (like my mother and the birth of my brother and myself) . . . and he chose to balance his work week down to 8 hours a day and weekends off. That did not change his work ethic, as he still had the same 168 hours a week all of us have to choose what to do about it. He just filled his cup with other interests.

    For professionals who choose to work 40 hours a week, they also choose what to do with the remaining hours to give their lives joy and purpose.

    High School and College are the working labs for what life will be after the launch into family, profession, and other pursuits. My father-in-law was one of the engineers which put the first man on the moon. He and others used the working labs of their time and efforts in order to enjoy the fruits of their hard work upon the launch of that rocket.

    For others, I suggest reading some very worthwhile blueprints of how to pick yourself up and get going on a road to joy. Leaders are readers. Leaders are also doers of action. And all of it is based on your principles, and less on what is presented to you in offers. (everyone has offers)
     


  12. munchausen

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    There are some strange souls on this board.
     


  13. JLibourel

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    I often dream I am back in college. I am very relieved to wake up and find I'm not. Frankly, I found college pretty stressful, what with constant exams, papers and whatnot and grad school even worse--it was a such a "make or break affair." Once I got into journalism, I was definitely happier, and I am happier yet to be retired.

    Speaking of such dreams, I had a dream the other night that I was going to have to take a final in an Arabic course, and I hadn't even learned the alphabet yet. (I cannot read the Arabic alphabet in real life, BTW.)
     


  14. David Copeland

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    Good for you.

    As for dreams, I gave up watching a film before falling asleep. My wife and I now read a few chapters from selected books from our library. It helps with having interesting and stress-free dreams (unless it is Stephen King).

    Arabic? Perhaps it was a dream about your future in the hereafter where you would be required to speak and understand a middle eastern language.

    Here is one that was located in the Middle East about 200 years ago in an Egyptian tomb, then was shipped to England, and eventually found it's way to America in which parts of it are in the Book of Abraham as an English Translation:

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  15. Andrea123

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    Relax!!I am going to graduate from my college.However,I have worked for several month.campared with your frustration,I am looking forward to my life after college.it is a life completely different with the life in school.even though it is what you said.who cares?attitude is everthing!No pain, No gain.how meaningful it is! so,enjoy it!
     


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