is it so strange for a guy to want to cuddle?

Discussion in 'Social Life, Food & Drink, Travel' started by wilson brother, Aug 1, 2006.

  1. wilson brother

    wilson brother Senior member

    Messages:
    467
    Likes Received:
    2
    Joined:
    Jul 13, 2006
    danny wilson,

    please sate my curiosity. just where are you exactly, and how old are you?


    Hay man-

    I don't want my cuddling problem to become a national issue..for my age I am 25 [​IMG]
     


  2. denimdestroyedmylife

    denimdestroyedmylife Big Winner

    Messages:
    4,649
    Likes Received:
    4
    Joined:
    Mar 20, 2006
    Perhaps you could still enjoy your girl and cuddle elsewhere... I don't think that counts as cheating b/c no fluids are exchanged.
     


  3. visionology

    visionology Senior member

    Messages:
    1,698
    Likes Received:
    1
    Joined:
    Mar 10, 2006
    Location:
    CT
    cuddle with her best friend
     


  4. Joffrey

    Joffrey Senior member

    Messages:
    11,467
    Likes Received:
    598
    Joined:
    Jun 18, 2006
    Location:
    Pennsylvania Ave/Connecticut Ave
    If you cut her off sexually she will get it from somewhere else. Anyway she is probably annoyed by your needyness. Im going to generalize and say girls dont tend to like being the one always giving out the reassurances. Even better mull your problems around in your head and talk it over with a good friend or two. Then slowly move forward with them. That'll get her attention.
     


  5. montecristo#4

    montecristo#4 Senior member

    Messages:
    12,263
    Likes Received:
    18
    Joined:
    Jan 7, 2004
    Location:
    Reagan Country (Massachusetts)
    If you cut her off sexually she will get it from somewhere else. Anyway she is probably annoyed by your needyness.

    I was joking about cutting her off.

    What I seriously recommend you do is treat her the way she is treating you for a while, but even a bit more extremely. Just act like you are using her for sex for a while. Have sex with her and when you're done, walk out of the room and turn on ESPN. Significantly reduce the affection you shower on her. In her screwed up little female mind, this will very likely leave her wanting more affection than ever.
     


  6. lawyerdad

    lawyerdad Senior member

    Messages:
    22,433
    Likes Received:
    7,599
    Joined:
    Mar 10, 2006
    I was joking about cutting her off.

    What I seriously recommend you do is treat her the way she is treating you for a while, but even a bit more extremely. Just act like you are using her for sex for a while. Have sex with her and when you're done, walk out of the room and turn on ESPN. Significantly reduce the affection you shower on her. In her screwed up little female mind, this will very likely leave her wanting more affection than ever.

    Not that I claim to be an expert, but imho this "punishment" approach is not likely to be effective despite its superficial appeal - and in a circumstances where it was I'd question how healthy the relationship really was . . .
     


  7. denimdestroyedmylife

    denimdestroyedmylife Big Winner

    Messages:
    4,649
    Likes Received:
    4
    Joined:
    Mar 20, 2006
    You are a genius!

    Better yet, after coitus, head straight to your Pet Sounds box set and play the instrumental versions loudly and ejaculate: THE SLEIGH BELLS! THE SLEIGH BELLS!!!
     


  8. itsmeJT

    itsmeJT Active Member

    Messages:
    34
    Likes Received:
    0
    Joined:
    Jul 17, 2006
    drop the neediness

    women don't want your problems and they don't want to be involved with guys who they think are projects. keep it up and she'll leave ya ass.
     


  9. wilson brother

    wilson brother Senior member

    Messages:
    467
    Likes Received:
    2
    Joined:
    Jul 13, 2006
    cuddle with her best friend

    [​IMG] her best friend is her brother..I don't think this is a good idea [​IMG]
     


  10. wilson brother

    wilson brother Senior member

    Messages:
    467
    Likes Received:
    2
    Joined:
    Jul 13, 2006
    drop the neediness

    women don't want your problems and they don't want to be involved with guys who they think are projects. keep it up and she'll leave ya ass.


    Im going to California soon so..if she doesnt agree to come I guess i'll be the one leaving her..

    To the other guys-

    thanks for the advice here..I think some of it will help [​IMG] . I like that Pet Sounds tune "Don't Talk..(put your head on my shoulder)" but sometimes I just need to tell my problems to the girl I love.. is this really so bad for a relationship [​IMG]? Im there to listen to her when she fights with her family..or the boss is being a mean guy [​IMG] I get angry when I here someone causing her troubles..

    I just want some of that same tender consideration.



    -Danny Wilson
     


  11. odoreater

    odoreater Senior member

    Messages:
    8,739
    Likes Received:
    43
    Joined:
    Mar 2, 2005
    Location:
    Elizabethtown
    Not that I claim to be an expert, but imho this "punishment" approach is not likely to be effective despite its superficial appeal - and in a circumstances where it was I'd question how healthy the relationship really was . . .

    Yeah, but at least then he'd be acting like a man, which, might make his woman respect him a little more and therefore will get her to pay a little more attention to him. And if not, at least he will have his dignity as a man.
     


  12. Margaret

    Margaret Senior member

    Messages:
    1,296
    Likes Received:
    0
    Joined:
    Apr 7, 2006
    Why are you even with this woman? Sounds like a miserable relationship. All good relationships require effort, but they shouldn't be full of struggle, manipulation, mindgames and constant guessing to try to figure out what the hell is going on inside the other person's head. Life is too damned short, and the world too damned full of women to be constantly wasting time and emotional energy on all that nonsense. [​IMG]
     


  13. wilson brother

    wilson brother Senior member

    Messages:
    467
    Likes Received:
    2
    Joined:
    Jul 13, 2006
    Yeah, but at least then he'd be acting like a man, which, might make his woman respect him a little more and therefore will get her to pay a little more attention to him. And if not, at least he will have his dignity as a man.

    Whats this acting like a man all about [​IMG] ?
     


  14. odoreater

    odoreater Senior member

    Messages:
    8,739
    Likes Received:
    43
    Joined:
    Mar 2, 2005
    Location:
    Elizabethtown
    Whats this acting like a man all about [​IMG] ?

    Don't take this the wrong way, but, I have a feeling that this girl is giving you the cold shoulder because you don't act like a man. Women want to feel secure and have a guy that is going to protect them and be there for them and be the one who is going to be strong and stable when things get rough. They don't want some guy who wants to sit there cuddling all the time and moaning and whining about his problems. Sure, there has to be an emotional attachment and there are times when sensitivity is required, but your woman just wants to know that she is with a man, not some over-sensitive needy whiny unstable kid that just wants to cuddle and talk about his problems.
     


  15. shellshock

    shellshock Forum Mascot

    Messages:
    1,125
    Likes Received:
    2
    Joined:
    Jun 6, 2005
    Location:
    Los Angeles
    relationships are overrated. [​IMG]
     


Share This Page

Styleforum is proudly sponsored by