Is a relationship doomed after "moving out"?

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by Eason, Aug 5, 2009.

  1. grundletaint

    grundletaint Senior member

    Messages:
    5,216
    Likes Received:
    397
    Joined:
    Dec 27, 2007
    a relationship is doomed the day it begins.


    i decided to move out of my last live-in situation and we broke up within a week. once it's brought up, there's really no turning back. even if you finagle something now, she still meows, and it'll come up again soon. move out and get some strange.
     


  2. CunningSmeagol

    CunningSmeagol Senior member

    Messages:
    3,933
    Likes Received:
    17
    Joined:
    Oct 15, 2006
    Location:
    New York
    Personally, that's not for me...but I can generally see the upside to it, cos those boys typically have the hottest wife in the room...goal achieved, and the girls tend to be pretty low maintenance...so whatever, good for you man. Those boys are often previously divorced and appreciate the value of low maintenance arm candy. I talked about this a lot with my most recent ex. She was American Vietnamese, and I think, in all honesty, I am sworn of local chicks after being with her.

    Divorced and you still call them 'boys'?
     


  3. HORNS

    HORNS Senior member

    Messages:
    15,186
    Likes Received:
    3,053
    Joined:
    Apr 24, 2008
    Location:
    Waiting for Saturday to Come
    Eason, she must be a superb piece of ass for you to be tormented over this. I, personally, would not tolerate such a large intellectual disconnect. She may be smart as hell, but you guys just aren't on the same plane.

    Deep conversations are overrated anyways . . .


    . . .not really.
     


  4. Piobaire

    Piobaire Not left of center?

    Messages:
    50,303
    Likes Received:
    13,561
    Joined:
    Dec 5, 2006
    Location:
    In My Douchemobile
    Best advice I can give you is, the day she moves out, have the locks changed. True story.
     


  5. Dakota rube

    Dakota rube Senior member

    Messages:
    14,506
    Likes Received:
    193
    Joined:
    Jan 14, 2005
    Location:
    A bit better than yesterday, all day vomiting for
    ...and inside her mind, I think there's just like a song that goes "meow meow meow meow meow meow" while she clogs up my drain with rice or something.

    That's quite demeaning. Let her go.
    Best advice I can give you is, the day she moves out, have the locks changed. True story.

    Yes.
     


  6. Etienne

    Etienne Senior member

    Messages:
    4,666
    Likes Received:
    22
    Joined:
    Mar 10, 2006
    Location:
    Paris
    1. You are making a few too many allusions to trying guys lately. Like, we all joke about it here n there, but there is kind of a point at which you either are gonna have to be out with it, or give it some serious thought and make a call one way or another...
    Why do you have to make a call one way or another? Better to keep your options open.

    What if we manage to finagle a non-moving out situation?
    I'd try that before anything else.

    Best advice I can give you is, the day she moves out, have the locks changed. True story.
    I can certainly relate to that.
     


  7. Jumbie

    Jumbie Senior member

    Messages:
    4,136
    Likes Received:
    3
    Joined:
    Nov 19, 2007
    Location:
    127.0.0.1
    She's perfect except we don't seem to ever have any long deep conversations, that was kind of the issue. My mind is always going, and inside her mind, I think there's just like a song that goes "meow meow meow meow meow meow" while she clogs up my drain with rice or something.
    Maybe I'm a closet misogynist but that made me lol. Anyway, joining the chorus that says it's over. And that's not just cause she's moving out but due to the addition of the other stuff you've said in this thread. Time to move on.
     


  8. Douglas

    Douglas Stupid ass member

    Messages:
    14,658
    Likes Received:
    2,291
    Joined:
    Aug 17, 2007
    Location:
    Purseforum
    Well the person kind of seeing somebody is me, but it's just a close friend- a friend who I can communicate on the same level with. She's saying I need time and space, but my thinking was that as long as I have *somebody* to connect with emotionally, it's okay- your S/O can't replace every friend in your life, naturally.

    Good question. She has a BF of 6 years, but has hinted at dumping him for me. But do I want a girl who will stay with me for 6 years and dump me for somebody better?

    double-yoo tee efff
     


  9. ZackyBoy

    ZackyBoy Senior member

    Messages:
    758
    Likes Received:
    0
    Joined:
    Apr 30, 2009
    Her moving out is her way of moving towards a breakup but not able to do it quite yet. She is just making baby steps. Help her out with a shove.
     


  10. Get Smart

    Get Smart Don't Crink

    Messages:
    12,158
    Likes Received:
    67
    Joined:
    Oct 27, 2004
    Location:
    A town called Malice
    arent asian girls in asia generally unable to have "deep conversations"?
     


  11. SField

    SField Senior member

    Messages:
    6,278
    Likes Received:
    23
    Joined:
    Oct 19, 2008
    The live-in GF of 6 months has decided it's best if she gives me some space and moves out of the apartment, so we can both have independent social lives. In my experience, that's pretty much a death sentence to the relationship- I don't know when we'd see each other except maybe 30 minutes at lunch if we didn't live together. Thoughts?

    P.S. and obviously, if there's hardly any sex after moving out, then I just might as well break up with her.


    There are rain puddles deeper than this relationship.
     


  12. texas_jack

    texas_jack Senior member

    Messages:
    10,257
    Likes Received:
    477
    Joined:
    Aug 4, 2006
    Location:
    Hobart, IN
    Well the person kind of seeing somebody is me, but it's just a close friend- a friend who I can communicate on the same level with. She's saying I need time and space, but my thinking was that as long as I have *somebody* to connect with emotionally, it's okay- your S/O can't replace every friend in your life, naturally.

    You seem to be a serial relationshiper. If I was you i'd stay away from women for a little bit or at least stick to random NSA sex for awhile.
     


  13. Eason

    Eason Bicurious Racist

    Messages:
    14,669
    Likes Received:
    1,901
    Joined:
    Feb 20, 2007
    Location:
    Bangkok
    Serial relationshipper, eh? Well we talked about the issues and I made it pretty clear that she needs to focus on things other than me, so I'll see where it goes but I won't hold my breath.
     


  14. Joffrey

    Joffrey Senior member

    Messages:
    11,415
    Likes Received:
    591
    Joined:
    Jun 18, 2006
    Location:
    Pennsylvania Ave/Connecticut Ave
    Connecting on an intellectual level is one very important factor in relationships[...]

    Not if she's hot and dirty enough.
     


  15. Eason

    Eason Bicurious Racist

    Messages:
    14,669
    Likes Received:
    1,901
    Joined:
    Feb 20, 2007
    Location:
    Bangkok
    Maybe I'm a closet misogynist but that made me lol.

    Anyway, joining the chorus that says it's over. And that's not just cause she's moving out but due to the addition of the other stuff you've said in this thread. Time to move on.


    True story, that.

    Me: Honey, don't put anything down the sink drain in the kitchen, it clogs easily.

    -1 day later, sink is clogged-

    Me: Honey, do you remember when I said not to put anything down this drain? Because it will clog up? Is this your rice here, that's been pushed through the tiny holes?

    Her: *chases butterfly*
     


Share This Page

Styleforum is proudly sponsored by