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Infidelity in marriage (re: How to get over things your gf has done in the past.)

MetroStyles

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What % of American marriages do you think have had at least one partner transgress? For the purposes of this poll, transgress = touching private parts. Not necessarily sex. But simple making out would not be included as transgression.

Also, please assume at least a 5 year marriage. Obviously cheating is much less likely in the first year.

Include both marriages that result in divorce and also those that do not.
 

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Wat poll ? IBP
 

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Making out should be included. IMO, here's how you determine where the line is for you: if your partner was involved in this act, would you see red? If the answer is "yes," it's a transgression.
 

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Originally Posted by Piobaire
Making out should be included. IMO, here's how you determine where the line is for you: if your partner was involved in this act, would you see red? If the answer is "yes," it's a transgression.

Absolutely true, and I consider that cheating, but a lot of people do not (weirdly enough). I feel that the great majority of marriages have had someone make-out with a third party. It happens when people get drunk, if even for a second.

Going further than that is not quite so easy to accidentally fall into.
 

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Originally Posted by MetroStyles
Absolutely true, and I consider that cheating, but a lot of people do not (weirdly enough). I feel that the great majority of marriages have had someone make-out with a third party. It happens when people get drunk, if even for a second. Going further than that is not quite so easy to accidentally fall into.
Making out just seems relatively harmless. It's an enjoyable, gratifying experience, even if isn't particularly sexual. Hell, I'd be more worried about intimate messaging than just boaning someone else. One thing indicates some major issues with the relationship and would be an instant relationship death imo. The other just means that one needs to brush up on their sack skillzzz or that the guilty party just wants some variety/was drunk and horny. Edit: I am a firm believer in once a cheater, always a cheater, however.
 

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How many times have you found yourself making out with someone while intoxicated and not knowing how you ended up in this situation?
 

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"I did not have sexual relations with that woman!"
 

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Originally Posted by Listi
How many times have you found yourself making out with someone while intoxicated and not knowing how you ended up in this situation?

From 15-25? Almost weekly.
 

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Originally Posted by Listi
How many times have you found yourself making out with someone while intoxicated and not knowing how you ended up in this situation?

5 times tops. There are plenty times where it's a little hazy or I don't care, but very few blackout makeouts that I remember.
 

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Originally Posted by HgaleK
5 times tops. There are plenty times where it's a little hazy or I don't care, but very few blackout makeouts that I remember.

That's because you were blacked out.
 

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Originally Posted by Piobaire
That's because you were blacked out.

Really...
 

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I remember in my genetics class the prof was saying that at least 5% of people don't have the fathers they think they have. Some think that the number is more like 10%. That suggests the number of people messing around in marriage is quite significant.
 

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