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Discussion in 'Social Life, Food & Drink, Travel' started by itsstillmatt, Aug 1, 2011.

  1. Fuuma

    Fuuma Senior member

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    Would you walk around Hamburg saluting everyone you pass by? If you answer yes then you're a weirdo and invading your fellow citizens space and that's bad manners. In a countryside road where you meet a person every 5 hrs, ok.


    The golf thing just made it blatantly obvious Jerry Lewis the XIV has some online gentleman pretensions and he should chill, especially since he's 23 and golfing with 5 y/o kids.
     
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  2. b1os

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    I agree. In a small village, maybe a few hundred inhabitants tops it's about keeping your social network intact. In a big city it's kinda sensless and might be, as you pointed out, offending. One lives in big cities not only but also for anonymity. But sometimes it's too much anonymity. I feel like some of these people behave like robots, not giving a shit about anything, doing what they want to do without being aware of their surrounding. "If I don't step aside, the other will, if not, fuck him" If you had a tough day, okay, but don't wreak it on others by passive anger (or however one should call that). But I thing I've already pointed that out.
     
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    I think I said "Yes, Chef Trotter, I'll try to work on that sir."
    I was/am a bitch.
     
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    hahaha, well at least you learned.
     
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    on count one, I cannot comment since I do not own a car and haven't since college.

    on count two, I agree. Thanks to my other half, we've been comped some pretty great meals and we always tip a shit load. Usually far more than 20% on what would have been the bill.
     
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    I don't know about the golf thing, but I will back up my boys in Germany on their complaints regarding peoples' everyday manners, especially vis-a-vis strangers. One of the few things that nearly all Germans I know who have visited the US have remarked to me upon is how nice, friendly and polite strangers are toward one another in daily life - at the grocery store, on the sidewalk, etc. This is not an illusion. And it makes me wonder why if everybody finds it so great they don't just act nicer. But they do not. Walking around a typical German city you're greeted with blank stares past you or scowls. In a typical German village people will actually stare AT you, mouths agape, the pinnacle of provincial vulgarism. In my experience, the only place you can find people who smile and greet each other, and even (OMG) begin conversations with one another is in the mountains, particularly the alps.

    As for golf, it is in Germany an even more ridiculous game for young people to play than in the US. I believe that this predicament exists, as I am aware of several similar clubs. The reason these old farts are annoyed by your presence is that they've come to the golf club specifically to avoid people like you. You're lucky you've got white skin, I'll add.

    In any event my recommendation for your golf thing would be to just step up your game (clothing wise) and wear whatever everyone else is wearing.
     
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  8. Louis XIV

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    B1os, you missed the point. Americans are often accused of thinking in terms that are overly broad, not discerning differences amongst other countries. To create a scenario of the US culture vs. the "culture of Europe" is to commit that same error. The culture of southern Italy is far different from the culture of Denmark or Finland. This is what I was trying to point out to you.

    As to His Majesty I was merely pointing out his two pieces of data about this alleged golf club do no ad up. As the second was an attempt to rebut something I said earlier its incongruence leads me to believe he is making things up as he goes and cannot keep his imaginary creation consistent.
     
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  10. itsstillmatt

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    I can't think of anybody who could be at a lower status at a golf club than a person who refuses to follow the traditions of a sport that is so tradition based, no matter who his grand pappy was. It is almost the definition of barbarian to act as he claims to.
     
  11. Piobaire

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    Also, isn't it sort of stalker/creepy to go back to the clubhouse and see if a person you met on the course is a full member or yearly member? I wonder what the staff think of his repeatedly looking up this information with them?
     
  12. b1os

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    I think you missed the point, too. ;)
    I wasn't serious when I talked about the "differences" between US and European society. I just wanted to point out the problem I have with you guys bashing Louis XIV for his polite and helpful attitude. I didn't believe that in the US helpful and friendly people are seen as bad-mannered (because imo this is the key to any working society). I now understand that it was all about the golf thing, so never mind.
     
  13. Piobaire

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    No, your "point" is extraneous to what I just explained to you re: conflating European cultures and this is what Euros often accuse Americans of doing.
     
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    Honestly, I'm pretty sure that acting like a barbarian is the only way I could get through a round of golf with my sanity intact. I prefer my sports to give me a lot more instant gratification.
     
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    Wait a minute buddy, do not use the word "sport" and "golf" in the same sentence unless you are trying to contrast them.
     
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    Does that mean you golf in plus-fours?
     
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  17. Fuuma

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    Drunk/high golfing is the only way to cope. A nice game of "mutter insults under your breath in the clubhouse" is the best way to top it off.
     
  18. itsstillmatt

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    No, nor do I play with hickory shafts or a gutta percha ball. You are conflating the traditions with the trappings of time.
     
  19. Fuuma

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    Traditions evolve, don't be childish.
     
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    Ah, my bad. I assumed that polo shirts and those ugly shoes had been adopted as they were more practical and comfortable for golfing in than plus fours and tweed.

    I don't have a dog in this fight though, I don't play golf. If the club has a dress code, even an unspoken one he should probably stick to it.


    I am very bored. I can't help myself.
     
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