In this thread you ask how to behave in restaurants and other locations, and people who have been ou

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  1. patrickBOOTH

    patrickBOOTH Senior member Dubiously Honored

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    Or anus for next, next level effect.
     
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    i assumed, you were talking about the u.s.
     
  3. Piobaire

    Piobaire Not left of center?

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    Those situations are so dynamic I really don't know what I would do. I can list some scenarios, like I did, but you really just never know the outcome. Sometimes friendships have been made from those moments and sometimes people end up in the hospital. I'm sure you've been in similar stuations as I have where the right comment diffuses things and drinks get bought and other times the donnybrook happens. I think the douche might have targetted Nay for his size (if I'm correct about his stature) and that's super douchey. I've always subscribed to the thought that if you're looking for a fight be a man and make it a challenge.
     
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  4. lefty

    lefty Senior member

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    I'd agree normally, but due to the postion of the tables his feet were about 1 metre from my wife and directly in her view. I could have asked the hostess to deal with it but it appeared that she wouldn't so I chose to be polite and ask him to take his feet off the chair.

    Could have gone for the axe that I keep in my truck, but as I said it was kind of a nice place and a blood letting seemed unwarranted.

    lefty
     
  5. HomerJ

    HomerJ Senior member

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    I'm surprised he didn't tell you to go fuck yourself. Only problem with being from the Tony Soprano school is eventually you'll have to break some legs.
     
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    LawrenceMD Senior member

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    well at least you asked right away. the dick move would have been to finish eating then mention passive aggressively while walking away that having his foot up on the chair was rude. by asking right away you minimized the stress.
     
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    NorCal Senior member

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    Maybe they're just clearing space for your mothers elbows?

    Thing is, not all people want you to leave a plate. I've worked as a waiter and there are those who will act like you just offered to drown their dog if you ask to take their plate too soon. There are also those that will rather pointedly bitch if their plate is not gone the second they are finished. One of the horrible things about food service is that everyone wants it their way, are sure that their way is the best way, and are often unaware that there might be another school of thought.
    That and expectations far beyond what they are willing to pay for.

    I could go on but it has all been said before.
     
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  8. jimmyfingers

    jimmyfingers Senior member

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    The Tony Soprano school is funny, but I go by it. Lefty, I would have did the same thing.

    I remember the scene when Finn (Meadow bf) was out with the Soprano family where he sneaked around and paid for the meal. Tony let him know afterward that when it is his family, he pays.


    Here is one....Waiter comes up to you mid meal and ask everyone how their food is. Everyone else is really enjoying the meal and they let the waiter know everything is great. However, you have already eaten 1/4 of the food and it sucks. Do you let the waiter know your honest opinion perhaps ruining the 'vibe' for everyone else. Do you bite your tongue and say its great, but only eat another 1/4?

    If you do tell the waiter it sucks, do you expect to be allowed to order something else (similar price) at no costs even though you have already eaten 1/4 of it?

    This happened to me recently. I ordered something and it tasted like food from a 3rd grade cafeteria in the ghetto. Everyone else thoroughly enjoyed what they ordered. I had only eaten a tiny amount of the meat, but had already eaten most the vegetables that came with it. I let the waiter know the entree was nasty.

    I could tell it through him off guard and he agreed that they restaurant never got it right, but it ended right there, I requested that he take it back and bring back a hamburger w/ no sides. Something safe, cheaper than what I ordered, and was polite about it.

    I was with family and close friends. Would this situation change if you were with people you did not know well such as meeting your g/f parents for the first time, a boss you do not know, etc? In my case, I would have done the same thing. My food even looked nasty.

    What is the proper thing to do at a top restaurant in NYC? I am not talking about a 'cool scene with ok food' that is expensive, but a real fine dining place with a dedicated chef.
     
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    lefty Senior member

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    I carry an axe in my truck.

    lefty
     
  10. Master-Classter

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    I'd push back a little and say that you booked the place long in advance and heart it's great (ie you won't be disappointed) and really want to go there (ie I'm your friend so try to make me happy for once), plus the wife is really looking forward to it (ie hey you know what women are like, don't make me piss off my wife), and so you're going to go there, but of course you still want to see them so it would be great if they can join you two, plus the reservation was for 4 anyway... or maybe mention how the last time you went to the place they wanted, so fair is fair, it's your turn now.
    I was going to ask this one too. Personally I always try to sort of time finishing my meal so others end around the same time too but it's not always practical since some people eat slowly or get meals later, etc. This also happens to me if for even a second I put down the cutlery and take a breather to chat instead of just shovelling in food and the waiter rushes over. I generally just keep talking and wave and hold my hand over the plate and look at them then keep talking to the other person. Even with an empty place in front of me I put my hand clearly over the plate and say 'that's ok thanks'.
    I'd say just tip whatever's normal for where you're from, ie like $5-10. if that happens to be a huge amount in their currency, then good for them. it's the same you would have paid in your local zone so give whatever you're comfortable with and if it's 3rd world then your same buck goes further, it doens't mean you should spend less to get the same.
    dressing appropriately is the most important thing. even though you're not there to pickup girls, you're still meeting up with friends and while they want to see you, even if it's late, out of respect for THEM, change into some non-scrubs. here's one, let's say you're out somewhere and people want to split the bill, but nobody mentions taht up front. So you want to just order a main, and something inexpensive, but everybody else orders apps, desert, wine, so splitting is like double your bill. This just pisses me off. I want to hang out with the folks and go to a nice place but just even on principle (don't say I'm being cheap), it doesn't seem fair.
     
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    People who put others in those positions are kind of dicks but sometimes you need to take one for the team. In a just world, one of them should at least offer to buy you a drink later.
     
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    Nil Senior member

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    Rebecca sounds like uptight and probably difficult to deal with on a regular basis, but you also come off like a sissy complaining about a few attached photos in an email.
     
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    Great thread here. Useful but entertaining. Tipping and other restaurant etiquette always makes me so nervous if it's an unfamiliar situation.
     
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    "Hey that's a nice (piece of clothing). Where did you get it?"

    I never know how to answer this question and tend to just brush it off. Do you usually tell them the actual name of the store you bought it from? Or just the name of the brand?
     
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    If your companion is still eating, don't put your cutlery in the off postion.
     

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