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Discussion in 'Social Life, Food & Drink, Travel' started by itsstillmatt, Aug 1, 2011.

  1. itsstillmatt

    itsstillmatt Well-Known Member

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    Tell Mr. Nay to stop being a little bitch, and inform him that being a hick carries no real dietary restrictions.
     
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    Stop giving in to them and go where you want to go. If they can't be bothered to actually let you pick the location then stop going to eat with them.

    Is that so difficult?
     
  3. patrickBOOTH

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    I can't stand whenever waiters or waitresses ask me questions when my mouth is full. I don't take away from their tip, but I do finish chewing and swallowing and before answering hoping they get the point. I love these awkward moments.
     
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    I sort of do this. It's happened a few times and I tell the child it is impolite to touch things on a someone else's table and they should go re-join their parents. A couple of times the kid gave the "fuck you, I'm doing it anyway" grin and I told them, "I'm not your parent. I mean what I said. Do not touch things here and leave now." That seems to always get their attention, when you draw a distinction between yourself and the parents. I think they feel all adults will indulge the special flower and being told not leaves an impression. The one or two times this did not work I skipped the parents and just had the manager sent over. I don't think paying customers need to be the hall monitor.
     
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    +1
     
  6. patrickBOOTH

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    I also have little patience for little kids. I won't curse at them, but if their parents aren't at an ears distance away I will just point and say go sit with your parents then ignore them and keep eating as if they aren't there.

    I remember my mother yelled at some kid's parents because the parents were at one table and the kids were at their own "kid's table". They opened up the salt and pepper shakers and were spitting their soda into them. The parents looked horribly offended as if it is totally justified becaue they are little.
     
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    This is why I don't use salt and pepper shakers at restaurants.
     
  8. mafoofan

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    He told me eating red bean is like watching baby Jesus burn alive.


    Yes. Not so simple when you are talking about old friend who you are very close with. I'd rather continue eating where they'd like than stop seeing them.
     
  9. CouttsClient

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    Well then they have you by the balls.

    I wonder if they feel the same way about seeing you

    I don't know what it's like to be friends with someone who can't deal with me telling them I'm not eating at some shitty restaurant
     
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    For me the upshot of all these anecdotes and hence recommendations depend greatly on the age of the "little kids" in question and the exact situation. I often find it distasteful how infuriated some adults become at the antics of very small children who clearly are not culpable and whose parents are clearly doing their best to maintain order in an uncomfortable situation. On the other hand, there is no question that there are parents who believe their unruly 7-year-olds can do no wrong, even if they're shooting spit-balls into your soup.

    I would say use your discretion, but generally assume children don't know any better, and the parents are far more upset at whatever it is they're doing than you are.
     
  11. GusW

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    Interesting thread.
     
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    No, it really is that simple. If they can't make the effort to be even slightly accomodating then they probably don't value the friendship to the extent that you do.
     
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    I bet he takes you to places that are "hipster good" right?
     
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    Let’s say you are travelling to a country (maybe third world where there’s a huge range of salaries) where you have never been before, how do you ascertain how much you should tip the bellman? Do you use regional standards? Always tip the same? Maybe use some sort of product as a guideline? Go with instinct? Use the price of the room as a gauge?
    I know what I do but I’m curious about what you do.
     
  15. freedom_fries

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    what is red bean?
     
  16. patrickBOOTH

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    Simple really, don't go to third world countries.
     
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    Dude, just assume I said Eastern Europe or something.
     
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    I tend to subscribe to the Tony Soprano school of fine dining, but I think I would let a dick swinger be.

    Here's another: you have finished eating and your cutlery is in the off position but your companion is still eating. Waiter reaches for your plate. Stop him or not?

    lefty
     
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    You can try a couple of things. Tell them you've been wanting to try that place for weeks and you'll just have to go this time without them. You can also try the compromise and go to neither the original place nor the place they picked. You can tell them you've been to the new place they picked and you feel the food is not worth the money. You can make it a three couple event so they have another party they need to extort also.

    All those are aimed at trying to get them to seeyou're not happy with their extortion.
     
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    I would Google it first. Tipping customs and basic rules of etiquette are the first things I'd research before traveling somewhere. If I still didn't know what to do, I'd do as I do back home. Better to make an effort to be polite than not try at all.


    It's a bean commonly used in Asian desserts, baked goods, and pastries. Most often, it is sweetened and mashed into a creamy paste which appears dark burgundy in color.
     

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