Im tall, thin, generally good outlook. I just have to act!

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  1. Popsandfriends

    Popsandfriends Well-Known Member

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    Edit: It's all gone to hell. Thanks anyways
     


  2. babygreenspots

    babygreenspots Senior member

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    I suggest you avoid women for as long as possible. They will dominate your life soon enough. Take advantage of this time and don't deal with them. It will feel fresher later. You should delay having a girlfriend as long as possible. Also, the awkwardness before you really know them is the best part.
     


  3. Bradford

    Bradford Current Events Moderator

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    Go up to her at lunch and say "Hi, I'm Hunter. I wanted to ask you how it can be that in four years of high school the two of us have never taken a single class together."

    Teasingly accuse her of purposely setting up her schedule to avoid you.

    End by saying, "Now that we're friends, I'm expecting to keep in touch."

    Walk away... she'll be blown away that you have the guts to talk to her.

    The next time you pass her in the hall, say "Hey, my friends and I are going to get hamburgers tonight. Be there at (time) and I'll let you buy me one to make up for purposely avoiding me all these years."

    If she shows, great! Talk to her, make her buy you a burger and continue to give her a hard time for previously avoiding you. If not, bust on her the next time you see her (lunch or hallway) for avoiding you again - like she's been doing for the past four years.

    What's the risk - she blows you off. The gain is, you get to know her and maybe go out with her.
     


  4. victory

    victory Well-Known Member

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    What's the risk - she blows you off. The gain is, you get to know her and maybe go out with her.
    Although it's hard to always live by, I totally believe in this. Simply, it's a risk/reward type of deal. The worst that could happen is you get rejected (which will sting but only for a brief period) and the best that could happen is you actually get the girl.
     


  5. smw356

    smw356 Senior member

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    Its not risk vs reward because there is no risk. She'll either be into you and theres a reward (hopefully) or she isn't and nothing changes.
     


  6. yerfdog

    yerfdog Senior member

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    yeah you have to just go up and talk to her, like Bradford said

    you dont even necessary have to give a reason like that, if you think you won't be able to make it seem natural. you could just tell her she looks like someone you want to get to know or some other line that is actually honest. it's unusual for people to do either of these approaches in high school, so she won't be prepared for it as a come on. and yeah if you get rejected, who cares, just go into it relaxed and you'll come out relaxed, whatever the outcome.

    also as far as you being skinny, odds are she won't even notice/care, because most girls don't seem to pay as much attention to guys appearance as guys to girls, unless they are actively looking for someone. and even if she does care, she'll be flattered that you noticed her. i was shy and skinny in high school (same dimensions. i've only put on 15 pounds since then) and the very few girls i was ever involved with did not care whatsoever, even though i thought at the time they were each out of my league.
     


  7. knucks

    knucks Senior member

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    this is easy, you aren't attractive and she's not into ugly guys [​IMG]
     


  8. yerfdog

    yerfdog Senior member

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    this is easy, you aren't attractive and she's not into ugly guys [​IMG]
    yeah right almost all high school girls are into ugly guys, because like 85% of high school guys are ugly or gawky or weird looking in some way, even if they turn into perfectly good looking adults
     


  9. Nantucket Red

    Nantucket Red "Mr. Fashionista"

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    I am 130lbs, 6ft tall, and I dont have much muscle. Im pretty much boney and skinny.

    I was built just like you at about age 15.

    Bradford's approach is good, the point being keep it light and humorous. You don't necessarily need to follow his exact scenario, but it's a good template.

    Unless she's afraid of getting her eye poked out by your adam's apple, you'll do fine.

    Also, bear this in mind:

    Its not risk vs reward because there is no risk. She'll either be into you and theres a reward (hopefully) or she isn't and nothing changes.
     


  10. LabelKing

    LabelKing Senior member

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    What's the risk - she blows you off. The gain is, you get to know her and maybe go out with her.

    You mean there's no gain by being blown off?
     


  11. Englandmj7

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    Don't forget......girls like jerks. It has always helped me!


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  12. denimdestroyedmylife

    denimdestroyedmylife Big Winner

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    this is easy, you aren't attractive and she's not into ugly guys [​IMG]
    i suggest you rent Cocteau's Beauty and the Beast as soon as possible... [​IMG]
     


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    alan Senior member

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    Bradfords suggestion is excellent imo.

    I used to be shy around girls too, but its amazing how much control you can have over it. You just have to take the first step.

    1st your state of mind should be more positive. Even if you dont yet have the experiences to back that up, you have to project a confident attitude. When you talk to her, dont go there like youre waiting for her approval. Dont do the friends thing, it is balless and will only work if she dated 10 jerks last month then watched 100 teen movies to the point of brainwash and thought about trying the nice guy thing for a day.

    Say what Bradford said, very casually. Dont let your first conversation take too long, leave it at that. If shes a jerk about it, all you were doing is having friendly conversation. You could make her feel stupid about it too. Or you could walk away. I think sometimes trying and getting rejected will bring a satisfaction too, knowing you went for it. It wont be as bad as you imagine.
    Go for it and let us know what happens.
     


  14. ratboycom

    ratboycom Senior member

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    Damn dude, I thought I had a hard time finding shirts that fit my skinny ass, (6'3" 165lbs) you have it really tough.

    Just remember if you just want a girl to get laid with be an Asshole. If you want a good/nice girl to be with, be yourself. Never forget confidence will always win over the ladies. Shit I have women practically throwing themselves at me because I am a confident bastard (and I am not looking for a girlfriend as I have one already.) Girls can pick up when you arent persuing a girlfriend, they like that too. Just stay cool, act like you dont care too much, they really love that. Oh and never make the mistake of selling yourself short, go for exactly what you want and nothing less. Perhaps not to the extreme of that GQ was talking about in his posts on an earlier thread, but do get what you want. Also try not to tie yourself down at such a young age. Date all kinds of women, till you find the one that is exactly what you want. Just remember you have the rest of your life ahead of you, dont fuck it up by settling down at a young age.
     


  15. King Salmon

    King Salmon Senior member

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    How many times can you talk about your fat ex? Hopefully less than you talk about Japan.
     


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