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If I knew when I was 20 what I know now....

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by Flambeur, Sep 16, 2010.

  1. Joffrey

    Joffrey Well-Known Member

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    Not sure the details but if 4 finance internships didn't help you, I don't see how 5 or 6 would've helped.
     
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  2. YOLO EMSHI

    YOLO EMSHI Well-Known Member

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    I should've just went straight into art school instead of dicking around for two years in politics. I'd have graduated with honours by now and be well on my way in my 'career'.
     
  3. Gibonius

    Gibonius Well-Known Member

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    I'd have told myself to get out of academics more and get some industry and/or government experience. I knew I wasn't going to stick on the academic track, but didn't realize how little academic research experience would mean outside of academia. Hasn't cost me too badly so far, but things could have been much easier.

    As far as the "study harder you fool" stuff, that was part of the learning process. Can't really see how I could have changed it. What I would have done, is told myself not to listen to all my "friends" who tried to convince me that I didn't need to study. They had their motivations for doing it and it was not because it was in my best interest.
     
  4. YOLO EMSHI

    YOLO EMSHI Well-Known Member

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    That's the kind of shit that gave me hell for two years
     
  5. Gibonius

    Gibonius Well-Known Member

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    Kind of a problem with going to school with a bunch of really smart kids. None of us really had to work in high school and some of us didn't want to let on that we actually had to in college (and/or it took us awhile to learn that). Some people were more committed to the lie than others, or wanted to have more strings on their friend's time (c'mon let's play Frisbee you don't need to do homework). One kid was just a manipulative shitbag, never figured out his deal.
     
  6. acidboy

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    I shouldn't have bought aftermarket rims and other accessories for my car. that was a complete waste of money.
     
  7. curzon

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    You get the noisy, over-sized muffler too?

    Never really understood that niche. $4000 rimz. $1500 exhaust. $1200 Civic.
     
  8. YOLO EMSHI

    YOLO EMSHI Well-Known Member

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    Don't forget the subwoofer and neon paint job
     
  9. acidboy

    acidboy Well-Known Member

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    this was a decade ago. didn't spend THAT much, somehow I thought it was a good idea to throw money for a jdm look... and it was a freaking cr-v. :hide:
     
  10. Master Milano

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    Question on balancing a long term relationship in college and maybe beyond ? Everyone's been telling me that we will inevitably meet someone better etc etc, that we want to try out. I know it's seriously taboo, but I seriously believe that there is not one else out there that is a better match than her. Also how to reconcile with the idea of going out to parties and drinking etc?

    I know it's a pretty sound advice to work hard and bust ass in college but how exactly does one go about doing that really? Work hard at what? What are some things that we should build up / practice? how do to study etc etc.

    Sorry these two questions might seem stupid naive.
     
  11. Gibonius

    Gibonius Well-Known Member

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    I don't buy that. Lots of people meet their spouse in college and things work out. I wouldn't rush into anything (don't agree with people getting married right out of college) but I don't agree with throwing away a good thing just because "common wisdom" tells you that you will find something better. I met my wife in undergrad and am still happy I quit looking when I did. If you met in high school, eh....bit of a different story but you still gotta use your own judgement.

    As far as drinking and parties etc, it's pretty much the same deal just remove the "trying to get laid" portion from it. I knew plenty of people in undergrad who partied and were in relationships. Wasn't really a big deal.
     
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  12. stevent

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    Yeah I think grades and interviewing matter quite a bit as well. Plenty of my friends who are in ibanking now didn't really have much in terms of internships, but did the super interview days or whatever they are called really well. Also worked together on the excel spreadsheets they have to do so they mastered it.

    pseudonym you go to Fordham right? Don't get so caught up in trying to do ibanking that you miss out on other stuff.



    So many midwest friends are getting engaged / married. At 22-24, I think it's a bit young personally but it's more normal in midwest compared to west coast I guess.



    On topic of if I could go back two years, I would probably have studied a bit more, partied 14.28% a week more to 5 nights a week, and spent less time dicking around on the internet and more time outdoors and reading books.
     
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  13. Master Milano

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    Thanks for the advice, I actually did meet her in highschool but it's definitely not the typical college relationship because we're more like friends/ partner in crime than the typical boyfriend girlfriend thing. It's just that there's a sexual element I suppose. But still, I always have a sort of nervous feeling that she might meet someone better than me / makes her happier because we're are not as connected as we used to be. That and if something were to happen while drinking and partying. I always get a kind of jealous feeling when she is dressed up nice and all ready to party and meet new people and I'm not there.

    I guess part of this is just my (admittedly) insecurity and that I just have to trust her and myself. Also definitely not getting married at 23/ 24
     
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    So far I've met two married women during undergrad, both no older than 21 and when this fact was discovered in both situations the conversation immediately died.
     
  15. APK

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    - The relationship you have right now is fine for where you are in your life, but not ultimately the one you will want. Don't get hung up on it when it goes south.
    - Don't use cruise control on an expressway after it's been raining.
    - Read some god damn books so you aren't feverishly trying to catch up later on.
     
  16. curzon

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    I wouldn't have taken my good health for granted. All those additional years of smoking wasn't too smart. Should have kept on swimming instead. I'm fortunate there's no lung cancer or anything too bad (knock wood), but I can feel damage was done certainly. And it's irreparable.
     
  17. Fang66

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    I wouldn't have had as much fun.
     
  18. globetrotter

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    I probably would have had a lot more fun.

    I would have been a lot less honest with women, and had a lot more meaningless sex, probably lowered my standards, too
     
  19. FidelCashflow

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    I would have started traveling solo years earlier - exploring the world and making memories
     
  20. Fraiche

    Fraiche Well-Known Member

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    1. Do not be shy. Do what's on your mind.

    2. Hit on every ridiculous hot girl you see. You will never ever see her ever again anyways.

    3. Spend money on experiences not merchandise.

    4. Do not do things simply to please anyone, even family.

    5. No dream is too small.
     

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