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If I knew when I was 20 what I know now....

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by Flambeur, Sep 16, 2010.

  1. word

    word Senior member

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    I'm only 26 so I'm going to cheat and rewind to 17.


    Don't go to college like every other sheep my age and keep training on the road bike on the blue ridge parkway and transition from mens pro xc racing to whatever the road equivalent was. Should have known to stick with something I was good at instead of aimlessly go to college and party.
     
  2. Returningson

    Returningson Senior member

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    save some fucking money
    DO NOT go cliff diving in summer 02[​IMG]
    stay off of styleforum


    seconded! ;-)
     
  3. swaggerisaliability

    swaggerisaliability Senior member

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    I would have been more open to opportunities I had not previously envisioned.

    Specifically what types of opportunities?
     
  4. mafoofan

    mafoofan Senior member Dubiously Honored

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    Specifically what types of opportunities?
    Well, my advice only applies to personalities similar to mine. I tend to be a very long-term planner, constantly thinking about the future. By the time I entered high school, I had everything plotted out until my 30's. Given hard work, some talent (I'd like to think, at least), and some luck, I got pretty much everything I wanted, only to realize I didn't pause along the way to consider other paths. After all, my experiences naturally changed me as a person over time. It would have made sense to reassess on a periodic basis. Now, I can't help but feel I've built a life I've already outgrown in many respects. Of course, I'm trying to remedy things, but it's hard to do.
     
  5. Don Carlos

    Don Carlos Senior member

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    Isn't youth to be enjoyed instead of slaving away like the rest of the drones?

    Well, you have a choice to make. You can slave away with the rest of the drones during your youth, thereby enjoying the rest of your life. Or you can enjoy your youth, dooming yourself to a lifetime of slaving away with the rest of the drones. Pick your poison.
     
  6. TGPlastic

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    I'd tell myself not to dump so much loot into the stock markets. Market gains over the past decade have mostly been flat to negative. Dollar for dollar I would have been better off buying a half dozen Rolex watches every year than putting that money into my retirement accounts.
     
  7. Flambeur

    Flambeur Senior member

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    Well, my advice only applies to personalities similar to mine. I tend to be a very long-term planner, constantly thinking about the future. By the time I entered high school, I had everything plotted out until my 30's. Given hard work, some talent (I'd like to think, at least), and some luck, I got pretty much everything I wanted, only to realize I didn't pause along the way to consider other paths. After all, my experiences naturally changed me as a person over time. It would have made sense to reassess on a periodic basis. Now, I can't help but feel I've built a life I've already outgrown in many respects. Of course, I'm trying to remedy things, but it's hard to do.

    Curious, because overall you seem to have done well by yourself. Where would you rather be in life right now, or at least where do you think you wouldn't feel like you've outgrown your life?
     
  8. foodguy

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    without presuming to answer for the foo, who i'm sure will have a well-written and thoughtful response of his own, let me just say from my experience that the problem with setting long-term goals is that by the time you reach them, they may no longer be what you want. When I was 20, my life's goal was to be a sports columnist at the Albuquerque Journal. By the time I was 30, that would have been my definition of hell.
     
  9. mafoofan

    mafoofan Senior member Dubiously Honored

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    Curious, because overall you seem to have done well by yourself. Where would you rather be in life right now, or at least where do you think you wouldn't feel like you've outgrown your life?
    I am very happy with the personal aspects of my life--at least, the ones I can control for. However, I'm not so happy with the professional path I took. I actually really don't like being a lawyer. I hate it, to be frank. Yet, I went that way because I wanted to mildly rebel against a family of doctors and saw "Time to Kill" in middle school. I changed a lot between 13 and 22, but didn't inspect my aspirations. I merely re-shaped the notion of what my future life as a lawyer would be like, veering further and further from reality. Amongst other things, I wish I had given more consideration to art, design, architecture, and philosophy. I have raw talent in visual arts, but never really nurtured it. My professors in college wanted me to do a philosophy PhD--hell, some had close connections with places like Princeton and NYU (philosophy hotbeds) and suggested they could get me far. Everyone was disappointed when I told them I was going to law school. My favorite professor, something of a mentor to me, totally lost interest in talking to me afterward. He was pretty direct about what he thought of "legal scholarship." Now I know what he means. What's most tragic in retrospect is that I had tangibly demonstrated the ability to excel at art and particularly philosophy, and I really loved immersing myself in them, yet I wound up taking the "safe" route to a professional career I have exceedingly little interest or talent in.
     
  10. foodguy

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    i knew you'd come through, but man, that's so sad. maybe we ought to start a second thread: what i wish i knew at 40. mainly, it ain't over 'till it's over. life is too long just to stay in a shitty job you hate just because you think you ought to or your parents think you ought to. i know it's a lot more complicated than that, particularly with a rubinacci habit. but just remember, even if you're 40, you're not even halfway through your working life. lots of time to do what you want.
     
  11. mafoofan

    mafoofan Senior member Dubiously Honored

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    i knew you'd come through, but man, that's so sad. maybe we ought to start a second thread: what i wish i knew at 40. mainly, it ain't over 'till it's over. life is too long just to stay in a shitty job you hate just because you think you ought to or your parents think you ought to. i know it's a lot more complicated than that, particularly with a rubinacci habit. but just remember, even if you're 40, you're not even halfway through your working life. lots of time to do what you want.

    Thanks, man. But I'm actually okay now: I'm just 28, and I'm already making changes. I think things are looking up.

    I should have known law was the wrong way when I was gripped with the urge to join the Peace Corps right after getting into law school (and had a huge fight with my parents over it).
     
  12. George

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    Thanks, man. But I'm actually okay now: I'm just 28, and I'm already making changes. I think things are looking up. I should have known law was the wrong way when I was gripped with the urge to join the Peace Corps right after getting into law school (and had a huge fight with my parents over it).
    Get the fuck out of that wretched profession.!
     
  13. GusW

    GusW Senior member Dubiously Honored

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    1. fuck less atractive women, don't be so uptight about being gentlemanly or honest with women
    2. don't ever let yourself go completly to pot, keep up a minimum level of fitness
    3. wouldn't change anything else


    This is pretty damn good advice.
     
  14. mkarim

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    This is pretty damn good advice.
    Also, put a smile on your face first. Don't worry about what society and the media say how you should live your life.

    Remember, one of the most important decision in your life is whom to marry. NEVER take this lightly.
     
  15. mkarim

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    Get the fuck out of that wretched profession.!
    Why?
     
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    Dont get tattoos, work hard and talk to middle aged men more than 17 year old girls.
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    -If you absolutely must drop out of school after sophomore year to get the GI Bill, take the Germany assignment.

    -Unless you plan to stay in the academy, higher learning is vocational school. Major in something that pays.

    -Realize that others are working with advantages you don't have. Do not let their success make you feel like a failure.
     
  18. George

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    Why?
    Well a) Because he clearly doesn't like it. b) Because it's wretched. I don't think I've ever met a lawyer that that profession hasn't turned into a cynical bastard. I just think it sucks the 'marrow' of people.
     
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  20. mkarim

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    + Take some time off between high school and university. Spend it working manual labour and in an office setting. This is real life for most people, soul-crushing drudgery. Back in school work your ass off and enjoy every minute of it accordingly.

    + Don't start drinking alcohol. It will do nothing but damage your health, your finances, and your relationships. You're perfectly fine without it, but once you develop the crutch it's a hard one to get rid of.

    + Spend as little time looking at a screen as possible. Cut out television and video games. Limit your internet usage. No long term good will come from these things.

    + You will be shaped by the people you spend time with. When a friend is going down a path that doesn't align with your goals, don't be hesitant to cut them loose.

    + That thing you wish you had done five years ago. Five years from now you'll wish you had done it now.


    Golden words! Wonderful advice - for people of all ages!
     

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