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If I knew when I was 20 what I know now....

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by Flambeur, Sep 16, 2010.

  1. JTK

    JTK Senior member

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    1. Stay in Japan
    2. Stop wearing XL clothes...you're only 5'9" and you barely weigh 150!
    3. Don't fill out those credit card applications, especially the one from Structure!!!!
     
  2. Joffrey

    Joffrey Senior member

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    study your ass off in school

    -Jeff


    Ditto.
     
  3. globetrotter

    globetrotter Senior member

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    No, I have a friend that used to follow this motto. His rationale was that all women are going to leave you, so if you just fuck ugly ones, you won't miss them as much when they're gone. Also, they don't expect much from you.

    He ended up marrying a smoking hot Israeli woman he met in law school and is happily married to this day.


    +1 - I used to date only women who were substantially more attractive than I was. economically speaking, it was a mismatch, and it meant that I had much less sex, with less well performing women, who were better looking. if I had been less choosy, I would have had more sex, with more greatful women, and the only thing that I would have lost would have been some aestetic enjoyment.
     
  4. XenoX101

    XenoX101 Senior member

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    I was talking to myself, XenoX

    Ah
     
  5. fwiffo

    fwiffo Senior member

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    1. Stop trying to please or be someone else. Just be you and find out what you're good at, what you like and how you like it.

    2. Stop waiting for someone to show you leadership. Just because you sit in a room with 30 or 40 year olds, doesn't mean they want to take the reins. Carpe diem and all of that. History doesn't remember the second place people.

    3. Enjoy the little things in life. For god's sake enjoy that 7 hours you had sitting in front of the computer because you didn't have to spend 2 hours to maintain your body, 3 hours running errands, etc.
     
  6. AR_Six

    AR_Six Senior member

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    -Ski more. I know you ski a lot. Ski more. And don't be a pussy, 30 foot cliffs are not that big.
    -When someone links you to styleforum, don't click it, you will have WAY more money.
    -That long distance relationship thing is a terrible idea.
    -Sarah is lying to get attention, do not waste your time being the white knight.
    -Take at least SOME finance courses. Do not switch your major, necessarily, but some background will help in the long run.

    If I could tell my 22 year old self some stuff about what to do in law school... well, this post would go on for a long, long time.
     
  7. Prada_Ferragamo

    Prada_Ferragamo Senior member

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    -Committed relationship is a bad idea when you are sophomore in college
    -less drinking and more lifting weights
    -no night life, hell a lot more of studying
    -abercrombie and fitch is not cool
     
  8. foodguy

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    this is complicated. like a lot of people, i probably would have said "have more fun." on the other hand, if i'd had more fun then, i might not be in a position to have as much fun as i'm having now. maybe a better question would be to ask people who are happy where they are now, what they did right when they were 20. personally, my advice to anyone that age is to not "keep their eyes on the prize," because the prize has a way of changing as you grow up. instead, keep your options open and remember that it's a big wide world out there that's full of things you've never even thought of. as far as sex goes, i don't think anybody needs to tell you to have more ... that's pretty much all any 20-year-old thinks about. i'd say be kind: hopefully you'll reach some kind of maturity without having a lot of regrets about people you've hurt with stupid stuff you've done in the past.
     
  9. Piobaire

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    this is complicated. like a lot of people, i probably would have said "have more fun." on the other hand, if i'd had more fun then, i might not be in a position to have as much fun as i'm having now. maybe a better question would be to ask people who are happy where they are now, what they did right when they were 20. personally, my advice to anyone that age is to not "keep their eyes on the prize," because the prize has a way of changing as you grow up. instead, keep your options open and remember that it's a big wide world out there that's full of things you've never even thought of. as far as sex goes, i don't think anybody needs to tell you to have more ... that's pretty much all any 20-year-old thinks about. i'd say be kind: hopefully you'll reach some kind of maturity without having a lot of regrets about people you've hurt with stupid stuff you've done in the past.

    Very wise post and one even people at 40 can listen too.

    Also, remember life is meaningless.
     
  10. foodguy

    foodguy Senior member

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    How do you know? You are like 32.
    jaybus metro, how old are you? judging from your posts, I would have guessed like 27-28.
     
  11. foodguy

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    Also, remember life is meaningless.
    sheesh pio, where did that come from? did y ou spend the lunchhour listening to your old Styx albums (inside joke for those over 40)? as long as i'm being all solemn and wise, i'd say that life is anything BUT meaningless, but it's up to us to give it meaning ... it's not going to happen by itself.
     
  12. Piobaire

    Piobaire Senior member

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    sheesh pio, where did that come from? did y ou spend the lunchhour listening to your old Styx albums (inside joke for those over 40)? as long as i'm being all solemn and wise, i'd say that life is anything BUT meaningless, but it's up to us to give it meaning ... it's not going to happen by itself.

    I tell people the key to happiness is realizing that life is meaningless and odds are good you'll die alone while lying in your own shit. Once you accept that, everyday stuff really stops bothering you. [​IMG]
     
  13. billsayers

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    Do not be so self-conscious and take yourself so seriously all the time...the cool, quiet guy dressed in designer garb garners less female attention than the outgoing, philistine dressed in mall-brand clothing.

    Do not be careless with who you fall for...love or the idea of love is a narcotic that yields the worst possible hangover.

    Position yourself for future success...study like your life depended on it, take the unpaid summer internship, network with like-minded people.
     
  14. foodguy

    foodguy Senior member

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    I tell people the key to happiness is realizing that life is meaningless and odds are good you'll die alone while lying in your own shit. Once you accept that, everyday stuff really stops bothering you. [​IMG]

    i guess i'd say that if something is bothering you enough that the image of dying alone lying in your own shit is all that will cheer you up, maybe a change is in order.
     
  15. foodguy

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    here's one more since i'm in a preaching mood on the last day of my vacation: there is ALWAYS going to be somebody who has more than you. Even matt has vox. learn to be satisfied with what you have and any extra that comes your way seems like a gift.
     
  16. tesseract

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    Dont get tattoos, work hard and talk to middle aged men more than 17 year old girls.
     
  17. Rambo

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    there is ALWAYS going to be somebody who has more than you. Even matt has vox.
    Somebody should sig this
     
  18. MetroStyles

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    jaybus metro, how old are you? judging from your posts, I would have guessed like 27-28.

    43.
     
  19. fredfred

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    What I wish I knew at 20:

    - Many, many women actually LIKE sex and want to have it.

    You just need to give them an opportunity/excuse to have it with you. No, you are not too (smart, dumb, ugly, whatever). My desire for sex was so strong and I was so put off in trying to be a "nice guy" ("...girls don't like sex... you do... what's wrong with you?") - that I missed out on some opportunities. Not that I didn't get plenty. But when that girl was sitting on the staircase at the dorm and I could have looked up her dress and directly at her pussy.. 'cause she had her legs spread open ... and it was Friday night at midnight and everybody had been drinking... well, instead of being nice and looking away I should have accepted what was an invitation... but I didn't know then it was an invitation. "Cause girls don't like sex". There are opportunities out there - be more aware of them. Girls DO want to fuck you.

    - With enough preparation and/or practice, you can do anything you damn well please.
    If you want to do (whatever) - simply put some time in and learn how to do it. You *can* be an astronaut if you want to. Want to be a rock star? Start singing - every fucking day for at least an hour or two.

    - It doesn't take much to be more of an expert than most people

    It is quite easy to step up above people, 'cause most people don't do squat. So if I go learn a little bit about (whatever), then I will be an expert on the topic compared to them. This can easily be translated into $$$$$$ - in many, many ways.

    - If there is something you are good at and enjoy, find a way to make money doing it or something related to it

    You don't have to work in (pick bad environment here). Figure out a way to do something you like. It will take a bit of thinking and work. But it will pay off.
     
  20. milosz

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    If I could talk to 15yo me:

    Go to school for architecture. By the time you figure out this would be your ideal career path, you'll be too old to want to put in seven years of school for it.

    Don't take a full lineup of AP writing/liberal arts classes your last two years of high school. Take art, take photography, take metal shop.

    Don't take your SATs as a sophomore and score high enough that you think you don't have to care anymore. The world does not, surprisingly, reward raw 'intelligence.'
     

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