If a woman freely engages in behavior that verges on orgiastic, gets blotto and then suffers sexual indignities, she has only herself to blame, in my book anyway. Yeah, the guy was wrong to have copped a feel, but the girl is lucky nothing worse happened to her. I am glad to hear you now feel you were not humiliated in the physical encounter. I'm sure it will do much for your self-esteem. i dont exactly agree with this. lingerie parties are just themes people throw like bathing suit parties etc. i dont think it gives any one more of a right to do anything sexually then any other time. all of these parties no matter the theme are just slut fests anyway, so the lingierie doesnt really make much of a difference. so her being passed out in lingerie doesnt really make it any more ok. its pretty much saying its ok for guys to cop feels on girls dressed like sluts in clubs etc. its pretty wrong.