stylo 9000
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Well I am not going, nor have ever gone to college, so those aren't exactly available topics of conversation for me. It was never my intention to hijack this thread, I just empathize quite a bit with the OP. Even when describing approaching women as some sort of protocol, people always make the actual conversation part seem trivial. "If she makes eye contact with you three times, go up and start a conversation. Voila!" Such people also seem to assume that confidence is the only possible holdup. I can confidently go up to people and ask their names all day long. Hell, I've even gone up to strange woman and confidently asked them for their phone numbers. I cannot, however, confidently approach a person with the intention of starting a conversation when I have absolutely nothing to talk about.
You have thoughts floating around your head all day. Phrased correctly, these thoughts can make for very interesting conversation. I am convinced that 90% of being social is being open enough to decide that everyone cares what you're saying. Not to say talk only about yourself, or blather on w/o feedback, but everyone has a unique angle on life. Last year I used to have the problem of paying too much attention to what other people were doing/saying. Are they looking at the person speaking and not me? They're ignoring me! This year I don't give a ****. And this is different from saying I don't care; I legitimately don't place any value on these conversations. And subsequently these conversations have much more value, and I'm much happier overall. It's weird. I also drink much more often this year