Hi all,
I am 37 year old male. I have never been very self confident, never really had a 'style' and never liked to stand out in any way.
I was divorced about 7 years ago, and just now come out of another 3 year relationship. I'm trying to revitalise my social life, and I'd like to look smart but appropriate for the situation.
To say I am struggling is a huge understatement. I have been shopping two Saturday's in a row, tried on lots of stuff and come back with nothing. I have spent hours looking online for tips and pictures of other men wearing nice things and failed to recreate the look when I'm in the shops.
I don't know what level of formality is right for me, what colours I like, whether to go a bit brighter or keep everything dark blue. Alot of internet searches for smart casual throw up this jeans and blazer look which looks great in the images but when I try it on it just feels too much. In fact whenever I try on anything that isn't a blue jumper I feel like I'm standing out too much.
I currently wear jeans, a dark blue jumper and a t-shirt underneath almost 100% of the time. At work I just wear a basic shirt, charcoal trousers and a plain grey tie, sometimes with a jumper over the top.
I also have problems with fit. I'm 5'11 but skinny short torso and long legs. Many jeans are just way too baggy, or don't fit right around the waist, or the skinny fit types I can't even get them over my thighs for some inexplicable reason (I'm quite skinny really, how can these skinny fit jeans fit anyone??). I tend to prefer a tailored fit or slim fit shirt too because a regular shirt is way too baggy around my torso.
I've got to a point now I just don't know what to do and need some help. I don't want to buy hundreds of things all at once, just one or two nice coordinated outfits suitable for a) a smart casual after work pub situation and b) a work beer bus outing which will probably be followed by a night out.
Please help!
Dan
I am 37 year old male. I have never been very self confident, never really had a 'style' and never liked to stand out in any way.
I was divorced about 7 years ago, and just now come out of another 3 year relationship. I'm trying to revitalise my social life, and I'd like to look smart but appropriate for the situation.
To say I am struggling is a huge understatement. I have been shopping two Saturday's in a row, tried on lots of stuff and come back with nothing. I have spent hours looking online for tips and pictures of other men wearing nice things and failed to recreate the look when I'm in the shops.
I don't know what level of formality is right for me, what colours I like, whether to go a bit brighter or keep everything dark blue. Alot of internet searches for smart casual throw up this jeans and blazer look which looks great in the images but when I try it on it just feels too much. In fact whenever I try on anything that isn't a blue jumper I feel like I'm standing out too much.
I currently wear jeans, a dark blue jumper and a t-shirt underneath almost 100% of the time. At work I just wear a basic shirt, charcoal trousers and a plain grey tie, sometimes with a jumper over the top.
I also have problems with fit. I'm 5'11 but skinny short torso and long legs. Many jeans are just way too baggy, or don't fit right around the waist, or the skinny fit types I can't even get them over my thighs for some inexplicable reason (I'm quite skinny really, how can these skinny fit jeans fit anyone??). I tend to prefer a tailored fit or slim fit shirt too because a regular shirt is way too baggy around my torso.
I've got to a point now I just don't know what to do and need some help. I don't want to buy hundreds of things all at once, just one or two nice coordinated outfits suitable for a) a smart casual after work pub situation and b) a work beer bus outing which will probably be followed by a night out.
Please help!
Dan