I need advice on how to snag a lady.

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  1. GQgeek

    GQgeek Senior member

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    I will go against the grain and say, Conne don't sweat it. Just be your damn self and somebody will come along and like you the way you are- or at least more than 50% of the way you are, and you'll live happily ever damn after.

    Even if it's a guy.
     


  2. Fuuma

    Fuuma Franchouillard Modasse

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    My first advice would be to stop taking advice from people who use « dating techniques" those people are sad nerds who need a manual to get laid and they usually fail miserably. + seeing woman as the enemy or some product to be consumed is pretty lame in itself and lacks the romance and uncalculated wildness that a seductive person has.

    My second advice would be to start having sex with the new girls you meet, I mean if they interest you just do it, try to kiss them the first time you drink with them and don't even feel that bad if they turn you away, keeping in mind that due to the way it is now used the first no means: I don't know, the second: meh and the third: NO!!!!.(just a caricature but you get the point) and that just like at the arcade you can try again (the next time you meet in an appropriate context). Don't over think it but go towards the people you're interested in and make a move. In a few weeks see how you feel about the initial girl and if it's still the same I'd attempt the same fucking thing with her.
     


  3. migo

    migo Senior member

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    Wow, JetBlast and GQGeek giving "how to snag a girl" advice?
    You're fucked Conne.


    Not literally, though, which is apparently the goal.

    From what I've been told, women find men in the company of other women more attractive, even more so if the other women seem to be comfortable/happy around the man. So like the others said, seek other women, hook up with them, do them, w/e's necessary
     


  4. Thomas

    Thomas Senior member

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    Honestly, the answer to this question is the same answer that you get to every other question that you post: stop being such a pussy.

    If you like a girl, ask her out. Period.

    And never say: "I realize that you don't feel the same way." This seriously shows an off-putting lack of self-confidence. If you want something, you have to go after it and not be such a pussy about it. That's the bottom line man, and it applies in all areas of life.


    +1

    Women are evaluating you from the first second they lay eyes on you. How do you dress, walk, talk, deal with people? Do you take charge, or do you get stepped on? Their initial impression sets the tone for everything that will happen later on. Women do not like to hang with those who get stepped on.

    In fact, let me say it again: Women will not attach themselves to those that get pushed around. Your first step in generating interest is to show them that you will not get pushed around, at least not without a fight. Lie, if you have to. But if they see that you won't assert yourself, they will string you along forever.

    And, if you like, you may substitute the word "bosses" for women. It happens at work, too. I've been on both sides of the table here.

    If you think this is a stretch - well, that's up to you. You don't have to change much. All you do is stop putting up with games and nonsense, and insist on getting what you want.
     


  5. LA Guy

    LA Guy Opposite Santa Staff Member Admin Moderator

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    This type of thread seems to crop up every few months [​IMG]

    I don't really think that "pretending not to care" is going to work. It's pretty transparent, which is the reason that it occurs so often in Teen movies.

    It may already be a lost cause, but imo, you should just ask her out. Say "Well, I actually still feel the same way about you. I'd like to get dinner sometime. How about Thursday?" It will be pretty obvious whether or not she is into you. If she is, she will accept. If she does anything but accept, including, but not limited to suggesting that you both do something with a group instead, suggests that that might be nice sometime but fails to come up with or refuses to commit to a firm date, tells you "as long as it's just as friends", spare yourself a lot of trouble, and forget about it. She isn't being shy, she already knows you, she doesn't need time to think about it, she just isn't into you. In that case, just move on. Don't make a big scene of it. Don't be a dick to her, but don't make plans with her either.

    Oh, and taking a look at the picture below, she is not at all attracted to you. Notice her shoulders and the placement of her arms, and the distance between her front and your back. If she was at all attracted to you, she would be a lot more grabby, even if just being "friendly", and she would most definitely be leaning into you. Actually, this type of "friendly/funny" activity would give her an excuse to be grabby without her feeling guilty about it.

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  6. whodini

    whodini Conan OOOOOOO"BRIEN!

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    Wow, JetBlast and GQGeek giving "how to snag a girl" advice?
    You're fucked Conne.

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  7. razuel

    razuel Senior member

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    This type of thread seems to crop up every few months [​IMG]

    I don't really think that "pretending not to care" is going to work. It's pretty transparent, which is the reason that it occurs so often in Teen movies.


    Pretending not to care doesn't work, but actually not caring may.
     


  8. Edward Appleby

    Edward Appleby Senior member

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    As GQgeek has demonstrated, though, if you spend enough money you can get onto the gay friend ladder by dating as well.
     


  9. JetBlast

    JetBlast Senior member

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    I was going to say this earlier and was diverted somehow. Unless she is engaged, I see no reason not to go for it. All's fair in love and war it seems.

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    +10000. Good for the long term. Seems I learned something out of the last time I screwed up and that piece of advice seems to be it.

    JB
     


  10. Connemara

    Connemara [URL='http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6jST2Sv63WQ']

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    She texted me this morning:

    "Let's hang out tonight!"

    How should I act if we do indeed end up hanging out? Presumably we'll be getting sloshed, so would this be a good time to ask her on a date?
     


  11. EL72

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    She texted me this morning:

    "Let's hang out tonight!"

    How should I act if we do indeed end up hanging out? Presumably we'll be getting sloshed, so would this be a good time to ask her on a date?



    Turn her down. Say you have other plans but may be able to see her later in the evening. Go see her one on one; take her for a walk, tell her some shit, then grab her ass and kiss her. Oh and getting sloshed is usually a recipe for pouring out your guts to her, which you want to avoid.
     


  12. apocalypse later

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    You're being a chump, man. Once you tell a girl how into her you are, you're screwed. All the lovey-dovey shit you see on TV is not how it works in real life--the flowers, the confessions, and the "perfect moments"--none of that shit works.

    You have to set yourself apart from other guys. You don't have to change your personality, just your mindset. I suggest buying David DeAngelo's book (Double Your Dating). Of course, there are other ways to acquire it as well...
     


  13. lawyerdad

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    And never say: "I realize that you don't feel the same way."

    +11111. And don't tell her it's "ok to say no" or anything like that. She's a big girl, and she knows that. Just put it out there and see what happens. If she says no, you're not any worse off than before you asked. If anything, you're better off because you've gotten a very clear signal that you need to start directing those energies toward another girl. And the faster you do that, the faster you'll reach the "what the hell was the big deal" stage about this one.
     


  14. lawyerdad

    lawyerdad Senior member

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    Wow, JetBlast and GQGeek giving "how to snag a girl" advice?
    You're fucked Conne.


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  15. Saucemaster

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    These threads are so painful, yet I always subscribe.
     


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