I need advice on how to snag a lady.

Discussion in 'Social Life, Food & Drink, Travel' started by Connemara, Jul 15, 2007.

  1. Connemara

    Connemara [URL='http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6jST2Sv63WQ']

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    Don't do this-

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    for starters. You just had to fix the damn lamp. She is GRABBING YOUR ASS. The lamp should not have been a priority for you.

    JB


    The lamp is in the background, I was making a dance move of some sort. She has a boyfriend anyways.
     


  2. JetBlast

    JetBlast Senior member

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    Oh, ok. Recreating the Proud Mary performance?

    I wouldn't recommend trying to do a Patti LuPone next time around.

    JB
     


  3. GQgeek

    GQgeek Senior member

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    The lamp is in the background, I was making a dance move of some sort. She has a boyfriend anyways.

    my opinion: you have enough hot female friends to last you a lifetime. Don't make anymore. start being direct with new girls you meet.

    And stop drinking. You can do better with girls if you're not drunk and acting like an ass. From what I've see you're always at parties with hot drunk girls... If you can't make it happen there you should just cut-off your penis.
     


  4. Tarmac

    Tarmac Senior member

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    First of all stop being her friend. Stop being so nice to her. This will at the very least distance you from this unattainable chick, for your own sanity. At best, she may even come around and seek you out. Girls are attracted to guys who treat them a little shitty.

    also you should definitely be pursuing other chicks at this time. to quote Alan Arkin,

    Grandpa: [to Dwayne] Fuck a lotta women, kid, I have no reason to lie to you. Not just one, a lotta women.
     


  5. WSW

    WSW Senior member

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  6. edmorel

    edmorel Quality Seller!! Dubiously Honored

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  7. mainy

    mainy Senior member

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    Stop treating these hot chicks like your best friends. Treat them like hot chicks that you want to bone. Look at guys you know that are successful with women - what are they doing in their spare time? Probably hanging out with their group of friends, which will include girls but usually it's girls they ARE involved with or HAVE been involved with. The average guy doesn't want to hang out with a bunch of attractive women that he is just friends with. As politically incorrect as it sounds, that makes you look gay. That makes the women view you as a woman. Stop acting like a woman and be a man, and maybe they will be attracted to you.

    Not only are you fighting the friendzone, you're fighting for respect as a man and for these girls to acknowledge you are a desirable heterosexual male with sexual desires of your own - you are more than a shoulder to cry on. Don't let the females walk all over you.
     


  8. Toiletduck

    Toiletduck Senior member

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    I never really understood/agreed with the ladder theory. W/ most of my later friends, there was always sexual tension, and I had always leveraged the "friendzone" to snag chicks.....
     


  9. tiecollector

    tiecollector Senior member

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    I never really understood/agreed with the ladder theory. W/ most of my later friends, there was always sexual tension, and I had always leveraged the "friendzone" to snag chicks.....

    It is possible to crossover, but it is difficult, because if you miss, you'll fall into the abyss. [reference connemara]
     


  10. Jared

    Jared Senior member

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    I never really understood/agreed with the ladder theory. W/ most of my later friends, there was always sexual tension, and I had always leveraged the "friendzone" to snag chicks.....
    If there's sexual tension, you're not in the friendzone. The friendzone is defined as a zone where they consider you only as a friend. (Although if you can maintain sexual tension long enough that you are considered as a friendwithtension, then one can't help but wonder why you didn't snag them earlier...)
    Stop treating these hot chicks like your best friends. Treat them like hot chicks that you want to bone. Look at guys you know that are successful with women - what are they doing in their spare time? Probably hanging out with their group of friends, which will include girls but usually it's girls they ARE involved with or HAVE been involved with. The average guy doesn't want to hang out with a bunch of attractive women that he is just friends with. As politically incorrect as it sounds, that makes you look gay. That makes the women view you as a woman. Stop acting like a woman and be a man, and maybe they will be attracted to you. Not only are you fighting the friendzone, you're fighting for respect as a man and for these girls to acknowledge you are a desirable heterosexual male with sexual desires of your own - you are more than a shoulder to cry on. Don't let the females walk all over you.
    I agree with all this, but it makes me wonder: In an ideal world, female friends would set you up with their friends. For the most part they don't; even if you've independently dated some of their friends, flirt a lot, etc. Why is this? (Or maybe they do once you reach an age of deafening biological clocks?)
     


  11. GQgeek

    GQgeek Senior member

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    It is possible to crossover, but it is difficult, because if you miss, you'll fall into the abyss. [reference connemara]

    Ed has crossed-over, although he keeps denying it.
     


  12. odoreater

    odoreater Senior member

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    As politically incorrect as it sounds, that makes you look gay.

    The pink polo shirt with white pants doesn't help either.
     


  13. slycedbred

    slycedbred Senior member

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    First of all, to the repeat others advice, don't be such a pussy...Bedding drunk girls? That's so incredibly easy that it's hard NOT to hook up with somebody.

    That chick has a boyfriend? Lol...so? Make her want to not be with him.

    It all comes down to you need to get your act together. What's your approach? Personally, I stick to short, witty lines and let my body do the rest of the talking...My friend on the other hand is a charasmatic motherfucker that'll act so incredibly gay that he's straight again and somehow land a girl every time...The friend zone is a great place to be as long as there's sexual tension at all times...If there's no sexual tension then there's no real point to even be friends...If there's no sexual tension then where is the attraction in the first place?
     


  14. acidboy

    acidboy Senior member

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    I will go against the grain and say, Conne don't sweat it. Just be your damn self and somebody will come along and like you the way you are- or at least more than 50% of the way you are, and you'll live happily ever damn after.
     


  15. alan

    alan Senior member

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    My humble advice:

    Immediately stop showing any romantic interest in her. Act like her and her crush are your last concern. Youve acted clingy and laid all your cards and shown you desperately want her, your in deep sh*t because of that. We all cant resist doing that sometimes.

    I think the only way you can get back on track is with a drastic change. Now whenever u see ehr treat her with disinterest like one of the guys. Talk about other girls you like or hooked up with.

    Oh and start hooking up with chicks more often. Specially ones she knows.

    If she brings up what you said, just ridicule it and pretend it was silly and youre over it.
     


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