I keep buying clothes I think I like, a few months later I hate them

[chrlsful]

I am reading the responses

we can still discuss this among ourselves
L O L

 

[cottontop]

I hear you bud but still want my attire to reflect myself and knowing some of my past girlfriends I'm not sure I'd trust their judgement ; ]

Well then, maybe we need "a queer eye for the straight guy."

 

[A.D.]

Having an identity crisis because you stared too deeply into your wardrobe is 100% real and I relate more than I'd like to.

 

[chrlsful]

not sure it’s helped our Pal as he aint been back. I
appreciate the comments, myself.
Nother forum I posted abandoning ties as even tho still in the board room, seeking ‘something else’. Open neck (still w/sports coat or suit) seemed disrespectful/loss of credability. Tried some ascots, cravats. Been going well. May try non-button downs next (open collar but quite high). I enjoyed yrs of “turtle necks” & want to try scarfs next.

All this is by way of the same. Find what you like. Enjoy. Express ur self. There IS no men’s fashion. Just the 3 or 400 yr old traditions. Break out of that. Dont go too wild (Super Fly, etc) as it looks silly in most settings. But take whats there and personalize it...
8^ )

 

[HotDilf]

Trying to go from 0% to 100% is futile - slow down and enjoy the process.

The Springboard Wardrobe

Podcast: Blamo! - 2024 Wardobes and Listener Questions - from the 12th minute, it addresses precisely your question.

Pick one part of your wardrobe and go learn everything about it. Check high-end, low-end, and vintage shops. Once you've tried enough things, you'll know what you like.

For me, it was knitwear. When I first put on a Loro Piana baby cashmere crewneck, something clicked. And when I compared it to a high street knit, the difference is obvious. I'm not going to spend $150 on an affordable cashmere jumper because I know I'll never wear it. I'd rather have a more expensive sweater that makes me feel good every morning.

 

[Zekaa]

Two further suggestions:

Try to research every term you encounter in order to understand the conceptual implications. "Dark academia" has been mentioned. It's an aesthetic fueled by nostalgia, a romanticized past, so no contemporary cuts and combinations are desirable here. There's Ivy Style from the 1950s as one important inspiration. As Bruce Boyer writes in "True Style": "The period 1945 to 1965 was the golden age of the classic “campus shops,” stores that had built a reputation for catering to the sartorial needs of those with EEE (Eastern Establishment Elite) aspirations, adresses d’or such as J. Press, the Andover Shop, Langrock, Chipp, and Brooks Brothers. These wonderful clothiers were first situated in the cities and towns where the great universities were located: Harvard, Princeton, Yale, and the
other Ivy League schools." So you have a rather limited inventory of design options for sport coat detailing, shoes, sweaters, shirts etc. that can help to give you an exact clue on how an item should be designed to be authentic in that style. For a Dark Academia adoption you just have to cut out the happy aspects of Ivy, for example the cheerful summer madras. You can also go one step further back in history to British country clothing, which even has a wikipedia article. Leave the deer rifle aside for Dark Academia. Both English Country House and Ivy Style live by the term that "new is vulgar". The useful advice to buy vintage can be put alongside the advice to own and wear things for a couple of decades to get the same patina that preworn things already have.

Another suggestion contradicts with what some have posted here: I wouldn't just cauciously approach an outfit. I have made the counterintuitive observation that, sometimes only if you fully commit to a look, the single items can melt together and feel natural, even when they didn't when worn halfheartedly. If wearing a tie feels too flashy, consider an expensive one. Add a pocket square on top – and the tie won't stand out any longer. It's basically the fedora guy problem: If you combine it with a t-shirt, it will look awkward. If you go all in and get the traditional outerwear, you won't end up looking like yourself at the beginning, people might call you Sherlock Holmes, but – that's not the worst, is it?

 

[chrlsful]

sorry Zekaa, every thing post #36 is just what I’m trying to avoid. A fashion 'given a name', some thing from pop culture, much like the site (ascribed), a uniform, Y I have wrote "there is no men’s fashion. We wear what we like, fit or not fit in w/the trendy or the old skol. Comfortable, expressing our own (individual) style. I think I said it in post #30 so will leave it for now.