I broke up with my gf (general breakup thread)

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  1. HelloIDistance

    HelloIDistance Senior member

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    All you guys who are advocating for breaking off contact, do you mean to simply ignore her if she texts/calls?

    Yes.
     


  2. mordecai

    mordecai Immoderator

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    No, be polite and cordial, but keep your distance. Not because it's cool to, but because you seem to have a 3 sentence limit before diving into an emotional tirade. It's normal, but you want to minimize the shit that will make you cringe when you look back on it.
     


  3. HelloIDistance

    HelloIDistance Senior member

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    I would just ignore. What is the point of being polite and cordial right now? It won't work and will only lead to fights. Just ignore and live life. See how you feel in two weeks [​IMG]
     


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    I would just ignore. What is the point of being polite and cordial right now? It won't work and will only lead to fights. Just ignore and live life. See how you feel in two weeks [​IMG]

    +100..
     


  5. APK

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    All you guys who are advocating for breaking off contact, do you mean to simply ignore her if she texts/calls?

    Here's how you do it without appearing like an asshole:

    Reiterate that you understand her need to have space. Tell her that you're respecting that need, but that the only way she will truly have space is if you two are not seeing each other or communicating. Meet-ups, phone calls, texts, Facebook chat, fuckin' ICQ messaging (does anyone still do that shit?); it's all out. Make this clear. If you do and do it the right way (i.e. don't resort to backhanded phrasings), then you've done your part. She can call or text you, but you aren't obligated to respond. You've made your stance clear. You can do nothing more.
     


  6. APK

    APK Senior member

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    I would just ignore. What is the point of being polite and cordial right now? It won't work and will only lead to fights. Just ignore and live life. See how you feel in two weeks [​IMG]

    The point is that even though she's been wishy washy about this whole thing, she hasn't been malicious about it. She's putting him through the emotional strainer, but from what he's saying, it sounds like that's more a result of her own uncertainty about the matter.

    There's a difference between reacting to this in a mature way and being a total pushover in the hopes that she'll take him back. If he keeps communicating with her, he's going to creep into pushover territory. But he can still save face (and his sanity) by telling her that he respects her need for space and that the best way to do that is by severing communication for the time being.
     


  7. GreenFrog

    GreenFrog Senior member

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    Wow.. I don't ever want to go through what Mark is going through right now.
     


  8. APK

    APK Senior member

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    I strong recommend that anyone trying to get past a defunct relationship NOT watch this past week's episode of The Office.

    No need for snarks about how no one should watch any new episodes of the series; the scenario presented this week was exceptionally done, but probably the last thing anyone mending a broken heart should see.
     


  9. MarkI

    MarkI Senior member

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    Well she said it's over, so I guess this thing is officially done. Over the phone too, what the fuck? Even though hours after she said that, she texted me, " I love you so much" ahahaha, fuck it
     


  10. Matt

    Matt [email protected]

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    wow irony - someone spammed the breakup thread with cheap viagra, LOL.
    Well she said it's over, so I guess this thing is officially done. Over the phone too, what the fuck? Even though hours after she said that, she texted me, " I love you so much" ahahaha, fuck it
    sorry to hear it man. Learn what you can from it, spend some time working on yourself, get fit, learn a language, take some photos, learn to cook, alla that, and emerge a better man from it. Good luck Matt
     


  11. MarkI

    MarkI Senior member

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    Ugh, 8 am, and I'm still drunk as a skunk. For what it's worth, I'm 19 years old, there is no way I could realistically believe anyone who I met now would be the person I spend my life with...
     


  12. Matt

    Matt [email protected]

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    oh id met like 40 girls who i was sure i could spend my whole life with at 19, youre way behind, haha [​IMG] it'll suck but you'll be fine son. Go pass out and sleep it off.
     


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    All you guys who are advocating for breaking off contact, do you mean to simply ignore her if she texts/calls?

    yes
     


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    Ugh, 8 am, and I'm still drunk as a skunk. For what it's worth, I'm 19 years old, there is no way I could realistically believe anyone who I met now would be the person I spend my life with...

    only 19.. no wonder this seemed like such a fail. the next one will be better
     


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