I broke up with my gf (general breakup thread)

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  1. Nil

    Nil Senior member

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    That's my read on the situation also. I just wish she would have picked a more logically consistent reason for ending it.

    "We need to stop having sex, you want more than that and I'm not able to do that right now."
    "Uh...... what are you talking about? I thought I made it clear that just hooking up is ideal."
    "I feel like you aren't happy with just that."
    "Uh...... yeah, I actually am. I told you this earlier today in fact."
    "I feel like you aren't okay with just meeting up occasionally for sex and well, I am."
    "Uh..... yes, yes I am. In fact, that's a great situation."

    That's an accurate paraphrasing of the conversation. I don't care that much (though she was incredibly attractive), but don't place the blame on me for some shit I didn't even do. That's just weird. What's new though, right?


    And kwilk, photographic evidence posted in SW&D WAYWT proves I'm alpha as phuck.
     
  2. kwilkinson

    kwilkinson Having a Ball

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    And kwilk, photographic evidence posted in SW&D WAYWT proves I'm alpha as phuck.
    I feel you dog. Sometimes I can't even work up the energy to fuck myself.
     
  3. Nil

    Nil Senior member

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    hm.... I didn't feel like masturbating tonight, perhaps this means more to me than I previously thought.
     
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    solidarity to jenlain bro
     
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    ^ Basically had the exact same conversation with a girl Nil. A slightly different situation because we did go out for a long time a while back so there were a lot more emotions in play, but the same conversation. I think it is code for 'there is someone else on the scene, and I feel guilty sleeping with you'. @Fuji, that girl sounds like she needs a friend, not a fuck buddy. Whilst it wouldn't be great for her to see you ditching her and moving on, you definitely don't want to be sleeping with her. If you have known her for two years and do care about her to some extent be there for her as a friend.
     
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    Thanks for the good vibes. She is out as of today. She was pretty calm at the end. Hoping she gets the help she needs. I feel completely free. No regrets.
     
  7. robinsongreen68

    robinsongreen68 Senior member

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    That's my read on the situation also. I just wish she would have picked a more logically consistent reason for ending it. "We need to stop having sex, you want more than that and I'm not able to do that right now." "Uh...... what are you talking about? I thought I made it clear that just hooking up is ideal." "I feel like you aren't happy with just that." "Uh...... yeah, I actually am. I told you this earlier today in fact." "I feel like you aren't okay with just meeting up occasionally for sex and well, I am." "Uh..... yes, yes I am. In fact, that's a great situation." That's an accurate paraphrasing of the conversation. I don't care that much (though she was incredibly attractive), but don't place the blame on me for some shit I didn't even do. That's just weird. What's new though, right? And kwilk, photographic evidence posted in SW&D WAYWT proves I'm alpha as phuck.
    even still, and nil's undoubted alpha-ness notwithstanding, in my experience lots of black women have all kinds of byzantine codes and standards for judging men on whatever level, even just casual hookups. one i was having a thing with told me only half-jokingly that a closet full of £300 denim indicated a man who was Lacking a Higher Purpose in Life. This same girl, who is gorgeous, still couldn't understand why so many white guys want to go out with her, because 'black women judge you, and they are HARSH'
     
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    robinsongreen68 Senior member

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    How you know if a girl might like you but she's scared to tell you? Let's say this girl has only had 1 true boyfriend in the past 6 years and has bounced around from guy to guy to guy(just having flings). I suspect she may have been in an emotionally abusive relationship as it was hard for her to admit to me that she has horribly low self-esteem and that she has some anxiety issues and that she's not happy. She does not drink or do drugs.
     
  12. Eason

    Eason Bicurious Racist

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    I wish you guys would stop quoting people I have on ignore.
    Actually, having met fuji (but not you) I reckon you and fuji have a lot in common
     
  13. Nil

    Nil Senior member

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    even still, and nil's undoubted alpha-ness notwithstanding, in my experience lots of black women have all kinds of byzantine codes and standards for judging men on whatever level, even just casual hookups. one i was having a thing with told me only half-jokingly that a closet full of £300 denim indicated a man who was Lacking a Higher Purpose in Life. This same girl, who is gorgeous, still couldn't understand why so many white guys want to go out with her, because 'black women judge you, and they are HARSH'
    I'd judge you for £300 denim also. [​IMG] I think your analysis is accurate for most women regardless of race though. BTW, the girl called me late at night on Friday for a booty call. I suppose I can roll with it for now though causing drama in what's supposed to be an emotionless physical relationship violates the rules.
     
  14. Nouveau Pauvre

    Nouveau Pauvre Senior member

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    Thank you.

    It wasn't going anywhere. We wanted different things, different lives and we were spending more time arguing than anything. But when we weren't arguing, life was great.
    It's probably for the best, but rationalizing it doesn't make me feel any better. [​IMG]


    at least you have great taste in music.
     
  15. Nouveau Pauvre

    Nouveau Pauvre Senior member

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    Actually, having met fuji (but not you) I reckon you and fuji have a lot in common

    He apparently gets laid more then I do.
     

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