I broke up with my gf (general breakup thread)

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by Matt, Dec 21, 2008.

  1. frenchy

    frenchy In Time Out

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    Nothing happened, really. I guess in a way, since she and I had been together for our entire adult lives, we grew together. Like it felt like I couldn't do this on my own, because I didn't know what being on my own meant. And I kept telling myself that I had to be back with her, I had to find a way to get us back together, I had to keep believing, blah blah blah. But when I stopped telling myself that, and just focused on my life and my career and just told myself to stop thinking about her every second of every day, I realized that it's over and that it's for the best.

    sounds logical,now if you just dont go comparing every new chick to the ex (i know its hard) you just might come out of all this in one piece
     


  2. kwilkinson

    kwilkinson Having a Ball

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    sounds logical,now if you just dont go comparing every new chick to the ex (i know its hard) you just might come out of all this in one piece

    I'm still not in a rush to get into another relationship. I'm happy just working 100 hours a week and spending the rest of my time drinking and SF'ing. I have a "coffee date" this weekend and already compare her to the ex, which is not much of a competition. [​IMG]
     


  3. ratboycom

    ratboycom Senior member

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    single again after a 10 year relationship. naturally, i broke it off but still it fucking sucks like a motherfucker. prolly explains why i'm downing shots of Jack on a Wednesday evening.

    and the thing that bothers me the most is if this happens after 10 fucking years, what's the fucking point of getting into a fucking relationship in the first fucking place?

    now i'm gonna have to start dating again. i'm too old for this.

    "drown myself it's just as well"

    -Jeff


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    What finally broke it down for you? On good terms with the ex or plan to be?

    Contemplating my current 5 year relationship, though it could just be compounded stress of my impending graduation and stuff.
     


  4. Eason

    Eason Bicurious Racist

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    single again after a 10 year relationship. naturally, i broke it off but still it fucking sucks like a motherfucker. prolly explains why i'm downing shots of Jack on a Wednesday evening.

    and the thing that bothers me the most is if this happens after 10 fucking years, what's the fucking point of getting into a fucking relationship in the first fucking place?

    now i'm gonna have to start dating again. i'm too old for this.

    "drown myself it's just as well"

    -Jeff


    Can't imagine what that's like, worse than most divorces probably since most marriages don't last 10. Keep fightin' buddy.
     


  5. edinatlanta

    edinatlanta Senior member

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    just 10? MarkI gf skank level is 12 minimum!

    ffy
     


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    APK Senior member

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    The loopy girl my friend is dealing with had a status about people pretending to be her friend and then talking about her behind her back. Then she deleted me and five or six other people, all of whom happened to be out consoling my friend the night he got dumped.

    I haven't talked to him, but it seems pretty obvious he passed along some of the things we said about her and this situation. Proof that you're never too old to engage in petty middle school-level drama.

    P.S. after talking with a buddy of mine, the confirmed number of dudes this girl has fucked in the last two years is up to nine.
     


  7. Eason

    Eason Bicurious Racist

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    Who cares about how many guys she's had sex with in the last 2 years? If a guy fucked that many you'd be telling him to get his average up, so the math has to work out somehow. Jesus.
     


  8. Matt

    Matt [email protected]

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    P.S. after talking with a buddy of mine, the confirmed number of dudes this girl has fucked in the last two years is up to nine.
    so? when she starts doing nine in a month, you may have a reasonable claim for 'slut', but that's basically one dude per quarter with a bonus on New Years. What's wrong with that?
     


  9. Matt

    Matt [email protected]

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    ^actually, women being women, more likely there was a little phase where she was seeing 3-4 guys at once and so 4 of those 9 happened in short order, and the other five spread out over 22 months.

    men being men, your friend is just all pissy cos he can't get laid as often as she can, and no one in the world is having hotter gangbangs than his own ex inside his own head....but it's much easier to call her a slut than up his own game.
     


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    unjung Senior member

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    What finally broke it down for you? On good terms with the ex or plan to be?

    Contemplating my current 5 year relationship, though it could just be compounded stress of my impending graduation and stuff.


    stuff just wasn't working out and hadn't been for awhile. we're on good terms. she's still good people.

    my only piece of advice for you is if you know it's over, get out and don't let it drag out. sounds cheesy but you don't get a second chance at life.

    -Jeff
     


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    Lane Senior member

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    Who cares about how many guys she's had sex with in the last 2 years? If a guy fucked that many you'd be telling him to get his average up, so the math has to work out somehow. Jesus.

    keys vs locks

    A good lock can only be opened by few keys, but a good key can open many locks.
     


  13. hendrix

    hendrix Ill-proportioned

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    P.S. after talking with a buddy of mine, the confirmed number of dudes this girl has fucked in the last two years is up to nine.


    Yeah it's not the number, it's the fact that they know about it, meaning most of them would be in the same circle of friends.

    could be kinda weird.
     


  14. East2West

    East2West Senior member

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    Here's my sob story in a nutshell:
    S/o thinks I'm doing stuff like lying and cheating and going behind the back.
    The only thing "behind the back" so to speak that I was doing was shopping for a ring.

    Pretty bummed right now especially because I didn't do anything, I'm too old for this petty immature stress and I wanted to get married.

    Don't know what to do right now I'm so freaking confused....
     


  15. frenchy

    frenchy In Time Out

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    keys vs locks

    A good lock can only be opened by few keys, but a good key can open many locks.


    this may be my new motto in life
     


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