I broke up with my gf (general breakup thread)

[Neo_Version 7]



Hey guys

Lay it on us, girlfriend.

 

[otc]



Lay it on us, girlfriend.

http://www.styleforum.net/t/29653/things-that-are-pissing-you-off/53700#post_6681155

 

[kwilkinson]

Ehh. Sucky but obviously for the best OTC.

 

[otc]

She wrote me a check (after the breakup started) to pay me back for some concert/theater tickets I bought (she had been planning to pay...just nobody carries checks or very much cash).

I feel kinda weird depositing it...but at the same time, it was probably motivated by a "here's all your crap back so I can go on without you" sentiment (it was accompanied by the few things of mine that were at here place), so it's kind of awkward to just ignore it. I guess I will deposit it...

I do hope we can continue to be friends at some point. I've had good luck remaining friendly, or at least cordial, with my exes,...we met through a good friend and she became friends with all of my friends (though for some reason,I never really got close to any of her friends)

 

[GreenFrog]

Otc, that is a burden too heavy to be carried by one man.

There is one exception, however, and that is me.

Send me the check in my name.

 

[kwilkinson]

Or me. 28.5 gets old quick.

 

[otc]

Actually contemplated sending some of it to my high school girlfriend (kind of like a belated wedding present since she just got married).

When we broke up, I skipped out on something like a 100 debt (and I don't think I paid it back the first summer of college when we started getting it on again). I usually see them when I go home for holidays and I think she could use the money (grad student and all)...

And that whole karma thing

 

[acidboy]

there. is. no. such. thing. as. karma.

spend it on yourself. buy something nice. buy your friends drinks. buy a tube of ice cream and a nice movie from netflix or whatever you people use. get a nice expensive hooker. or weed. you deserve the break, dude.

 

[Joffrey]

Cash the check and go to a strip club.

 

[edinatlanta]

I'll be posting in here soon, guys.

 

[Neo_Version 7]

Did she finally escape from your basement?

 

[lasbar]



Actually contemplated sending some of it to my high school girlfriend (kind of like a belated wedding present since she just got married).

When we broke up, I skipped out on something like a 100 debt (and I don't think I paid it back the first summer of college when we started getting it on again). I usually see them when I go home for holidays and I think she could use the money (grad student and all)...

And that whole karma thing

Are you Catholic with all that guilt trip????

 

[texas_jack]



I don't know.

This sounds so ******, but I think it might have partly been the ego trip of going up to the hottest girl in the club and succeeding*. I say this because I thought about leaving once it was clear I could have it, but I didn't. I'd got way too far in by that stage.

The other thing is that our relationship wasn't going very well. I had just moved to a new city to be with her and I expected that her neediness would wane after that move but it didn't. I should probably have called it then, but it'd been one of those relationships where we were often breaking up and getting back together and I'd basically gotten to the point where I didn't see a real break up as an option.

Neither of those are meant to be excuses. Just reflections for myself to think about.

Jesus christ I'm an asshole.

It's very humbling to realise how corruptible I've become.

*not meant to be a humblebrag.

bump

 

[edinatlanta]

gimme an hour and I will have

 

[rolayejoy]

it's better that it's done prior to the new year's. Now you have a fresh start to court any ladies you like.