Gf and I broke up a few days ago, after about 3.5 yrs. Complicated situation as we live together and I may be taking a job that will take me to Hong Kong. We moved in together about a year ago but I just started a job that I hated and after a few months was just checked out, from the relationship and the job. From both sides I guess we got too comfortable and didn't work much on the relationship and got too complacent. Guess it got to the point where she said she loves me but isn't in love with me anymore. I guess I feel similarly but would have wanted to try to work it out, but its probably too late now. Honestly had thought we would eventually get married. She are still best friends and I love her to death but this time apart while I'm abroad will help us appreciate each other a lot more. Not saying I am hoping to get back together but now we can actually see if we can achieve the same kind of relationship with someone else. I have doubts about that but only time will tell. I think a lot of Western raised women have this idealistic idea about what a relationship should be like. For me, I love living with her and liked the routine. But the biggest challenge is to fight complacency and continue to work on the relationship. I feel like I'm almost more devastated that our life together is ending rather than the actual breakup. anyone have an experience like this before? exact situation i am in, except... i don't live with the gf i've been with her almost 6 years and we're not broken up yet it gets harder to break up everyday, but it has to be done. i'm fucked.