jgold47
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So I had a pretty ****** day starting with my big boss calling and yelling at me for something that may or may not have been warranted. Then, I called my other boss to tell him that the big boss called and then he started in on me (in a very ' I am looking out for you' kind of way, which I appreciated). Then last night, I started talking to my mom on the way home (from the bar, but thats ok), and got into a very similar 90 minute conversation with a lot of the same things.
Now I would genreally characterize myself as a nice guy, and generally a happy person (as much as I can be in this day and age), but I know I have a bit of a short fuse. I do get angry about stuff I shouldnt, I tend to take things personally (I have kind of a thin skin), I can be glib and sarcastic, and I would also throw paranoid about certain things.
The kind of things that set me off are things like, people being shady, people being selfish, people being contradictory (thats a big one for me a work.) I tend to assume people are trying to **** me, and act accordingly.
I am also very paranoid about work. I think at my first big kids job, they really did a number on us, telling us that if we dont get promoted between 12-18 months we will probably get fired, and that instead of having one boss (you work with several 'more senior' level people) multiple people weight in on you. I always think i am one mess up away from getting fired. Perhaps those things are cause and effect of each other (paranoid because I am angry, angry because I am paranoid). Because of this, I tend to be agressive, (though gerenally not cocky or dismissive - at least not on purpose).
Obviously getting this from the better part of 3 people yesterday sucked, but do any of you have similar tales, and how do you 'make yourself less angry'
Now I would genreally characterize myself as a nice guy, and generally a happy person (as much as I can be in this day and age), but I know I have a bit of a short fuse. I do get angry about stuff I shouldnt, I tend to take things personally (I have kind of a thin skin), I can be glib and sarcastic, and I would also throw paranoid about certain things.
The kind of things that set me off are things like, people being shady, people being selfish, people being contradictory (thats a big one for me a work.) I tend to assume people are trying to **** me, and act accordingly.
I am also very paranoid about work. I think at my first big kids job, they really did a number on us, telling us that if we dont get promoted between 12-18 months we will probably get fired, and that instead of having one boss (you work with several 'more senior' level people) multiple people weight in on you. I always think i am one mess up away from getting fired. Perhaps those things are cause and effect of each other (paranoid because I am angry, angry because I am paranoid). Because of this, I tend to be agressive, (though gerenally not cocky or dismissive - at least not on purpose).
Obviously getting this from the better part of 3 people yesterday sucked, but do any of you have similar tales, and how do you 'make yourself less angry'