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How to quit?

Discussion in 'Business, Careers & Education' started by leftover_salmon, Feb 1, 2011.

  1. leftover_salmon

    leftover_salmon Senior member

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    So things haven't worked out -- I've only been on the job for 7 months (since graduating college), but I don't love the city in which I'm living. Aside from that fact, I like my job a lot and the people with whom I work...doesn't help that I've known all of them for 2+ years as I spent two summers as intern with the same group. An opportunity has come up for me in NYC, where I'd rather live (literally 90% of my friends are there, whereas I have just a couple non-work friends here). I tried to feel out my boss on moving (without mentioning why) and his reaction was a flat "No. We hired you for here. Maybe in a couple years." (I can't fault him for that but it was very unequivocal.) I've accepted an offer at this other firm in NYC and am wondering how to quit my job here. Problem is I'm a pansy. I work on a trading floor and I don't want a whole scene made of it. Moreover, I want to give two weeks' notice, but don't really want to work the two weeks (seems too awkward and painful to handle)...though I'm hoping they won't make me, given I'm on the private side and will be moving to another bank and working in the same group. So how do I quit professionally without having a scene made?
     
  2. Eason

    Eason Senior member

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    Tell them that you recieved an offer that you couldn't refuse in New York, and while you like working there it's just the best choice for your future. They'll understand, and if they don't, then fuck them anyway.
     
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    Tell them that you recieved an offer that you couldn't refuse in New York, and while you like working there it's just the best choice for your future. They'll understand, and if they don't, then fuck them anyway.

    pretty much
     
  4. leftover_salmon

    leftover_salmon Senior member

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    How about whom do I tell? Do I tell the Managing Director (i.e. very senior position) with whom I work the closest, or the head of the group, who is technically my boss but much less involved in my day-to-day work (though he's still only ~20 feet away)?
     
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    Dakota rube Senior member

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    Tell them that you recieved an offer that you couldn't refuse in New York, and while you like working there it's just the best choice for your future. They'll understand, and if they don't, then fuck them anyway.

    Yes.
    And be sure to ask these people for a nice letter of recommendation for future job hunts.
     
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    Yes.
    And be sure to ask these people for a nice letter of recommendation for future job hunts.

    [​IMG]
     
  8. leftover_salmon

    leftover_salmon Senior member

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    Okay, I really don't want to work two more weeks. I have to pack all my shit up and move.
     
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    I don't know much about trading but I'd imagine if they want to make a scene they'll make a scene. A buddy of mine quit his i-banking job after 6 months and they basically went ballistic on him.

    Just do the right thing - give two weeks' notice, expect to work it all, and handle the thing with as much decorum and class as you can. You can't control them, but you can control you, and it's best to go with your dignity intact and head held high.

    Good luck.
     
  10. countdemoney

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    Do a nice letter, sincerely thank them for the opportunity and expect to be there until the end. Be polite through and through. Say absolutely nothing untoward about your employer or fellow co-workers. Even in your exit interview with HR, be super complimentary to the people and the firm.

    I've got standing offers with a few former companies because I was a good person about leaving. You never know who will remember you one day.

    Re: moving. Full service moves are pretty cheap these days. Your new employer may also have discounted rates with van lines that you can use. Takes out a ton of stress and worth every penny, IMO.
     
  11. IUtoSLU

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    Okay, I really don't want to work two more weeks. I have to pack all my shit up and move.

    I don't think that, in trading, they will make you work for two weeks. In our industry, they usually escort you out as soon as you give notice.
     
  12. West24

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    its business, if they had to they would cut you, so sometimes you have to do whats right for you.
     
  13. MasterOfReality

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    Man up and write your resignation letter, hand it to your boss and be done with it. Don't expect glowing references though. They should understand that people change jobs. I felt like an arse quitting my last job and thought the boss would go mental, but he thought about it for 5 mins and said 'I dont blame you, if I were offered a better job elsewhere I'd be out of here in 10 minutes'. There is usually a way of getting out of working the minimum notice, but you can expect to forfeit accrued holidays and other payouts. Hey, you accepted another job so you gotta do it. Let us know how it goes [​IMG]
     
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    There is usually a way of getting out of working the minimum notice, but you can expect to forfeit accrued holidays and other payouts.

    Unless you are contractually obligated to give 2 weeks notice and stay for those full 2 weeks, they can't keep your holidays/medical/etc payouts like that. IIRC it's against federal employee law.
     
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    Unless you are contractually obligated to give 2 weeks notice and stay for those full 2 weeks, they can't keep your holidays/medical/etc payouts like that. IIRC it's against federal employee law.

    In my contract we have to give 4 weeks notice, but there is a clause that says that we can choose to forfeit any payouts up to the value of those 4 weeks and leave work early.

    Then again every workplace is different.
     
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    Tell your MD first, then your group head, they'll call HR, get all that jazz done.... If you're in a front office job I bet they'll tell you to leave immediately.
     
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    S&T? Most likely they'll tell you to pack up on that day and dont think of working there again. If you have made a good impression there then its nothing to sweat about though.
     
  18. Risque

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    How about whom do I tell? Do I tell the Managing Director (i.e. very senior position) with whom I work the closest, or the head of the group, who is technically my boss but much less involved in my day-to-day work (though he's still only ~20 feet away)?
    Here's how I've handled a similar situation.

    1. Draft up a letter, addressed to the group head, thanking him and the company for the opportunities you've had during your time there.
    2. Look for an opportunity to catch your MD off the floor (at the coffee shop would be a prime location).
    3. Mention that you've wanted to speak with him about something - say that although you are probably breaking protocol by talking to the MD before your direct supervisor, you value the relationship and wanted to let him know first. Explain that for reasons entirely unrelated to your work, you've decided that living in [town] isn't right for you, and you've accepted a position elsewhere which fits your living arrangements.
    4. Before the rumour mill has a chance to start turning, front up to the group head and pull him aside. Repeat step 3. Hand him the letter at the end of the conversation, just saying that you put it in a letter to make things official.

    Again, if you're front office, or working on anything that involves much IP, they'll likely march you straight away. Discreetly pack some things beforehand, and don't let the door hit you in the ass on the way out.
     
  19. Joffrey

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    So how do I quit professionally without having a scene made?

    Glad you took the gig. Schedule a meeting with your boss. Sit down with him and tell him you are resigning. Articulate what you've learned from the gig, the good things and that your appreciate the opportunity he provided you. Ask if you could use him as a reference.

    * He will tell you he is dissapointed with your decision (as you should want to hear), but will obviously accept it. He may ask what exactly drove you to it - be frank (minus mentioning his halitosis). If you're lucky he may try to find a way to sweeten your stay - if he does and you don't want it, don't be afraid to reject it then or take a "day or two" to think it through and reject it anyway.

    Once you've shaken hands with your boss about this. You can then join your office friends for drinks or lunch and break the news. Before rumours spread (but after you've told people you're close to) send out an office-wide email about your pursuing a new opporunity and how wonderful your experience there has been.

    *They'll be dissapointed but excited to learn about your opportunity (as you would hope to hear).
     
  20. Hannerhan

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    Here's how I've handled a similar situation.

    1. Draft up a letter, addressed to the group head, thanking him and the company for the opportunities you've had during your time there.
    2. Look for an opportunity to catch your MD off the floor (at the coffee shop would be a prime location).
    3. Mention that you've wanted to speak with him about something - say that although you are probably breaking protocol by talking to the MD before your direct supervisor, you value the relationship and wanted to let him know first. Explain that for reasons entirely unrelated to your work, you've decided that living in [town] isn't right for you, and you've accepted a position elsewhere which fits your living arrangements.
    4. Before the rumour mill has a chance to start turning, front up to the group head and pull him aside. Repeat step 3. Hand him the letter at the end of the conversation, just saying that you put it in a letter to make things official.

    Again, if you're front office, or working on anything that involves much IP, they'll likely march you straight away. Discreetly pack some things beforehand, and don't let the door hit you in the ass on the way out.


    Exactly...don't ever give someone a letter as your resignation...I can't imagine someone doing that to me.

    I've had one job in my 11 year career, and I just quit that job on Monday. The bottom line is that it's really awkward, but you have to man up and do it the right way because someone very well might be calling these people one day checking your reference and you want the ending impression to be a good one.

    And as others have said, they'll likely walk you out if you're on the floor anyway, but if you have to do the two weeks, you'll have plenty of time to surf the web. Hmm, maybe that explains my recent hanging out on this site... [​IMG]
     

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