Those in relationships, how do you bring up a conversation about your mate's (somewhat physical) shortcomings? For example, they may have gained weight, lost some hygiene habits, etc. I recently met a girl who is GREAT except that she's a little overweight. By a little, I mean more than "thick." Anyways, is there any polite, respectful way to ask her if she plans to do anything about it, how she views herself, etc? Call me shallow, but I'm actually looking for the fact that she is motivated, and recognizes it would be healthy to lose weight (or not, if that's how she feels). She's actually slowly losing weight, so the other night I asked "Is that on purpose?" I didn't get much of a quality response, just that it was partially on purpose and partially not. Thanks Guys!