How to deal with a *****-whipped friend?

[GreenFrog]

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[Xericx]

Live and Let Die.

 

[scientific]

this is not being whipped this is being in a serious relationship. but it sounds like GF will peace out after school at which point you may get your bro back

 

[West24]

i get the ***** whipped part being annoying, but if its more important to be with her then career wise what is it your business? if he truly thinks this girl is for him then i would also rather be with someone if i felt id be marrying them etc. by then if youre not in the same city as him who really cares anyway. she wont be taking away your bro time anyhow.

 

[acidboy]

he's not a kid. let him be. be a ***** whipped shadow of a man. but its still his life.

 

[GreenFrog]

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[Logan]

When I read this thread title, I expected Neo to be the OP.

 

[Don Carlos]

Is this his first serious relationship? Does he generally have a hard time with women, aside from this gilfriend of his? Has he ever confided in you, during his fights with the gf, that he thinks about breaking up with her -- but can't, because he is afraid he'll never find someone else like her?

If so, he may have self-esteem issues, and the only way he's going to learn to respect himself is by letting this relationship live out its natural course, and by falling hard on his ass when it inevitably collapses. There's pretty much nothing you can do to influence the outcome, and I suggest you don't even try; he'll just resent you for it.

It'll be over soon, when she decides she wants to move on without him -- at which point, you and your bros swoop in and help him pick up the pieces.

I had a friend go through something remarkably similar in his early twenties. This is a classic pattern of events that low-self-esteem guys must play out before learning to grow a pair. I know that sounds harsh, but it's a tale as old as time. Don't overplay your hand while he's still in the relationship, as that will only drive him further into his safety blanket (her). Instead, just be there, ready to forgive and forget, when the house of cards comes tumbling down. The true meaning of "bros before hos" will be made manifest to him at that point.

 

[GreenFrog]

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[manny44]

I seriously don't think your friend is ***** whipped as you put it. I just think he is more of that kind of guy that thinks that everything in this life evolves around love and the person you love.

But don't worry if you really like your buddy, just stick around, he will be back to you soon enough when she dumps him.

 

[Don Carlos]

Like I said, I've been there with one of my best friends.

The confidence is at least partially a facade. If he were truly confident, he wouldn't be as insecure as he is. The insecurity is forcing him to overcompensate with an outward display of confidence. It's a classic pattern.

He needs to learn to love himself before he embarks on relationships like this one. And the only way he'll learn is through the collapse of this relationship. Expect a long, but hopefully successful recovery period.

 

[intent]

Let him be.

 

[Flieger]

Op is in luv wiv hiz fwiend

 

[Alter]

Originally Posted by Flieger

Op is in luv wiv hiz fwiend

That's wat I am reading.

 

[hooya2]

sever all ties