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How Often Do Random Strangers Start Up Conversations With You?

Discussion in 'Social Life, Food & Drink, Travel' started by pimpmystyle, Jan 30, 2011.

  1. jingco

    jingco Active Member

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    I know that Ed will have fun with this, but men stop me in the street to tell me how good I look. [​IMG] Seriously though, I've had a few ask me who my tailor was or tell me that my overcoat is really nice... Seems to happen every 2-3 weeks. Don't think any of them were SFers... I wish women would do this more often instead of men. [​IMG]

    It depends on what you wear. I got this red feather hat, I get a lot of compliments from women. It's almost an extension of my head now. My buddy wears a lot of flashy suits and women approach him too. Peacocking works.
     
  2. k1d.

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    never (houston, tx)
    everyone always say i look intimidating.. or hard to approach
    i ono how thats the case.. im only 5'5
     
  3. NAMOR

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    Me neither (a bit north of you), although I'll say hi first to almost every person I pass on the sidewalk. It just seems polite.
    +1. I live in Suburbia where everyone drives. This limits your opportunities as their aren't too many face-to-face interactions. Good or bad.
     
  4. JayJay

    JayJay Senior member

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    More often than I like.
     
  5. Garbage Mouth

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    Never (Brooklyn/NYC)

    Everyone's too busy with their lives to shoot the shit with a stranger
     
  6. texas_jack

    texas_jack Senior member

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    Everyone's too busy with their lives to shoot the shit with a stranger


    That's really just what people tell themselves. Not everyone in NY is a stockbroker working 12hr days. I'm not saying it's bad but just that that reason is BS.
     
  7. ashpool

    ashpool Senior member

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    We're like twins or something (minus smoking)
     
  8. Don Carlos

    Don Carlos Senior member

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    I get talked to and approached a lot. I also get smiles from passing women all the time. This is all to be expected, as I am both extremely beautiful and magnificently prosperous.
     
  9. ratboycom

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    hahaha, this recalls the guy on public transport. in this hilarious/awesome webcomic i saw on digg ages ago, happened to find it after some searching:

    [​IMG]


    [​IMG]
     
  10. socialdtk

    socialdtk Senior member

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    Everyday. I live in the South.

    Once or twice a year. I also live in the south.
     
  11. Mulch Diggums

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    Keeps happening even though it's considered odd where I live. Easier in other countries though.
     
  12. JayJay

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    I get talked to and approached a lot. I also get smiles from passing women all the time. This is all to be expected, as I am both extremely beautiful and magnificently prosperous.
    A couple of days ago a woman stopped me on College Avenue in Berkeley to tell me how handsome and nicely dressed I was. I was surprised and flattered at the same time. [​IMG]
     
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    A couple of days ago a woman stopped me on College Avenue in Berkeley to tell me how handsome and nicely dressed I was. I was surprised and flattered at the same time. [​IMG]

    Was she student aged?
     
  14. adidasfan

    adidasfan Senior member

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    yes talking to strangers is happening more for various reasons.

    i think one reason is people are trying to develop social skills
    and alot of books are telling people to just go up to soomeone and start talking.

    all the dating books for example are now telling men and women to build their conversation skills by talking to strangers.
     
  15. SkinnyGoomba

    SkinnyGoomba Senior member

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    That's really just what people tell themselves. Not everyone in NY is a stockbroker working 12hr days. I'm not saying it's bad but just that that reason is BS.

    +1, People from the south are great, they always have time to chat about nothing. People from the northeast dread conversation with strangers for some reason, to the point of it being ridiculous. It's funny watching strangers pretend to be busy with their phones so that they can avoid having a conversation with the people around them.
     
  16. Made in California

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    I hadn't really considered this, but I realized that recently just about every day, someone I don't know is inclined to start up a conversation with me. This happens pretty much anywhere: a sports event, the grocery store, or anywhere really. I live in a small town where people usually keep to themselves and people they've known for quite a while, which makes this even more unusual.

    Do you think that perhaps we are in an era of unusual optimism? Is it because it's a new year? There is definitely something going on.


    I've lived in many different parts of the west coast including Sacramento, San Diego, Seattle and now Los Angeles. People are by far the friendliest in LA. It's funny how LA gets such a bad rap from people about everyone being backstabbing industry ladder climbers. People chat with me all day, it's lovely.

    Me neither (a bit north of you), although I'll say hi first to almost every person I pass on the sidewalk. It just seems polite.

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    Is it opposite day? What a weird lady...

    Quite a bit, I would say. Of course, it varies with where I'm living.
    ...

    In Seattle, people are friendly but extraordinarily passive. As corresponds, conversation is rarely volunteered out of what I suspect is this strange unambitious timidness which seems to weave the city together. ...


    Seriously! In LA whenever I get in the elevator someone will say something. In Seattle every elevator ride is done in complete silence. Fuck Seattlites. Everyone told me before I moved there, "People from Seattle are very nice!" but their shyness makes them come off as stand-offish. Everyone tries to apologize for them, "Oh, they don't mean to have bad social skills," but I really don't feel there's any excuse. People from Seattle are weak and uninteresting.

    I will note that an anomaly was cashiers at the grocery store: EVERY time they'd make a comment about the food I was buying. I can't remember one time they didn't say something about my produce selection or something.

    I must have that face, because friends constantly comment on how people just don't like to leave me alone.
    I get talked to and approached a lot. I also get smiles from passing women all the time. This is all to be expected, as I am both extremely beautiful and magnificently prosperous.

    Your comment came off tongue-in-cheek, but I think this is why. I think good-looking people are getting approached more often.

    yes talking to strangers is happening more for various reasons.

    i think one reason is people are trying to develop social skills
    and alot of books are telling people to just go up to soomeone and start talking.

    all the dating books for example are now telling men and women to build their conversation skills by talking to strangers.


    This is an interesting response to the OP. I can't imagine it's having that large of an effect on the overall cultural zeitgeist, but if it is that's fascinating. In a good way, I think.

    As stated earlier, now that I'm living in LA people talk to me a lot (particularly women), and there are a lot of times where I just know they're going to say something and I just wait and refuse to say anything because I'm curious what their opener is going to be. I figure, "Well I have no idea how I would open them in this situation, so let's see what they do." And every once in a while they'll say something totally off the wall and stupid, and it's quite entertaining. For example I'll be getting pizza and someone comes up behind me in line. A moment of silence, then, "So, you're like totally addicted to this place?" Uhhh wtf? I enjoy all my random conversations, everyone in LA is very nice.
     

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