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How much to change wedding to accommodate family?

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by mordecai, Sep 19, 2012.

  1. globetrotter

    globetrotter Senior member

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    ok, can't argue there. but the offer is still open...
     
  2. mcbrown

    mcbrown Senior member

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    This is a fine outcome as well. As long as it's really what BOTH you and your wife want.
     
  3. dopey

    dopey Senior member Dubiously Honored

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    This is the right response. I read the rest of the thread and, eloping aside, if you go the wedding-on-Saturday-and-accommodate-her-as-best-you-can route, she will eventually come around and attend, though I have no doubt she will be uncomfortable at times (like with the food, music, microphones and dancing). Also, the idea that you and your sister inevitably won't talk to each other in ten years because of religious differences is stupid (sorry Globe). Every family is different and lots of families manage to accommodate differences (I say from personal experience). Sometimes it works and sometimes not.
     
  4. globetrotter

    globetrotter Senior member

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    ok, but you have to promise me that if you do elope, you call your sister and say "it's your fault my wife won't get the wedding of her dreams, you owe me big time" and then milk it for the next 20 years, including making them come to your house for passover and puting butter on the table. please.
     
  5. globetrotter

    globetrotter Senior member

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    yes, well, dopey is probably right
     
  6. mordecai

    mordecai Senior member

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    LOL
     
  7. ter1413

    ter1413 Senior member

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    I would keep it on Sat and offer suggestions to have you sis there the day before so she could attend.
     
  8. GQgeek

    GQgeek Senior member

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    globe's sentiments towards his own sister are strong in this thread!

    Mord, Know how much my wedding will cost me? $350! That ignores the vacation cost but we'd have taken a vacation no matter what. Even for her dress she's elected to go with a simple white affair and i'm just doing the slacks and white linen shirt thing since we're being married on an empty white sand beach in front of the house we've rented on an undeveloped island in the caribbean.

    It sounds like you're not paying for your wedding, or are at least are getting substantial help, but give it serious thought. Who wants unnecessary debt? Especially in these times, it would make sense to start life with her unencumbered. As you're a man, I'm assuming that you're not very sentimental about the whole wedding ceremony thing, but Globe is right about their childish wedding dreams so don't do any hard selling on this... Definitely float the idea by saying something like "wouldn't it be nice to just elope?" after you finish discussing your PITA sister? Plant the seed and see where it goes.
     
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  9. acidboy

    acidboy Senior member

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    russian mail order bride?

    j/k, geek.. congratulations!



    still have to consider that almost every woman wants that walking down the aisle in a gown thing at least once in their life even if they're saying they're fine without it.
     
  10. gomestar

    gomestar Senior member

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    this. Even if she says she's ok with it and you believe her, tread cautiously.
     
  11. mordecai

    mordecai Senior member

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    yup. navigating those waters now. tried to make it clear that we could do whatever she wanted.
     

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