how many partners is far too many?

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  1. tiecollector

    tiecollector Senior member

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    I honestly cannot fathom that a woman has been with hundreds upon hundreds of men and not been a porn star or prostitute. I think that is unreasonable even for an attractive nymphomaniac.

    Not really. Couple guys every weekend (at the same time or otherwise) would give her 50 or so a year easy. Then if she goes out drinking during the week throw in another multiple of 50.
     


  2. Brad

    Brad Senior member

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    ...Couple guys every weekend (at the same time or otherwise) would give her 50 or so a year easy...

    Did I miss the change from 52 to 25 weeks in the year?
     


  3. tiecollector

    tiecollector Senior member

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    Did I miss the change from 52 to 25 weeks in the year?

    Well, I factored in the fact that maybe the poor girl needs to take a breather every other weekend or so. I mean it's hard work.
     


  4. tiecollector

    tiecollector Senior member

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    This leads to another interesting question. Do people usually ask for this number at the very beginning? I never do, it kind of comes up weeks later.
     


  5. life_interrupts

    life_interrupts Senior member

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    Not really. Couple guys every weekend (at the same time or otherwise) would give her 50 or so a year easy. Then if she goes out drinking during the week throw in another multiple of 50.
    Women will have many more opportunities than men. Getting to 100 ain't hard if you only say yes to every 5th proposition, per se. Knew this woman who put her number @ 100. It sounds high, but bear with me for a moment. She was 36 when we had this conversation and this isn't her actual breakdown, but doing some quick math:
    • Starts at 16, has one boyfriend (and that's late these days) 1
    • Sleeps 2 more guys before graduating high school 3
    • Sleeps with average 2 guys a semester for 4 years of college (16 guys) 20
    • 3 summer flings over that time 23
    • Sleeps with 6 guys a year for 10 years, until 31 yrs. old (60) 83
    • 3 guys a year for 5 years (15) 98
    Not saying I condone it (or have had that sort of luck), but it's more possible than you realize, without being a nymphomaniac, especially if you're single for a long while. The woman the OP described obviously has some other issues that sex is being used to cover up.
     


  6. Fuuma

    Fuuma Franchouillard Modasse

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    I don't care about "low quality" here, but if she truly has had 500 partners by age 31, that would imply some serious psychological problems in my book. I'd be less worried about her being a slut than being totally mixed up upstairs.

    Get the fuck out of here!! What about a guy who had 500 partners at age 31, wouldn't he be a stud? She was just popular and into the sex, without more details there is nothing negative about that.
     


  7. kwilkinson

    kwilkinson Having a Ball

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    Get the fuck out of here!! What about a guy who had 500 partners at age 31, wouldn't he be a stud? She was just popular and into the sex, without more details there is nothing negative about that.

    +1. It's easy to flip out and say "omgzzz lol what a slut!" but if you knew a guy that boned 500 chicks, you'd be singing his praises, asking what his "secrets" were, etc.
     


  8. Fade to Black

    Fade to Black Senior member

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    [​IMG] i love a woman who comes across as experienced that's fa sho...there's a certain allure with that 'been there done that' aura that you can just SENSE a mile away. Maybe I just long to be Dustin Hoffman in The Graduate.
     


  9. Thomas

    Thomas Senior member

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    Hmmm. I'm going to weigh in on the other side here and not crucify someone for past indiscretions. There are a few other points to consider though.

    First, I've known women who toss out a red herring to check for reaction. Say she's been with five or even fifty but adds a zero to see whether you flip out. If this is early on in the courtship, then that tells her how you handle potential deal-breakers. This also tells her whether she has to hide things from prospective mates, and also what she can expect in terms of a mate being judgmental. She may have decided that full disclosure is non-negotiable in a long-term relationship, which IMHO is healthier than a closet full of skeletons.

    Second, I never had an upper limit as to what I was willing to deal with in sexual history. I cannot tell you accurately how I would react to a disclosure of 500, or even 100, but I have lain in bed next to a sexual partner (afterwards) who told me tales of other encounters, and I wasn't bothered by even the more sordid ones.

    Third, she's apparently been in ltr's recently, so this might just be the sort of thing she got out of her system and has moved on. People change. They make mistakes, and this disclosure might just be the sort of thing that she is tacitly admitting to as a blemish in her past. If she's proud of it - well, that's a bit different.

    Fourth, I'm going to assume she showers or bathes from time to time.

    So, my humble advice would be to tread carefully but not rule her out tout court.
     


  10. Fade to Black

    Fade to Black Senior member

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    damn why does human interaction have to be so damn complicated and calculated nowadays...why can't it be like that song:

    "I don't want no, clever conversation...i just want some, someone to talk to..."
     


  11. CBDB

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    500 guys...mmmm...isn't there the problem of "hotdog in a hallway"?

    I don't expect that there's much tread left on that tire [​IMG]
     


  12. itsstillmatt

    itsstillmatt The Liberator Dubiously Honored

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    It is hard enough to find the right person without punishing them for something that happened in their youth. It might make me a bit uncomfortable, but I don't believe that you can judge a persons worth or quality simply on how many dicks she has sucked.
     


  13. Fade to Black

    Fade to Black Senior member

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    man iammatt...i don't usually do this, but i gotta say that i hope when i reach your age i can let go of things as well as you have. respect.
     


  14. antirabbit

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    Ok,
    So I just called my friend.
    To clarify, she may be well over 500 and just doesnt remember:
    Obviously it would be hard to have total recall of over 500 sexual encounters.
    Apparently, there is more to it.
    Again, she estimates 500+
    She doesnt count when there were multiple men at the same time, and doesnt count women.
    Sorry, I could not get past that.
    Also, she has changed the profile of what kind of guy she goes for. She likes the polished professional type now. In the past it was the heavy metal guy, or the WWF/Ultimate fighting type of guy. These details make the picture worse....

    So, essentially, there is no novelty in a sexual relationship with someone like this, no newness, no freshness. I find that sad.
     


  15. Thomas

    Thomas Senior member

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    Ok,
    So, essentially, there is no novelty in a sexual relationship with someone like this, no newness, no freshness. I find that sad.


    Oh, I wouldn't say that. There's always love, tenderness, caring, and B&D.
     


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