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How important is sexual compatibility in a relationship?

shellshock

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Originally Posted by Eason
Anyway, conclusion from long discussion about it: Sex every day, unless she's very tired.

Improvement! Now, I'll just have to convince her to do a second time in the morning...


ridiculous.
 

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Every kind of compatibility is important in a relationship, including sexual. I can't imagine schedluing out my sex life, but if it works fo you, I guess that is fine. To me it sees like something better left to the desires of both parties, as if it is not, somebody is going to feel put out eventually.
 

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We brought in a consultant who worked with both our schedules and picked out a compatible time for us. One of the nice things about bringing in an outside party is that it depersonalizes the negotiations so neither side's feelings get hurt. On March 17th, after 4:30 p.m., or else again after mid-April, I will be able to tell you how it worked out
 

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Originally Posted by dopey
We brought in a consultant who worked with both our schedules and picked out a compatible time for us. One of the nice things about bringing in an outside party is that it depersonalizes the negotiations so neither side's feelings get hurt. On March 17th, after 4:30 p.m., or else again after mid-April, I will be able to tell you how it worked out

Dood, that is St. Paddy's day. You might want to rethink that or schedule it in a car outside the bar
 

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Originally Posted by Eason
I ask this because my current situation calls for me to think about it's importance. When my ex-gf and I were together, we used to have sex probably 2x a day, sometimes more, sometimes less. She would jump me more often than I would jump her. My current girlfriend, who I like a lot and am generally happier with, is much different- we have sex maybe once every other day, and she's much more shy, despite being older and comparatively more experienced. Of course people have different sex drives, but if I'm left wanting and she's left feeling pushed, what are the alternatives? Everything is great except (from my point of view) this one thing... In your experiences, is it something that can be worked around? I suppose it will depend on your priorities, but at my age (22), sex is a pretty high one.

Discuss?


Side *****, or a new chick.

You need to make her understand that sex is important to you. 2x a day is excessive. I sure as hell couldn't keep up that pace for over a week. Once every couple of days is not too bad, but if you want more, there is no reason for you to get less.

You're young and a man, so you are automatically worth more on the meat market. How much older is she? She needs to understand that come 25-26, she'll follow a similar depreciation curve as a ford taurus. She should use it while she has it, because there will come a time when she'll be a fetish as opposed to generally desirable.

Side ***** in this instance is justified becasuse you're not doing it out of spite or to hurt her. You'd be doing it because she can't meet your needs. It's a matter of logistics. And you mentioned that once every 2 days is pushing it for her... so you'd be doing her a favor.
 

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Originally Posted by 65535
Side ***** in this instance is justified becasuse you're not doing it out of spite or to hurt her. You'd be doing it because she can't meet your needs. It's a matter of logistics. And you mentioned that once every 2 days is pushing it for her... so you'd be doing her a favor.

Wow.
 

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You know, I might agree with him if this was some sort of extreme ongoing problem that had already been discussed ad nauseum for years or something (we're talking something like "we've discussed it, tried couples counseling, and it's still only happening twice a year"), but yeah... wow.
 

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Originally Posted by whodini
Yeah, really. The second one should be a given.

pfft.

this thread is ridic.
 

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Very important, one of the main reasons behind my last failed 'relationship.' I rarely ever want to have sex.
 

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Originally Posted by GoSurface
Very important, one of the main reasons behind my last failed 'relationship.' I rarely ever want to have sex.

Maybe you're straight.
 

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Originally Posted by texas_jack
Maybe you're straight.


I think my world just shattered.


But seriously, I've always wondered if it would be easier to date women, until I joined StyleForum.
 

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Originally Posted by GoSurface
I think my world just shattered.


But seriously, I've always wondered if it would be easier to date women, until I joined StyleForum.


LOL, and here I've seen how (seemingly) easy my gay friends have it and wondered if it's easier dealing with men. The grass is always greener. Plus at this point, I think every one of my friends who's gay is over 25, which seems to be sort of like being fat, short, bald, and shy is for a straight guy.
 

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Originally Posted by sonick
Wow.
Seriously. Side ***** is never the right answer. If that is what you want, stay single.
 

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