How do you talk to girls in the supermarket line?

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  1. 1984

    1984 Member

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    Or anywhere else for that matter. I was at the grocery store today picking up a few things, and I saw this fine (fine) girl there. When I get to the U-Scan line, she gets in behind me. So I'm standing there trying to think of something to say to her (not paying attention to the line) and finally the girl leans in and tells me there's an opening at one of the registers. So not only do I not talk to her, also I'm an idiot. WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME?


    Don't you just hate it when that happens, that has happen to me too.
     
  2. kennethpollock

    kennethpollock Senior member

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    I have always heard that girls are attracted to helpless men. A good one: "Do you know where they keep the toast?"
     
  3. Fabienne

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    Got that one last night at Marsh: "Anything new and exciting in your life?" Jetlagged as I was, I gave a faint smile and blandly answered: "No, not really."
     
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    "Hey, what's up?", or "How are you doing?" If she is interested, or at least wants to chat, she'll talk to you. Otherwise, you'll get Fabienne's response. Either way, no big deal.
     
  5. Fabienne

    Fabienne Senior member

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    What I get most in the US are comments on what I am buying: "What will you be preparing with these?", "Yum, I can tell someone's going to be very lucky tonight", or "How do you prepare XYZ?". Sometimes, if they hear me talk and are perceptive "Do I detect an accent?". A few times, comment on the way I dress, especially if a piece is a bit unusual: "You didn't buy this skirt here, did you?", "That's an extraordinary sweater", etc.

    In France, the approach is typically wittier, designed to get you off balance. This male cashier recently asked me: "Do you enjoy jogging?" Me: Euh, no, not particularly, why? "Because you forgot to price your apples" (in France, you weigh your fruit and veggies before getting to the cashier)

    While purchasing a bottle of Montbazillac, the customer behind me, upon hearing me tell the cashier I intended to cook with the Montbazillac suggested I cook with his bottle of vodka, and we share the Montbazillac.
    A few jokes went back and forth on the vodka/culinary theme.

    In the end, I think it all depends on the mood, receptivity and sense of humor of the lady in question, so nobody should feel they have failed in any way if they get somewhat of a cold shoulder.
     
  6. Horace

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    Discuss what she is buying. Perhaps you can make a recommendation, e.g. if she is buying the freshly squeezed orange juice ask her if she's tried the orange-pineapple blend as it cuts down on the sweetness of the orange, producing a more balanced flavor profile.

    Oh man....
     
  7. oxide

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    Don't you just hate it when that happens, that has happen to me too.
    Me too [​IMG] . Mainly because I cant find the right moment to say something or it never comes. I hope its one of those things that come with time and failure [​IMG] . Btw it doesnt matter what you say as much as how you say it, your bodylanguage, voice tone and looks. All these count more to her image of you than what you say. So I guess saying "banana pancakes?" in a confident voice with ur bodylanguage showing ur calm and decent looks, she'll talk to you positively. ooh and smile! I read alot about these things, thats how I know but I rarely get into such situations and havent has much time to practise them. Plus I guess most high school girls aren't used to beeing approached by strangers which adds to her being shy and rejecting me just because she feels what I'm doing is strange and unusual. (happened to me before)
     
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    Discuss what she is buying. Perhaps you can make a recommendation, e.g. if she is buying the freshly squeezed orange juice ask her if she's tried the orange-pineapple blend as it cuts down on the sweetness of the orange, producing a more balanced flavor profile.
    That would be good. If you've got the confidence, analysing her by what shes buying would sweep her off her feet, especially if you're right for most of the things. Women love that stuff.
     
  9. Renault78law

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    Plus I guess most high school girls aren't used to beeing approached by strangers which adds to her being shy and rejecting me just because she feels what I'm doing is strange and unusual. (happened to me before)
    In that case, please tell me you're in high school as well.
     
  10. oxide

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    In that case, please tell me you're in high school as well.
    Yes I am (17). Should have mentioned that in the post sorry [​IMG] .
     
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    I have said that I was just getting a few things to make dinner for someone just like you. It often gets a laugh and i go from there. If she doesn't go for it, oh well. Meeting girls is a numbers game. The more you talk to, the more chances you have. [​IMG]
     
  12. LA Guy

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    Meeting girls is a numbers game. The more you talk to, the more chances you have. [​IMG]

    Not always. I have a friend who's technique is best described as "strafing the crowd." Not that effective, from what I've seen.
     
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    Not always. I have a friend who's technique is best described as "strafing the crowd." Not that effective, from what I've seen.

    Best to try your luck with those who you make eye contact with, or smile at you, etc...

    Jon.
     
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    I talk with strangers in the checkout line at grocery stores all the time, whether they're cute or not. I figure it's good practice for all those cuties. Seriously, the more practice you have making idle chatter with strangers, the more relaxed you become and the better you become at picking up on things to say "in the moment". You'll also meet some nice, friendly people and you just might make a new friend.
     
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    I am really glad I am not single anymore. All this is so stressful to me [​IMG]
    I never, ever did well with this stuff.
     

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