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How do you deal with the vagaries of people's behavior?

Wires

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Probably one of the harder problems in life is dealing with people's inconsistent behavior. None of us are rational 100% of the time and even good people sometimes disappoint you, have bad days, etc. Situational problems can be easier to deal with because at least you can solve most of them step by step. Even if takes a lot of hard work. With people, anything can happen.

So what are your strategies to deal with human conflict? I find cool off helps ... if someone seems to be having a off day, don't poke the bear with a stick. Let them come to you if they need anything. In disagreements, don't directly accuse people of A, B, C. They will get defensive and possibly counterattack. Instead, talk about how it made you feel.

Also, don't be too hard on yourself either. Just because you did something stupid, people who care about you won't even remember it the next time. People who begrudge you for it disliked you from the getgo and are just looking for reasons to justify their feelings.
 
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Studies show that 88% of the time, people act out because it is their time of the month.
 

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Some people are just jerks. They cannot help it.
 

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