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How Do You Choose Your Battles?

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by Tck13, Jan 30, 2011.

  1. Mac

    Mac Senior member

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    pick the ones that you can win. the smartest thing that you can do is not start a battle that you will lose.
    Every battle can be won—just remember that learning when to argue is as important to winning as learning how to argue.
     
  2. tagutcow

    tagutcow Senior member

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    My philosophy on this matter is very simple-- I ask myself, "What would Tokyo Slim do?"
     
  3. montyharding

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    So, some guy tailgated me for about a mile and a half and then when I was turning left he drove real close to my car on the right and yelled "asshole" out the window at me. A guy at work simply doesn't do a part of his job and tries to pass it on to me. He then tells my supervisor (constantly) about how I don't do anything and I'm worthless. I think my supervisor believes him... Blah, blah, blah... When does one take a stand? What are the good battles to pick and the ones to let go? While I'm a pretty laid back and tolerant person, I don't want to end up like Michael Douglas in Falling Down but I'm wondering what battles you find worth fighting?
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    Seems to be a case of act like an asshole before thinking like a loser. Never had these things happen to me. And when they do, usually it's not other people that's the problem. It's you.
     
  4. korkie

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    thats my usual method. minus the tact.
     
  5. Dedalus

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    I'm forty-seven. Forty-seven years old. You know how come I stayed alive this long? Fear. A spectacle of fearsome acts. A man steals from me, I cut off his hands. If he offends me, I cut out his tongue. He rises up against me, I cut off his head, stick it on a pike. Raise it up high so all on the streets can see. That's what preserves the order of things. Fear.
     
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    I always let road conflict go. One time this man with his family pulled out in front of me and caused me to hard break. Im driving behind this guy with my girlfriend in the car on our way out to eat. Im behind him for some time and he pulls into the restaurant we are going to. I get out of my car and just stand there waiting for my gf to get her jacket on for about a min and this guy is still sitting in his car parked watching me.

    I never intended to make battle, but it was nice knowing that he was intimidated enough to stay put until I left the parking lot.


    pretty much the same - I only get involved in a conflict if I see a real benefit in it, or if ignoring it can cause me harm. I try to stay very very cool.

    I actually had an instance just recently when a competitor got very emotional over an issue and really tried for a year to fuck me over, and in the end my staying cool put me out ahead.
     
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    I only get involved in a conflict if I see a real benefit in it, or if ignoring it can cause me harm.

    Wise words, my friend.
     
  8. Piobaire

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    Agree with GT, only fight the battles worth fighting.
     
  9. Blackhood

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    I tested the "christian driving theory" once. It states that letting people out, driving at or bellow the limit and generally being nice is quicker than driving like a maniac.

    Maniac Driving Week

    Journey starts at 6:29 AM every day. Drive 18 miles to my bus stop to catch the 6:59am bus. I drive faster than the limit and generally don't react well to other drivers. Overtake at every opertunity. Observations:
    • One missed bus due to traffic
    • About 51mpg (small cars FTW)
    • Fairly stressful journey

    "Christian" Driving Week
    Same start time and target bus. Stay with the flow of traffic, no matter what the speed. Don't overtake standard vehicles (garbage trucks and farm equipment are the exception). Let at least one person out of any turning if it is safe and sensible. Observations:
    • No missed buses (naturally this is more due to traffic fluctuation and luck)
    • About 59mpg
    • Very relaxing drive


    Don't get me wrong, as a teenager, boy racer and general dick, I will still do what ever it takes to win, but my little experiment did more to reduce my stress levels than any other change I've made so far.
     
  10. thinman

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    pick the ones that you can win.

    the smartest thing that you can do is not start a battle that you will lose.


    This is so wrong. It may be worth losing a battle if it contributes to winning a larger (or longer) war or if it sends a message.

    pretty much the same - I only get involved in a conflict if I see a real benefit in it, or if ignoring it can cause me harm. I try to stay very very cool...


    This is the best response. Ask yourself what the long-term ramifications are. Ignore the enraged driver; fight your co-worker with everything you've got, but not necessarily directly. Strategy and tactics are a different discussion.
     
  11. Don Carlos

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    I usually follow a simple rule of thumb, focused primarily on the downside.

    Basically, before picking a battle, determine the worst possible outcome for you that might conceivably result from the battle. If you aren't prepared to accept such an outcome, then don't risk the fight.
     
  12. deadly7

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    "Christian" Driving Week
    Same start time and target bus. Stay with the flow of traffic, no matter what the speed. Don't overtake standard vehicles (garbage trucks and farm equipment are the exception). Let at least one person out of any turning if it is safe and sensible. Observations:
    • No missed buses (naturally this is more due to traffic fluctuation and luck)
    • About 59mpg
    • Very relaxing drive


    Interesting choice of phrasing for something I would just call "Not being a douche". Is this actually a thing, or did you make up the term "Christian driving week"?
     

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