How do I fix my social life/ make one?

Discussion in 'Social Life, Food & Drink, Travel' started by magicman221, Jul 15, 2013.

  1. Nathan5653

    Nathan5653 Active Member

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    I think it depends on the person. I've met a few people who seemed uninterested, but that's inevitable when you try to meet new people. That being said, I've been lucky enough to meet quite a few people who share the same interests as me.

    I think one reason why people may seem uninterested at the beginning is that most conversations, at least when people just meet, are just really boring small talk in which neither party have any real interest in talking about. I hate small talk so I sometimes end up in deep and personal conversations very early with people I meet.

    Like I said earlier, I think it's important that you try to find people to connect with, rather than just superficial friendships. I also have close friends with whom I share very little common interests and disagree on a lot of subjects, so while I think common interests certainly help, I don't think they are necessary.
     
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  2. legorogel

    legorogel Senior member

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    get a life, do something you love, be proud of it and please stop the bitching.
     


  3. magicman221

    magicman221 Active Member

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    got the book reading it, its helpin.
     


  4. magicman221

    magicman221 Active Member

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    Well thats all im doin by myself i know my interests so im just workin on them like others on the thread said to do, and findin people that seem to have those interests. Srry man I dont have any other way to explain.
     


  5. magicman221

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    well went to the club fair, gotta say i like the recruiting mode thing.
     
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  6. magicman221

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    when you ask someone to hang out and they take forever to respond/ dont respond is that a hint they don't want to hang out./ not interested in being friends. Club activities/meetings start next week so basically im just callin my current contacts in my town.
     


  7. SplasH

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    Are you actually planning something to do or are you calling / contacting them with a "Hey wanna do something?" Kind of line ? Cause the second one is obviously less attractive...
     


  8. magicman221

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    ya its the hey wanna do something line.
     
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  9. SplasH

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    Well then, piece of advice that also works for girls, always come up with a plan that you would be ok to do alone first, and ask people to come along. You'll end up with people with the same taste as you and will build stronger bonds over shared experiences or worst case scenario, doing something cool by yourself.

    When i say plans i don't mean like "Hey wanna roadtrip across Nevada or skydive this week end ?" Just a "Hey wanna go see this movie ?" or " In for drinks @ that bar tonight ?" "Hey wanna jam ?" would be enough.

    As i said before, if your friends aren't up to it, join couchsurfing.com, there's always a good chance that an event is planned in your city.
     


  10. magicman221

    magicman221 Active Member

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    What do you all consider an interesting person to talk to just curious?
     


  11. Nathan5653

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    Depends on your own interests. For me, I dislike people who gossip too much; people who aren't afraid to have deep conversations greatly interest me.
     
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  12. Piobaire

    Piobaire Not left of center?

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    One that is the opposite of you.
     


  13. magicman221

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    you say that as if you actually know me, can you explain more?
     


  14. magicman221

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    joined 3 events =)
     


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    i honestly think they are the best kind,
     


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