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How Critical Are Others of Your Style?

Discussion in 'Streetwear and Denim' started by APK, Jun 17, 2010.

  1. APK

    APK Senior member

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    The thread about what we've learned from this forum got me thinking about how we live in a vacuum of sorts with regards to the clothes and stylings we find aesthetically pleasing. What may seem dull to many here (boat shoes + a chrono roll) blows the mind of the average citizen.

    So how often do you hear from other people about the things you wear or how you choose to wear them? I can't say I've ever been outright criticized, but countless people have made observations framed as "jokes." I don't even dress in the fashion-forward aesthetic.

    Even though I tend not to take them seriously, it's still amazing how some fairly basic things ruffles the feathers of people who don't care much about clothes or their appearance. Here's a brief list of what I've heard from others over the last year:

    - My tartan button-down being compared to one of Al Borland's shirts
    - My Epaulet purple flannel getting me called a "purple lumberjack"
    - My beaded bracelets prompting my uncle to jokingly ask when I came out of the closet
    - My red socks becoming a main topic of conversation
    - A remark about how high I rolled the sleeves of a long-sleeve shirt
    - My striped Uniqlo shorts and SS, solid button-down shirt being compared to a mail carrier's outfit

    How about you guys? I don't think any of these things would get a second look in a bigger city, but I guess my current environment frowns upon clothing that breaks the status quo of graphic tees, flip flops, cargo shorts, baggy button-down shirts, and cheap shoes and boots.
     
  2. chronoaug

    chronoaug Senior member

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    i don't think many if any people here dress so outlandishly that people would be gawking in the cities they live. Most people dont' really think at all about clothes or care. That's generally why the people wearing the stuff in your last sentence wear that. I think maybe this applies to the weirdos who are 18 and want to wear a full suit and pocket square to intro to public speaking 101 freshman year. Not as much for people wearing rick owens leathers or rolled chinos. Especially the last 2 years or so where caring about clothing and fashion/style/whatever has become more acceptable for guys in the eyes of "plebes" as jet would say
     
  3. Eason

    Eason Senior member

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    The only people who joke about my clothes are my family.
     
  4. AR_Six

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    Among people my age, exactly never. Even the more out-there stuff. If my family (ie my dad, aunts / uncles, etc) see stuff like that they're very confused and look somewhat disapproving, barbs may be heard though rarely I guess. But it's not like I'm gonna wear marble jacket to a family gathering.
     
  5. TintoTerra

    TintoTerra Senior member

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    Laugh it off. Would you rather be wearing their shitty Wal Mart clothes?
     
  6. Synthese

    Synthese Darth Millennial Dubiously Honored Moderator

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    While I think that the responses that SFers get to stylistic choices is undoubtedly less severe than the SZ folks, it is always the weirdest damn things that get attention. Honestly, I think the boat shoe/roll is pretty ubiquitous these days, even in small town nowhere. I've heard that:

    -If I wear plaid I must be in a frat
    -boot tuck = "fag"
    -long cardigan = "fag"
    -wearing a blazer, ever, is inconceivably dressy, unless it is "casual" - which means that it is an ill-fitting beige sack worn over the choicest rock and republics.
    - "Why the hell are you wearing a suit without a tie?"
    - I still get looks for wearing petite standards, as they're "girls' jeans"
    - "Why are you so dressed up?"
    - apparently, blue shoes are mind-boggling.

    Essentially, "style" consists of gap jeans and New Balance sneaks, and I honestly can't stand either. I'm not so avant-garde that anything I wear really gets any note, other than for its fit (i.e. slim, not baggy)

    This is in a town of 100k plus, not exactly the middle of the desert. Girls are allowed to run around in heels, and Ed Hardy is at least frowned upon, but somehow guys are able to get away with the most ridiculous shit. I just don't see how it isn't simply a matter of respect - people have to be around you, and we expect teh wimminz to look fly, yet don't seem to understand that sheer animal magnetism doesn't forgive all wrongs. Around here, speedcats/"designer jeans"/polo shirt is pretty much the uniform.
     
  7. APK

    APK Senior member

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    Laugh it off. Would you rather be wearing their shitty Wal Mart clothes?

    Precisely. I equate it to when I get comments about eating real food (like chicken, veggies, almonds) from people who are overweight.
     
  8. Listi

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    I get a lot but I forget a lot. Everyone comments on my "shiny shoes" (common projects) and my Yohji coat alternatingly draws references from the Matrix and vampires. I get the standard jeans jokes, of course.

    Doesn't bother me much, I generally get more compliments than insults.

    @APK: I do hate when people look down on you for doing things well, be it eating, drinking, dressing, etc.
     
  9. snake

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    Among people my age, exactly never. Even the more out-there stuff. If my family (ie my dad, aunts / uncles, etc) see stuff like that they're very confused and look somewhat disapproving, barbs may be heard though rarely I guess. But it's not like I'm gonna wear marble jacket to a family gathering.
    Same here. I'll get a few double-takes from my friends on certain pieces, but very rarely do they make any comments about it. And honestly, I don't feel any of my clothes are outlandish to the point where people would feel the need to make it the focus of our conversation. I've gotten a few remarks on my Julius pieces and knitted DBSS cardi, but that's to be expected I suppose.
     
  10. entropy

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    - "Why are you so dressed up?"

    I get this all the time and love it.

    It kind of sounds like some of you need to grow a thicker skin. By dressing differently you are setting yourself apart. If you can't deal with it then maybe you need to look at why you dress the way you do. Besides, it sounds like most of it is just ribbing from family members. If they are anything like my family they would have eventually found something to give you shit about, so just grin and give it back.
     
  11. aeglus

    aeglus Senior member Dubiously Honored

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    Only the kids I teach have cared. And they only care about red socks and when I wear shorts. And my hair. Everything else, purple dbs included are perfectly fine. I'm sure I catch shit behind my back from other non-Koreans here but they're all fat and ugly so it's not like I'd care anyways.
     
  12. westinghouse

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    Laugh it off. Would you rather be wearing their shitty Wal Mart clothes?

    To be fair, lots of those people have better things to spend their money on like children, mortgages, cars, taxes, insurance etc...
     
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    aeglus Senior member Dubiously Honored

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    To be fair, lots of those people have better things to spend their money on like children, mortgages, cars, taxes, insurance etc...

    it doesn't cost much money at all to not look like shit, they're just too fucking lazy to care
     
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    - My Epaulet purple flannel getting me called a "purple lumberjack"

    I got a similar comment when I wore the brown one, someone referred to me as a scarecrow. I said "and what makes you think I don't want to be a scarecrow?"
     
  15. snake

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    To be fair, lots of those people have better things to spend their money on like children, mortgages, cars, taxes, insurance etc...

    sounds boring
     
  16. hendrix

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    People i've recently met never give me shit.

    It's the people who've been there through the transition who give me shit. My flatmates had a bit of a laugh, but they're over it. My family also had a bit of a laugh, but it was good natured. That was also when i wasn't really pulling things off. Now that i do it with more confidence, noone says anything. either that or they don't care. or both.
     
  17. Makeshift_Robot

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    it doesn't cost much money at all to not look like shit, they're just too fucking lazy to care

    I think it's more that they've never been placed in an environment where they should care. The idea of caring about clothing is totally foreign to them. It's like me saying, "aeglus! You have shitty taste in music! It's not hard to listen to good music, you must not care." I don't actually know what kind of music you like, but it's another whole sphere of the human experience in which people not only don't participate, but don't understand that they can or should participate.

    I think they should participate in both things, as well as many other things, but I'm in a position where I can pursue all these interests and aspects of life. If some guy is moving lumber around a field all day and then comes home to be with his kids, I'm not going to bother him for not wanting to go shopping. Also, "fashion" for the untrained is a total minefield of scorn, misinformation, and misplaced elitism. A guy came into work today and tried to explain to me the fact that he had better style than I did because he owned 30 pairs of True Religions... stuff like that.


    On topic: I've been called out for wearing a cardigan (in the sense of "only gay guys wear cardigans"), wearing a vest (in the sense of "why would anyone wear a vest"), wearing a blazer to a family reunion (as in, "I guess SOMEONE's back from college"), piercing my ears ("how are people supposed to know you're straight if you pierced both ears"), and being blond ("there's no way that's real, I bet he dyes it and just pretends"). I have gotten nothing but compliments on my beatle boots, though.
     
  18. cldpsu

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    To be fair, lots of those people have better things to spend their money on like children, mortgages, cars, taxes, insurance etc...

    While that may be true, I find people to be critical because they're threatened by your taste, not because of your spending choices.
     
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    To be fair, lots of those people have better things to spend their money on like children, mortgages, cars, taxes, insurance etc...
    Those all sound like poor investments/ money pits to me.
     
  20. derekzee

    derekzee Well-Known Member

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    of others not very... but when they seem to be into style a little bit. especially when they think they dress well just because they read gq.
     

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