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Homeless guy in my carport - a question of etiquette

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by mbc, Oct 5, 2008.

  1. mbc

    mbc Senior member

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    So there's this homeless guy in our neighborhood who regularly sets up camp in our carport. He actually travels with a plastic chair in his shopping cart so that he doesn't have to sleep on the concrete floor - smart choice if you ask me.

    Anyhow, the first time I found him there I told him he had to move on. Then a couple days later when he showed back up I let it slide for a day or two, but on day three I called the cops to tell him to move along.

    So now I've noticed that he's gotten somewhat smart and he doesn't show up until about 11pm or so, and packs up his things and leaves before 7am because he apparently has noticed that I don't leave the house until a bit later than that (that's a little creepy, actually, that a random guy sleeping in my carport has taken such accurate note of my schedule).

    Am I being a dick for wanting to call the cops on him repeatedly so that he stops using my carport as his sleeping quarters? Part of me thinks I should just let it slide - but I'm not running a shelter, here. What would you do?
     
  2. centalones

    centalones Senior member

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    Call the cops.

    Tell the neighbors to call the cops if he shows up on nights when you are not home.
     
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    rach2jlc Senior member Dubiously Honored

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    A question of etiquette related to some unwanted stranger continually setting up shop in your carport, even AFTER you've told him to leave and called the police? Tolerating this isn't etiquette, it's foolishness. Do what it takes to ensure he leaves and doesn't come back. Period. EDIT: I want to know who voted to "let it slide indefinitely." I'm assuming this person did it as a joke, but assuming they didn't, I'd LOVE to see their reasoning for how that could ever be a good idea.
     
  6. Milhouse

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    Call the cops some more. See if you can get them to hold him for trespassing or harassment or something since he keeps coming back.

    I do like the dog and the shotgun ideas. Perhaps pepper spray would also handle it.
     
  7. JayJay

    JayJay Senior member

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    If you don't want him on your property, then call the cops. One thing can potentially lead to another; nip it in the bud now before it escalates.
     
  8. globetrotter

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    get him out. peper spray and a stick isn't a bad combo for this. this is really a reciepe for disaster not to get him out fast.
     
  9. Dewey

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    He'll shit in the corner if he stays long enough. If you decide to let him stay, you might improve the courtesy by providing some empty coffee cans for his relief.

    A carport is not a residence. If he was your dad and you let him do that, I imagine you could be charged for cruelty and negligence. So you are not doing him any favors by letting him crash there. He needs to find a real solution to his homelessness.
     
  10. FLMountainMan

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    Wow, the west coast really does have a different mentality (at least as represented by your one post). Get him out now. Scattered broken glass, mace, dogs, whatever..... I let a few people do this at my family business as a kid. Soon they really were shitting in the corner, leaving forty oz bottles, etc. Get this person out.
     
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    This is NOT a question of etiquette in any way -- get him out of your carport pronto! Just because it's an "open air" carport doesn't matter; if this were an enclosed garage, the guy would be breaking and entering!
     
  12. rach2jlc

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    Wow, the west coast really does have a different mentality .
    Yeah, you can tell he's not from/lives in the south. I don't know that this question has ever been posed there, as the man in question would long since have had a meeting with Mr. Rottweiler or Mr. Remington... perhaps both. Most of the people I know don't fuck around with strangers setting up shop in their carports. I certainly wish the man no physical harm, but I certainly would call the police and, if he showed back up, press charges or go from there.
     
  13. Milhouse

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    Also, bindlestiffs used to have a code they would draw or write on poles near the train tracks to indicate whether or not a house was a good place, e.g. does the house offer work, food, shotgun + dog, etc.

    Maybe modern hobos have a similar system.

    In northern climates, a bucket of ice water may also present a good solution. "it leaves the carport or else it gets the hose again"
     
  14. FLMountainMan

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    Also, bindlestiffs used to have a code they would draw or write on poles near the train tracks to indicate whether or not a house was a good place, e.g. does the house offer work, food, shotgun + dog, etc.

    Maybe modern hobos have a similar system.

    In northern climates, a bucket of ice water may also present a good solution. "it leaves the carport or else it gets the hose again"


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  15. gnatty8

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    Yeah, I echo all the statements here about the guy's gotta go. What's next, taking a dump in your backyard? Checking the doors to see if he can raid the refrigerator?

    I remember last year suddenly seeing a small tent pop up in a relatively wooded right of way right next to the brick fence that surrounded a small gated community. It looked to be a homeless guy who just figured this looked like a good place to set up shop. He was right on my jogging route, so I watched him get more and more bold with his living quarters. Eventually, he had a small little firepit and was having campfires at night! I think this triggered the neighbors to finally call the cops, as shortly thereafter, he had "broken camp" and was nowhere to be found.

    You have already been civil. Time for him to move on.
     
  16. andrewwang

    andrewwang Well-Known Member

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    have your dog set up camp in his shopping cart
     
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    Wait until he claims you caused him to injure himself, due to unsafe circumstances in your carport, and sues you.
     
  18. mbc

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    Thanks for all the feedback, everyone.

    Wait until he claims you caused him to injure himself, due to unsafe circumstances in your carport, and sues you.

    That is actually a pretty sweet idea; I may try that if I ever lose my job.
     
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    So there's this homeless guy in our neighborhood who regularly sets up camp in our carport….
    One thing is clear: most of the respondents to this thread will not be in competition for any Mother Theresa awards…
    You did not mention if you rent or own. If you are a renter or there is a homeowners association, you could report it to them and possibly, they will handle it. This gives you a little emotional distance and hopefully avoids having this person decide you are the cause of his problem. You might try your church, if you have one (or even if you do not), you could discuss the situation with "Chaplin Charlie" after the weekly "magic show". Maybe his eminence will put his money where his mouth is and reach out to this person -- after all, it is his job to do that sort of thing. At least you will get some free "professional advice". One thing is clear; having this fellow take up semi-permanent residence in your TAOR is a problem. It could lead to liability issues or even to your becoming a victim of a crime. However, if would be nice if you did not have to become Gordon Gekko, throw away your humanity, and screw up your karma more than it already is while you are doing it…
     
  20. Orsini

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    Also, bindlestiffs used to have a code they would draw or write on poles near the train tracks to indicate whether or not a house was a good place, e.g. does the house offer work, food, shotgun + dog, etc. Maybe modern hobos have a similar system...
    This is still in use today. If you are going to purchase a bar, this is one of the things you want to check and make allowance for...
     

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