HOF: What Are You Wearing Right Now - Part II

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    There is a big difference between the real world, and SF. [​IMG]

    Re: Negative reactions to our more, ahem, committed style of dress. These words of Clay Shirky's have stayed in my mind. They have wide applicability, although, obviously, they may be a little less applicable in situations involving bosses.

    It's tempting to imagine that [you] could be forceful and self-confident without being arrogant or jerky, but that's a false hope, because it's other people who get to decide when they think you're a jerk, and trying to stay under that threshold means giving those people veto power over your actions. To put yourself forward as someone good enough to do interesting things is, by definition, to expose yourself to all kinds of negative judgments, and as far as I can tell, the fact that other people get to decide what they think of your behavior leaves only two strategies for not suffering from those judgments: not doing anything, or not caring about the reaction. Not caring works surprisingly well.
     
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    Re: Negative reactions to our more, ahem, committed style of dress. These words of Clay Shirky's have stayed in my mind. They have wide applicability, although, obviously, they may be a little less applicable in situations involving bosses.

    It's tempting to imagine that [you] could be forceful and self-confident without being arrogant or jerky, but that's a false hope, because it's other people who get to decide when they think you're a jerk, and trying to stay under that threshold means giving those people veto power over your actions. To put yourself forward as someone good enough to do interesting things is, by definition, to expose yourself to all kinds of negative judgments, and as far as I can tell, the fact that other people get to decide what they think of your behavior leaves only two strategies for not suffering from those judgments: not doing anything, or not caring about the reaction. Not caring works surprisingly well.


    I am totally comfortable in my clothes, to be honest. Most people at the firm mention that they like my style and I pull it off well. My boss's point was that it took a "real man" to wear my outfit, because of the pastel colors and the pants he perceived as pink....the implication being the outfit was some how an indication that I was gay...which could not be further from the truth. We have a very casual and slovenly office. Some people have been trying now that I have decided to reject casual, but they are hopeless. LOL

    Mike
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    I am totally comfortable in my clothes, to be honest. Most people at the firm mention that they like my style and I pull it off well. My boss's point was that it took a "real man" to wear my outfit, because of the pastel colors and the pants he perceived as pink....the implication being the outfit was some how an indication that I was gay...which could not be further from the truth. We have a very casual and slovenly office. Some people have been trying now that I have decided to reject casual, but they are hopeless. LOL

    I am always the outlier in any work setting. And I am gay, but I think it is facile (although common) to equate an interest in matters sartorial with being homosexual. Trust me, most gay men don't know how to dress either!

    It does take a high level of comfort with oneself, and an ease with compliments and barbed comments alike, to be the outlier. You obviously do this well. So keep rocking the pastels, Mike!
     
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    Nice vibe to this photo.
    Thanks holdfast. After a great sabbath dinner with friends, a quick wayrn shot. [​IMG]
     
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    It does take a high level of comfort with oneself, and an ease with compliments and barbed comments alike, to be the outlier. You obviously do this well. So keep rocking the pastels, Mike!

    Thanks, I will!

    Thanks holdfast.

    After a great sabbath dinner with friends, a quick wayrn shot.

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    I like. Classic combo that I favor myself. Nice buttons on the SC.

    Mike
     
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    Had to revert back to the tie this pass Sunday. Just noticed that my trouser leg got caught on my shoe laces!

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    Sharp! Dig the tie!
     
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    This SC rules.



    Holy yellow pants, Batman! I like it though. [​IMG]

    Mike




    Pants cotton? Make?
     
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    What kind of a job were you applying for? No offense, you look like you are dressed to be a professor. Pretty much nothing you have on falls within the usual standards of what is recommended for an interview outfit. Give us some more information and hopefully we can help you.


    He is the interviewer...not the interviewee...............
     
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    After a great sabbath dinner with friends, a quick wayrn shot.
    Very classic.
     
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    Thanks holdfast.

    After a great sabbath dinner with friends, a quick wayrn shot.


    Nice, white buttons makes it even better.
     
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    LabelKing paying for limes - he bought the entire stock.
     
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    ^^ Im feeling that wallet, LK.

    Pants cotton? Make?

    Thanks - yes, cotton. They are Borrelli. (If you are speaking to me..)
     
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    Very classic.


    I like. Classic combo that I favor myself. Nice buttons on the SC.

    Mike


    Nice, white buttons makes it even better.

    Thanks, guys. A non-sartorially inclined friend said to me, "you look like you should be on a yacht, with tons of beautiful women at your side in beautiful dresses, drinking high-dollar alcoholic beverages. All those things are good, but your outfit is still weird."
     
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    Thanks, guys. A non-sartorially inclined friend said to me, "you look like you should be on a yacht, with tons of beautiful women at your side in beautiful dresses, drinking high-dollar alcoholic beverages. All those things are good, but your outfit is still weird."

    LOL. I will take that scenario!!!

    Mike
     
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    which brand are those shoes?
     
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