Help "my friend" with dating protocol

[Dakota rube]

Gents, can you help? "My friend" has been seeing a nice lady. Had several lunches, met for coffee, dinner, etc. Some kissing has occured. Now the nice lady has invited my friend for a home-cooked dinner Saturday evening, to be followed by Alfred Hitchcock movie viewing. Nice lady lives in a small town about 35 minutes from my friend.

Friend has grown fond of nice lady; nice lady apparently has also grown fond of my friend. Friend has an inkling that come Saturday, following dinner and movie, that the hour (and perhaps consumption of wine) will require said friend to spend the night at nice lady's house. Friend also has come to conclusion that spending the night will not be a solitary experience. BTW, my friend is back in the dating world after a nearly-thirty year detour through a failed marriage.

Question: should my friend pack a bag with just the essentials: toothbrush, clean under garments, perhaps shaving regalia? Of course, my friend would leave said bag stashed in his Benz, only to be revealed when circumstances dictate?

Or does the existence of said bag, once revealed, paint my friend as lecherous old fool who arrived at nice lady's house intending to spend the night in a non-solitary fashion? Obviously, if the nice lady sends my friend home at the conclusion of Vertigo, the bag remains a secret.

Discuss.

 

[mbc]

No bag.

 

[Get Smart]

+1 on NO BAG

if it gets to that point, "your friend" should just go with the flow....otherwise when "your friend" busts out the overnite bag, she might be put off by that, like "he" was expecting to git sum

 

[JBZ]

No bag.

 

[Fabienne]

Absolutely, no bag.

 

[redcaimen]

No need for a bag as long as your black satin robe has pockets big enough to accommodate all that stuff along with the French Tickler. The Barry White records can be passed off as an innocent musical interest.

Seriously though, skip the bag. Pretend you are going camping.

 

[Dakota rube]

Originally Posted by Fabienne

Absolutely, no bag.
While my friend appreciates all the feedback to this point, your's Fabienne, carries the most weight. Thank you.

For my friend, that is.

 

[Stu]

Originally Posted by Dakota rube

While my friend appreciates all the feedback to this point, your's Fabienne, carries the most weight. Thank you.

For my friend, that is.


If "your friend's" date wants him to stay the night, she will make the arrangements. Definitely no bag.

 

[Alter]

BTW, I think I am speaking for everyone here when I say that we are happy to hear that your friend is doing well in these regards. Please be sure to mention it to him.

 

[Dakota rube]

You guys (and gals) are the best. Thanks.

For my friend, that is.

 

[Augusto86]

It seems that being a divorcee, your friend is rather better than Connemara in the language of love!

 

[Dakota rube]

Originally Posted by Augusto86

It seems that being a divorcee, your friend is rather better than Connemara in the language of love!
I think a deafmute tops Connie in that department.

 

[sygyzy]

I love this whole thread!

 

[tiger02]

DR, even without a bag, your friend should tuck protection into a convenient pocket. Maybe a few convienient pockets, if he's feeling good!

for your friend.

 

[jett]

the only way you can get away with the bag is if you can play it off as an emergency kit you keep in your car. I keep a first aid kit which includes a blanket, toothbruth, and razor. no change of clothes though. probably you are better off with the no bag thing though because if you don't play the emergency kit angle right you may be out of luck.