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Help me help my father

Saltricks

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My father keeps showing off his "great deals" which are anything but.

He got these ugly, ugly, shiny alligator print johnston and murphy's that were "a steal" at 80 dollars. You couldn't pay me to wear those shoes in public.

He just came into my office and showed off his "Allen Edmonds" old style loafers that he got at ross for 40 dollars. Let me tell you, that 40 dollars would have been better spent buying a knife and some string and cobbling together some makeshift moccasins from vines and paper bags from Albertsons.

He is in the mindset that brand = style. He purchases big patch logos (those big polo patches) and sews them onto those polyester 3 day suit broker jackets so that they look like polo jackets. He wears these garish accessories (big H hermes fake belt) and fake watches (patek filipe, dolex). He's done this for as long as I've known him.

I bring this up now because since I've been working after graduating college, I've dressed considerably better than I have in the past. The doctors that I meet always seem to complement my style (in front of my father) and I think he's been getting a little jealous.

He's still my father and I respect him, but people talk about his lack of taste behind his back. The image he's portraying by dressing like a blind clown with aspergers is losing us some key deals, and I feel the need to step in and do something. Has anyone here had a similar experience? How did you handle the situation?
 

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Tell him you're gay and take him shopping.
 

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Originally Posted by Valor
Tell him you're gay and take him shopping.

If he thought I was gay, he would load up his shotgun and kill me in my sleep. The last words I'd here would be some variation of "I brought you into this world I can take you out of it..."
 

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Skip that part and take him shopping, if possible have your mother do it or something. If that fails, buy him appropriate attire as gifts.

In the end, he's still your father.
 

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Work somewhere else....
 

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I doubt you can change him...he's your dad...i'd suggest accepting him the way he is.
 

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You can try change him, but it probably wont work.

if you're going to try, it's probably going to take a little while of constant prodding.

i'd suggest that you start off by explaining that you care about him, then say that talk about your own experiences of how people have judged you on your appearances... let him draw his own conclusions, start from there.

Then, reinforce that you want the best for him, so naturally given that you've spent all this time learning about clothes/appearance, you'd really like to put it to good use and make sure that he's looking his best out there... or something along those lines.
 

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Originally Posted by Saltricks
If he thought I was gay, he would load up his shotgun and kill me in my sleep. The last words I'd here would be some variation of "I brought you into this world I can take you out of it..."
In that case, go ahead and turn the shotgun on him. You can kill two birds with one stone so to speak.
 

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Show him this forum and we'll set him straight.
 

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Originally Posted by dragon8
Show him this forum and we'll set him straight.

He may as well tell his father he's gay.
 

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Yeah, showing him this forum would not end well.

I'd probably be put on the rack and pelted with holy water for 7 days (he's a devout catholic)
 

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Originally Posted by Saltricks
Yeah, showing him this forum would not end well. I'd probably be put on the rack and pelted with holy water for 7 days (he's a devout catholic)
sounds like a real asshole. No offense...
 

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Originally Posted by Saltricks
Yeah, showing him this forum would not end well.

I'd probably be put on the rack and pelted with holy water for 7 days (he's a devout catholic)


Well, I'm out of ideas. He is your dad and hopefully he'll notice if you dress a bit better and take the cues from you.
 

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