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Have Men become wussies around women?

Discussion in 'Social Life, Food & Drink, Travel' started by Soph, Jul 10, 2006.

  1. whoopee

    whoopee Well-Known Member

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    There doesn't seem to be a joke here.
     
  2. Get Smart

    Get Smart Well-Known Member

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    The wussiest men are those who grew up forced to pee sitting down. Some reason there is usually a direct correlation between the two
     
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    The wussiest men are those who grew up forced to pee sitting down.
    Does this really happen? I've never heard of it.
     
  4. Fabienne

    Fabienne Well-Known Member

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    ???

    Three threads related to women within a short period, what is going on in your life, Soph?
     
  5. Soph

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    [​IMG]

    Nah! I have a friend going thru a divorce. Crying me a river[​IMG]
    Lesson Learned from friend:
    Just don't get married to the wrong girl without a prenup.[​IMG]

    I do think some men are wussies and are "Yes, honey, whatever you say" a bit too much to where it's quite unappealing.
     
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    Men are often too much wussies when it comes to home decorating. They pull the "you take care of it" and then the house ends up with doilies, floral wallpaper, and shams....ugh.
     
  7. Get Smart

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    Does this really happen? I've never heard of it.

    I actually knew of a FEW in college. One couldnt even use a public bathroom, he had to wait til he got home no matter how bad he had to go. unreal.
     
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    It does seem, nowadays, that there are more male doormats than anytime I can ever recall. It doesn't mean I believe we need to go back to the Connery "man talk" days, but some guys need to stop being so damn "sensitive."

    I treat women with respect, but in return I expect a little consideration also.
     
  9. Fuuma

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    It does seem, nowadays, that there are more male doormats than anytime I can ever recall.

    We probably had those before, this has nothing to do with women lib or whatever but with what these people look for in a relationship (ie being taken charge off...). I think these "men are now wussies" shit is just common wisdom and would be totaly shredded by any serious study. Anyway what do you define as being a wussie?
     
  10. Soph

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    Someone who lacks strength, stamina, courage or conviction around a female.

    Female walks all over him. Yes Honey. Whatever you say honey.

    I had a chance to tell my girlfriend what I really thought, but I kissed up instead--I'm such a wuss!

    A man who cannot drive a stick or pee standing up[​IMG]

    A man who can't use power tools

    A man who can't ask a woman out or approach a woman to ask her out, out of fear of rejection[​IMG] No balls[​IMG]

    A man who quotes facts without citing sources which can be debated[​IMG]

    A man who can't chop a tree down with an axe.

    A man who doesn't get that I'm making this sarcastic stuff up as I go and I only mean about half of it[​IMG]

    ---I do think most men are full of it when talking about women among themselves yet I know of only one other friend of mine who can actually (has the balls) to really hit on any good looking woman without fear. This is where men have lost it, they give way too much power to a beautiful woman. ACTION speaks louder than words or a message board genius[​IMG]
     
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    Does this really happen? I've never heard of it.
    Apparently, it's being encouraged in Germany.
     
  12. Soph

    Soph Well-Known Member

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    http://www.imdb.com/gallery/ss/02300...th_key=0230030

    The movie Bedazzled with hottie Liz Hurley talks about the balance between being sensitive yet being a man of action. There is a balance in all seriousness.

    Should men still be able to cry or is that fem?

    I still don't think men should cry. Be a freaking man. Deal with it. What does crying solve anyway? Drama is not masculine.
     
  13. matadorpoeta

    matadorpoeta Well-Known Member

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    slightly off topic:

    i have never been married, and the way i have seen my friends change after marriage really makes me think it's not for me.

    they have all become slaves to their wives' desires, and especially when it comes to big decisions (where to live, when to get married, when to buy a house, etc...), i feel that they are living their wives' lives, not their own.

    i can say this about every married friend i have. this not as true, however, for the older married men i know, though it still applies somewhat.
     
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    That's interesting, because the stereotype is that women look for a man to take care of them. There might be just as many men who are looking for women to take care of them. [​IMG]
     
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    http://www.imdb.com/gallery/ss/02300...th_key=0230030

    The movie Bedazzled with hottie Liz Hurley talks about the balance between being sensitive yet being a man of action. There is a balance in all seriousness.

    Should men still be able to cry or is that fem?

    I still don't think men should cry. Be a freaking man. Deal with it. What does crying solve anyway? Drama is not masculine.






    To weep is to make less the depth of grief. -Shakespeare


    Would you cry if your parents died? I guess my point is there's a time and a place to do anything. People crying because they are oversensitive or manipulative. I guess that's different.

    Drama is definitely not masculine.
     
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    [​IMG]

    Nah! I have a friend going thru a divorce. Crying me a river[​IMG]
    Lesson Learned from friend:
    Just don't get married to the wrong girl without a prenup.[​IMG]

    I do think some men are wussies and are "Yes, honey, whatever you say" a bit too much to where it's quite unappealing.

    I think you can safely shorten that lesson to: "Don't marry the wrong girl."
     
  17. lawyerdad

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    Men are often too much wussies when it comes to home decorating. They pull the "you take care of it" and then the house ends up with doilies, floral wallpaper, and shams....ugh.
    Is that being a wussie or not giving a shit? When I have a real preference I express it. But there are lots of household decor and similar things that matter greatly to my wife but not at all to me. Sometimes she's looking for feedback and gets quite annoyed that I don't have a preference or opinion. Am I more of a wussie for saying I don't care what color tile we use for the kitchen counter, or would I be more of a wussie for pretending to have an opinion about something I'm truly indifferent to just because I wanted her to think I was "interested"?
     
  18. lawyerdad

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    To weep is to make less the depth of grief. -Shakespeare


    Would you cry if your parents died? I guess my point is there's a time and a place to do anything. People crying because they are oversensitive or manipulative. I guess that's different.

    Drama is definitely not masculine.

    Guess it depends on how broad or narrow a definition of "drama" you use. Just about every time I play pick-up basketball, some wannabe macho guy starts picking a fight or at least becoming verbally abusive with somebody else about a foul call or something. Isn't that "drama"? And you're probably right that crying doesn't "solve" anything, other than perhaps the need for some emotional catharsis or relief. But what is "solved" by more stereotypically masculine behaviors like aggressiveness or violence?
     
  19. Mr. Checks

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    In a word, "yes"

    To the extent that some of my friends didn't "get" this line from Old School:

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    Frank: I told my wife I wouldn't drink tonight. Besides, I got a big day tomorrow. You guys have a great time.

    College Student: A big day? Doing what?

    Frank: Well, um, actually a pretty nice little Saturday, we're going to go to Home Depot. Yeah, buy some wallpaper, maybe get some flooring, stuff like that. Maybe Bed, Bath, & Beyond, I don't know, I don't know if we'll have enough time.
     
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    I mock my married friends with that exchange all the time [​IMG]
     

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