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Guy Pats the Fiance's Arse

Billbo

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So OK I am 56. My fiance is almost 60. We are in a bar owned by a friend and my fiance sees a guy she has known for a couple of years. He reaches out to hug her and I watch as he hugs, kisses, and pats her arse. Now I am not a jealous guy, and I don't care what happened in the past, but she has rocks on her finger big enough to be seen in the dark.

When I tell her later I did not think this was appropriate, she tells me that when I dated her before, I was an asshole. Ok that is true. And she had friends that help her get past me. Ok that is cool. She tells me that this guy and her had no kind of relationship before, and they are just good friends. So I guess therefore it is ok..........?

Not sure what to do here. My gut is if we are there again and this repeats itself, I calmly explain to the guy this is not appropriate and then if he has a problem with that expose him to my true feelings out back. Doing that, I am sure I will get pulled in by the local law enforcement and probably lose my lady. In the end though what else should I do. I feel this is disrespect for the hand I asked for and was accepted. The past at this point does not matter. There is no excuse on either person's part - that I am just disposable. I am absolutely sure should a girl do that to me and I did not protest, my lady would be all over me. And honestly even if I were not in a relationship with her, I would have an issue with it on just the grounds that it is wrong.

So am I over reacting?

Lost and too old for this crap.
 

Piobaire

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Bamp!
 

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She did not only refuse to see the wrong in it but also blotted out your past mistake? There's something in her that wants that ex. That's just wrong! Like fishing in the ocean, there'll always be someone new.
 

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Was there any squeezing or caressing involved? Can you describe the pat? How far down was it - just the top or clearly down to the fullness of the cheek?
 
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When I squeeze your fiance's ass it turns into a.... bump
 

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You are 56 and feel the need to "calmly explain to the guy this is not appropriate and then if he has a problem with that expose him to my true feelings out back"?????

Your fiancé should address this issue. She should have already.

(Also, pics of finance to properly dispense advice is needed.)
 
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You are 56 and feel the need to "calmly explain to the guy this is not appropriate and then if he has a problem with that expose him to my true feelings out back"?????

Your fiancé should address this issue. She should have already.

(Also, pics of finance to properly dispense advice is needed.)

He's going to be one of "those" husbands.
 
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check out a book called Nonviolent Communication.

Every person has different needs. We are not all the same. You, the lady, and the guy all have different standards in your head of what is considered appropriate behavior. Starting from there, talk things through.

Good luck.
 

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check out a book called Nonviolent Communication.

Every person has different needs. We are not all the same. You, the lady, and the guy all have different standards in your head of what is considered appropriate behavior. Starting from there, talk things through.

Good luck.

Naw, son. The first step is for dude to accept he's in a cuckold relationship and the second step is to buy himself a male chastity device.
 

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