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Good Natured Advice Thread (improving a business wardrobe)

Discussion in 'Classic Menswear' started by Claghorn, Jan 6, 2014.

  1. rms340

    rms340 Senior member

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    +1 to Kira.

    Sorry for the derail Noodlers but I must say I'm proud of myself. 3 posts in 1 day is an all time record for me in my 3 years here on SF. My goal is to finally hit 200 posts before the year ends :bigstar:
     
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    Just wanted to say, I love this thread.
     


  3. DeSense

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    +1 SeaJen

    On the marriage under cultural aspects topic, it boggles my mind when I hear about arranged marriages apparently still being very common in various cultures & circles across the planet. And I'm not talking some remote village in Iceland ("there goes our last female...") or neighbouring farmers exchanging bloodlines, or one blue-blood hitching another, but highly educated, international professionals.
     


  4. Cleav

    Cleav Senior member Dubiously Honored Moderator

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    MF, welcome home man :D
     


  5. Cleav

    Cleav Senior member Dubiously Honored Moderator

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    +2 Seajen

    I do some consultancy work for an organisation and was shocked to learn just a couple of weeks ago that a very nice young woman will be away for 4 weeks as she was to visit India to meet her future husband. I'm not in anyway judgemental re these things, indeed I am very much live and let live. What stunned me is she is third generation British and a very strong assertive person yet clearly the cultural/religious values still hold sway even in 2014.

    My mind boggles
     
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  6. The Noodles

    The Noodles Skid Fu

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    Arranged marriage, as most people know it, is heads of two families coming together and deciding to let their daughter and son get married without their children's consent. Am I right?
     


  7. DeSense

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    Funny enough, my example involved an Indian gent who told me how his and his wife's parents arranged the marriage already when they were pretty young. Not that they had met back then or shared their childhood, far from it.
     
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    I guess 'arranged marriages' can have different definitions. For example, my parents always say that they had an arranged marriage, but no one forced them to marry each other. My dad was working in Saudi Arabia, decided it was time for him to get married, came back home to India. When he got back they went to different girls' houses and met the family and the girl. After seeing about 5 or 6 different women and talking to them he said he was interested in my mom. My mom expressed interest back and they were married within the next week. I have some friends who grew up here in America that did the same sort of thing with girls in India and also had the same set up with girls here in America.

    Sadly I've also heard of the arranged marriage that Cleav speaks of. They have no choice because the families have made the decision for them.

    EDIT: I suppose the first type of arranged marriage I described is kind of like friends setting you up with someone and then you date, and maybe get married. The only difference with our culture is that there's a fast forward button and you go from a set up straight to marriage within a few days/weeks/months.
     
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  9. The Noodles

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  10. DeSense

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    @rms340
    No judgement, it does sound though like the woman not having the most say or choice in it. Or can you imagine the father presenting the candidate to her and she saying "nah, he is not my type"?
     
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  11. Cleav

    Cleav Senior member Dubiously Honored Moderator

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    Just to repeat, you've got to love the diversification on this thread.

    @Claghorn :nodding:
     


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    Thank you, Cleav. It feels good to have a home, especially in such a lovely area:

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    Sadly, time for me to retire for the day/night. Catching up tomorrow. Have fun everyone.
     


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    I'm no expert, but I believe that "arranged marriage" these days exists on a spectrum. At one end, girls are still effectively property (and young men have circumscribed options) and if a girl's father makes a match with another family, she will be married. At the other end, parents with marriage-eligible adult children use their social networks to find suitable matches with a focus on identifying a family that they know and respect; the children are free to reject the match, although they might face varying degrees of pressure from their families. There's a lot of variation in between.

    Noodles, I wouldn't be surprised that if you asked your parents and aunt they would tell you that they had spoken with your wife's family about matching you two before your aunt suggested that you meet with your wife. Some people would call that an arranged marriage.
     


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    Very nice photo, Monkeyface. Here's part of where I live and work.
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