Going on a dinner "date" and would like some advice

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  1. aj0823

    aj0823 New Member

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    I am going on a dinner date this weekend and am relatively new to paying attention to mens fashion. I am a blue collar worker, who outside of my dingy work uniform, have always just been a jeans and t-shirt kind of guy. I'm 37 years old and want to change up my image a bit, and just dress better over all. We are headed to a slightly above average dinner at an Inn on a small lake and I would like to dress well but not overly. I'm a larger framed guy at 6' 210 lbs so finding decent clothes that fit well have always been an issue. and I don't think I want to wear a blazer or sport coat....it just isn't me. I like darker colors. Any suggestions??
     
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    If it's for this weekend, that doesn't give you a lot of time for shopping. Do you already have any dress clothes? It sounds like a basic upgrade for you would be a dress shirt, trousers, and nice shoes. Maybe a light cotton sweater if the weather is cool at night. I wouldn't worry about "men's fashion" so much as getting basics that are of decent quality (for whatever price point you can manage). Good shoes are expensive (>$250) but will do more than anything else to upgrade your look and will last much longer than cheaper shoes. Darker colors work well, but you probably want a lighter shirt (white, light blue, pink or maybe pale yellow) for contrast - avoid darker colored dress shirts.

    Fit problems can be solved with alterations or custom shirts, but you won't have time for that by this weekend. Some brands, like Brooks Brothers, tend to have a roomier cut, so that could work in your favor.
     
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    Should have posted this a week ago....
     
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    I'm not sure how you plan to dress well without a blazer or sport coat.
     
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    Agreed, I should have posted a week ago. I have been shopping for a week already but just don't feel comfortable with what I am finding which is why I posted today. As far as a sport coat goes, do you agree that one should dress within their personality as to not promote something that isn't? Just my thought but.....I could be wrong.
     
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    should have picked/agreed to a different spot for the dinner! at a nice inn, i would at least wear a sports coat...
     
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    Buy a higher end shirt, smart jeans very good shoes and belt.
     
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    Perfect !! Do this "smarten up" thing in stages and as David has suggested or as i would suggest (much along the same lines)

    Casual Shirt
    Chino's in lieu of smart Jeans
    Invest in Decent Shoes
    Belt

    Simply cant go wrong and if you think the evening will go well get some classy underwear !!!!!! :)
     
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    Do NOT wear chinos! Dude is 37 for fukks sake!
     
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    Thank you to the people who have posted helpful responses. There is a reason for this particular inn. It was a place that was frequented with a family member of hers that has fond memories. I just don't feel I should promote myself with a sport coat or blazer if my everyday living is not that style. We met in my work "blues" so she knows who I am as a person. I want to dress well but not outside of "me". To each their own right? :) That is why I posted here was to get some helpful hints...thanks again!!!
     
  11. Master Squirrel

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    I would go to a mid-to-better store and talk with a sales associate. (Best to hit a couple.) A good SA should be able to set you up.

    (Warning: dark colored sateen shirts are out. Unless you are a computer programmer.)
     
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    Nice shirt.....nice loafers.....nice jeans.......v neck if you have one and it will be cool. done.
     
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    Ignore the posts about having to wear a SC / blazer to look good.

    If you're comfortable in jeans then there's loads of ways to smarten it up. Don't wear something you're going to feel self concious in.

    There's loads of great looks over on the MC Casual thread to get you going :nodding:
     
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    Agreed. You will probably be most comfortable in this ensemble. Comfort for you in your clothes means more a more relaxed you.
     
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    and less of a chance the OP fumbles!!!
     

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