!. Love your children and family members equally. Love them for their mistakes. 2. Suggestion is the art of teaching. 3. Dont be overly pissed off when you dont get your own way. In short soft but strong, firm but kind. A group of orphans were once traced to some nuns who brought them up in an oprhanage; despite the terrible poverty of the institution, the childrens often criminal backgrounds, and lack of parents they each became successful well rounded members of society as they grew up. When they found the nun they asked her what her secret was - all she said was 'all I did was love them'. (Also its a great advert for proving 'same sex' guardians can bring up normal children- nuns do it all the time in orphanages round the world). ...anyway, as a great man once said, all you need is love. Simple as.