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Give your best advice to an expecting father

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by gdl203, Nov 10, 2008.

  1. gdl203

    gdl203 Senior member Dubiously Honored Affiliate Vendor

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    D day is approaching fast and I'm looking for words of wisdom for some of you who've been there, beyond the usual parenting/baby book stuff.

    What are your top pieces of advice?

    Special bonus points for fathers of twins giving specific twin advice [​IMG]
     
  2. Dakota rube

    Dakota rube Senior member

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    This won't come into play for you for awhile, but always kneel down and get on an eye-to-eye level with your kids while you are talking to them.
     
  3. globetrotter

    globetrotter Senior member

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    This won't come into play for you for awhile, but always kneel down and get on an eye-to-eye level with your kids while you are talking to them.

    +1 and make sure that they look you in the eye when you are talking to them. run a tight ship.
     
  4. Thomas

    Thomas Senior member

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    No advice but good luck!
     
  5. rach2jlc

    rach2jlc Senior member Dubiously Honored

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    I just thought I should weigh in on this.


    (j/k... Obviously, I can give you no advice, but this is the first i've heard about your impending baby and CONGRATS! Tell your wife I said "omedetou.")
     
  6. gdl203

    gdl203 Senior member Dubiously Honored Affiliate Vendor

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    (j/k... Obviously, I can give you no advice, but this is the first i've heard about your impending babies and CONGRATS! Tell your wife I said "omedetou.")

    Thanks and FTFY
     
  7. rach2jlc

    rach2jlc Senior member Dubiously Honored

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    Thanks and FTFY

    Twins?? WOW! Futago-chan! [​IMG]
     
  8. EnglishGent

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    My advice to any new parents is that you don't need to buy all the gimmicks.
     
  9. TC (Houston)

    TC (Houston) Senior member

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    Take good care of your wife and make sure she gets a few hours to herself at least a few times a week. [​IMG]
     
  10. Dedalus

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    One thing they do not teach you about in those labor and infant care classes is the baby boy boner (BBB). It's not really a big deal, just a little awkward and likely to take you off-guard. But yeah, baby boys get boners just like any other dude.
     
  11. globetrotter

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    get some sleep, have some sex, because it will not happen that much afterwords. seriously, if there are things that you want to do with your wife, just the two of you, do them, now, right now.

    there is a good chance the twins will come early, be ready for that. they may be smaller than other kids, be ready for that, too.

    not to be paranoid, but have a birth plan, and make sure that it is communicated with the medical staff - how your wife wants to be medicated, anything special you want with the babies (will you cut the cord, etc?). what we did, right after the babies were born (well, a few minutes), my mother in law came in to be with the wife, and I stayed with the babies, where ever they went. sure, it a hospital, but I prefer to keep an eye on my kids, just in case. then, when they brought the babies back, I came back. but I stuck to them as long as they were away.

    if you are taking pictures, have everything ready, but you are secondary to the process, so don't get in anybodies way. take a lot of pictures, but don't post anything until your wife vets them.


    wear comfortable clothes with lots of pockets - you may be in them for a while, and the rooms can go from hot to cold quickly.


    make sure that the doctors, and espectially the anesthesiologist, understand that you are rational, serous people. you want them to communicate with you when needed, but don't need them to fill you in with all the stupid details.

    get the twins on the same sleep schedule as quickly as possibe. this is easier said than done, but my wife did it very quickly (maybe 6 weeks) and it was very helpful.

    some women can't breast feed, some take time to get the milk flowing. your job is to shut up and be understanding. it is great if they can do it, very healthy, and frankly it won't do as much damage to your wife's breasts as you may think. but keep in mind that is she can't, it isn't the end of the world and you have to let her know that.


    your wife will be nuts, totally freaking nuts, right before, during and after giving birth, maybe for a month or so after. suck it up. she will have huge amounts of hormones running through her.

    if you can, take a course on birth - but what you must do is watch a movie so that you know what to expect.


    one twin may be bigger. you may like one twin more, sometimes, and sometimes you may like the other one more. one may pick on the other. all part of twins.


    your job is not to be their friend, it is to give them tools to be healthy, successful adults.


    good luck
     
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    Buy two of everything.
     
  13. gdl203

    gdl203 Senior member Dubiously Honored Affiliate Vendor

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    Thanks for the good advice so far (especially you Zach!) and encouraging words
     
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    Thanks for the good advice so far (especially you Zach!) and encouraging words

    seriously, let me know if you have specific twin questions.
     
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    One thing they do not teach you about in those labor and infant care classes is the baby boy boner (BBB). It's not really a big deal, just a little awkward and likely to take you off-guard. But yeah, baby boys get boners just like any other dude.

    LOL, yeah I was definitely surprised by that. Good call.
     
  16. feynmix

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    no advice, but congrats.
     
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    Congrats, gdl203.
     
  18. thinman

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    No advice, but congratulations!!
     
  19. lee_44106

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    Congratulations.

    Becoming a father will change you, for the better. You will realize that you are no longer the most important person in the world. That's a good thing.

    Baby stores are full of gadgets to make you waste money. That's right, WASTE money. You do not need a home bottle warmer, a travel/car bottle warmer, or bottle sanitizer/steamer. A microwave and a pot of boiling water will do the same tricks. And rule of thumb: 12 seconds on 100% power for a four ounce bottle of formula/milk.

    Baby clothes are expensive and they add up. A baby clad in head to toe Burberry is not anymore cuter than one in Walmart attire. Save your money. You will need it when they are older.

    If you value your kids (and you should), start saving for their education. Start NOW.

    Good luck. Also +100 on what every father has said so far.
     
  20. Douglas

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    Thanks for posting this, gdl. I too have my first little one on the way. Mazel Tov to you and I will be peering over the shoulder at this thread, too.
     

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