Incman
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Kind of a tricky situation, not quite sure what I should do. I'll try to keep it brief.
My new girlfriend (2 months or so), still lives with her ex-boyfriend at the moment, due to being a) completely broke and in debt, and b) unable to find an affordable place yet with her mom or a friend. They were in a long-term relationship (5 years or so), but for the last year or so, she's been trying to leave him because he's a 26 year old stoner with no prospects besides minimum wage jobs, but didn't/couldn't because of the financial situation. Well about 5 or 6 months ago she finally pulled the trigger and broke up with him, although it was pretty much just a formality because for all intents and purposes they've been "broken up" for a year or so.
Anyways, he's still madly in love with her, and obsessive/unstable on occasion. So today she calls me before work and says he left her a note saying something along the lines of "I'm gonna **** his throat, chop him up and cut his dick off" (talking about me), and she said in the past he's had episodes where he blacks out from anger and goes crazy. He's never done anything to anyone, and he's a wanna-be rapper/tough guy, but his instability and anger issues still provide cause for concern. Not to mention his apartment is right across the street from my work.
The point of this thread is to ask for recommendations as to what I could/should do to keep myself safe in the event that he does try to do something. (He would never lay a hand on my GF, that's why I didn't mention that). I told her to grab the note before she left for work, and she's going to bring it over tonight when she comes over and I'm going to file a police report.
But, I'm not really worried about the legal aspects of it, I'm more worried about what to do in the in the immediate moment if he decides to come to my work out of nowhere and try to do something. A restraining order is obviously useful/necessary, but won't do anything to physically stop someone from doing something. For information purposes, we're about the same size...I've got a couple inches on him and he's got a couple pounds on me, and I am much stronger than him (as mentioned by my girlfriend many times previously in casual conversation).
Also, leaving her is not an option, I've recently fallen in love with her, and I can see us being together for many years to come.
TL;DR: Girlfriend's crazy ex-bf is making death threats...what should I do to protect myself in the event he tries to come to my work and blindside me?
My new girlfriend (2 months or so), still lives with her ex-boyfriend at the moment, due to being a) completely broke and in debt, and b) unable to find an affordable place yet with her mom or a friend. They were in a long-term relationship (5 years or so), but for the last year or so, she's been trying to leave him because he's a 26 year old stoner with no prospects besides minimum wage jobs, but didn't/couldn't because of the financial situation. Well about 5 or 6 months ago she finally pulled the trigger and broke up with him, although it was pretty much just a formality because for all intents and purposes they've been "broken up" for a year or so.
Anyways, he's still madly in love with her, and obsessive/unstable on occasion. So today she calls me before work and says he left her a note saying something along the lines of "I'm gonna **** his throat, chop him up and cut his dick off" (talking about me), and she said in the past he's had episodes where he blacks out from anger and goes crazy. He's never done anything to anyone, and he's a wanna-be rapper/tough guy, but his instability and anger issues still provide cause for concern. Not to mention his apartment is right across the street from my work.
The point of this thread is to ask for recommendations as to what I could/should do to keep myself safe in the event that he does try to do something. (He would never lay a hand on my GF, that's why I didn't mention that). I told her to grab the note before she left for work, and she's going to bring it over tonight when she comes over and I'm going to file a police report.
But, I'm not really worried about the legal aspects of it, I'm more worried about what to do in the in the immediate moment if he decides to come to my work out of nowhere and try to do something. A restraining order is obviously useful/necessary, but won't do anything to physically stop someone from doing something. For information purposes, we're about the same size...I've got a couple inches on him and he's got a couple pounds on me, and I am much stronger than him (as mentioned by my girlfriend many times previously in casual conversation).
Also, leaving her is not an option, I've recently fallen in love with her, and I can see us being together for many years to come.
TL;DR: Girlfriend's crazy ex-bf is making death threats...what should I do to protect myself in the event he tries to come to my work and blindside me?