gift suggestion for a recommender

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  1. Tibo

    Tibo Senior member

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    Hi all,

    I'd like to have fellow forumers' advice on this. I am applying to B-school and met the chairman of my preferred b-school's national alumni association in a professional setting last year.

    This year, I asked him if he would provide me with a recommendation letter. He accepted and did it.

    Now I'm a little bit confused. Should I make him a gift ? I'm enclined to think I should, but I want to be sure it'll not be misinterpreted.

    If I do give him a gift, what would you suggest ? Safe bet=wine or champagne. Any idea of the value of the gift ?

    Thanks for your help

    Tibo
     


  2. Mr. Checks

    Mr. Checks Senior member

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    I wouldn't send a gift.

    A letter of thanks, yes.
     


  3. lee_44106

    lee_44106 Senior member

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    Don't send a gift. Send a hand-written thank you note.
     


  4. Britalian

    Britalian Senior member

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    Should I make him a gift ?
    Is this verb form... normal in modern US English? Just curious. Reminds me of Italians speaking English. If so, how long have Americans been using this verb in this form? Oh, unless you actually mean MAKE him a gift as in 'handicrafts'; not sure. Sorry. Just realised location. And spelling.
     


  5. acidboy

    acidboy Senior member

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    another vote for no gifts. call him up, instead and thank him personally.
     


  6. drizzt3117

    drizzt3117 Senior member

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    I think a thank-you letter will suffice, although if it's someone that you're acquainted with beyond a casual meeting then a small gift may be appropriate. I've sometimes given small gifts like a bottle of wine or box of chocolates (which usually goes over very well for people with children).
     


  7. Tibo

    Tibo Senior member

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    Sorry. Just realised location. And spelling.

    Like in ? [​IMG]

    That being said, it's true that "make a gift" is a very bad, literal translation from my native language (ie French).
     


  8. Tibo

    Tibo Senior member

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    OK, let's go for the thank you letter then.
    Thanks for your suggestions!
     


  9. Britalian

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    like in: enclined/inclined
     


  10. Tibo

    Tibo Senior member

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    like in: enclined/inclined
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