FYI: Divorce sux

[Frihed89]

Yes, indeed. I would look inside myself to find and understand my contribution to the break-up; acknowledge to myself my responsibility in the matter; and try not to let it happen again in future relationships.

 

[Nereis]

Welcome to the result of thinking that a vow means anything these days.

 

[Dakota rube]

Bummer, Mark.

 

[imageWIS]

Originally Posted by Mark from Plano

Sadly for me, she is her lawyer...therefore no legal fees for her, just me if I decide to fight things. FML.

And to think, I helped financed the startup of her practice and was her biggest source of clients.

At which point you should threaten her with something more powerful than the law: mortal harm.

 

[itsstillmatt]

Originally Posted by imageWIS

At which point you should threaten her with something more powerful than the law: mortal harm.
You wonder why you are still a virgin.

 

[Piobaire]

Mark, sorry to hear this. Hopefully it will end when the kids hit the age of majority? Not the wrangling but at least the legal wrangling?

Stay strong, enjoy your "interests."

 

[philosophe]

Ouch. Sorry to hear the bad news, Mark.

 

[Incman]

Just read this thread for the first time. My condolences go out to all the parties involved.

As an 18 year old who has watched his parents get divorced when I was 2, then both got re-married (to other people), shortly thereafter, and then both eventually got divorced from their respective second spouses, I can safely say I will never be getting married in my lifetime. The potential downsides (everything in this thread), vastly outweigh the potential upsides (erm...a shiny ring?).

I am certainly not against a long term/ lifelong relationship, but I find the concept of marriage to be very anachronistic, and not very useful outside of a religious context (which is irrelevant to me as I am an atheist). If two people love each other and want to be together for the rest of their lives, then there is no need for a piece of paper to say that. (See: Gene Simmons and his girlfriend of 20 something years. They are perfectly happy together, and have 2 kids. There is no need for an arbitrary agreement to make things harder should they ever decide to break it off).

Also, in the situation where the the two people decide that they aren't going to be able to be together anymore (as in Mark's unfortunate case), the lack of arbitrary ties makes it easier and less messy to break it off.

I understand that I have been jaded by the events in my life, but situations like my own are not uncommon in our world, and it doesn't seem like something I will be eager to subject myself to when the time comes.

 

[voxsartoria]

It is probably as much about still being attached to you as it is about money.

Good thoughts for an amicable outcome.


- B

 

[Lighthouse]

Women initiate most divorces. Somehow they got it into their head that marriage is about being entertained.

 

[dtmt]

Originally Posted by Incman

Just read this thread for the first time. My condolences go out to all the parties involved.

As an 18 year old who has watched his parents get divorced when I was 2, then both got re-married (to other people), shortly thereafter, and then both eventually got divorced from their respective second spouses, I can safely say I will never be getting married in my lifetime. The potential downsides (everything in this thread), vastly outweigh the potential upsides (erm...a shiny ring?).

I am certainly not against a long term/ lifelong relationship, but I find the concept of marriage to be very anachronistic, and not very useful outside of a religious context (which is irrelevant to me as I am an atheist). If two people love each other and want to be together for the rest of their lives, then there is no need for a piece of paper to say that. (See: Gene Simmons and his girlfriend of 20 something years. They are perfectly happy together, and have 2 kids. There is no need for an arbitrary agreement to make things harder should they ever decide to break it off).

Also, in the situation where the the two people decide that they aren't going to be able to be together anymore (as in Mark's unfortunate case), the lack of arbitrary ties makes it easier and less messy to break it off.

I understand that I have been jaded by the events in my life, but situations like my own are not uncommon in our world, and it doesn't seem like something I will be eager to subject myself to when the time comes.

Not sure if this exists in Canada, but in our lovely country a woman can still financially ruin you after simply living together for a few years due to what's known as common law marriage.

 

[deadly7]

Originally Posted by Incman

vastly outweigh the potential upsides (erm...a shiny ring?).

Erm. ...There's a lot more than that.

 

[matt22616]

Originally Posted by deadly7

Erm. ...There's a lot more than that.

Federal income taxation FTW.

 

[Nereis]

Taxation benefits don't outweigh the costs of her getting half of everything you own once you accept the reality that you have a 50% chance of getting divorced.

 

[matt22616]

Originally Posted by Nereis

Taxation benefits don't outweigh the costs of her getting half of everything you own once you accept the reality that you have a 50% chance of getting divorced.

Pre-nup FTW. *product of broken home*